Sermon Tone Analysis

Intro: We’re back in 2 Samuel we’ve been following the life of one of the greatest men in all the Bible…King David…now with that said, we are portion of his life where If David Public Image consultant, they would go to great lengths to bury these records…Because it’s been full of David’s Failure’s as a King, as a Father, and as a Man of God...

This testifies to the authenticity of Bible…It is brutally honest honest with it’s Hero’s

Abraham struggled to protect his wife

Moses was a killer

Paul had

Jacob played favorites with his kids

Samuel wasn’t the best dad in the world

And David pretty much all of those things going on

And Yet God would use them greatly...

1 cor 1:

and last week we between Israel led by Absalom and David’s men which resulted in Absalom’s death...

and last week we witnessed a war between Israel led by Absalom and David’s men which resulted in Absalom’s death...

and last week we between Israel led by Absalom and David’s men which resulted in Absalom’s death...

On hearing the news about Absalom we read this...

2 sam :

So here we have the scene, David has gone from exiled King to grieving Father...

He was grieving because as wicked as Absalom was he was still David’s son, and now matter how far our kids wonder, no matter deep their decent…their still our kids and their is a larger portion of our hearts that they take with them on their journey

He was grieving because He knew that his sin was the soil in which Absalom’s sin and eventual would come out of....

With all that said, Absalom is dead, and now it’s time for the David to return to Jerusalem and to his throne

(Prop) Today we’re gonna follow this passage in 2 movments

We’re gonna talk about the King’s grief v.1-7

We’re gonna talk about the King’s graciousness v.8-15

A picture of grief v.1-7

So Let’s talk about Joab for a second, because he’s had a lot to do with whats going on here…as he’s the reason Absalom came back, and he’s the one who killed Absalom

Joab is David’s complicated Nephew and it’s hard to get a gage on him, he’s has a heart thats loyal to David one min and then in the next he’s proving himself to disloyal and unpredictable...

And He showed himself more unpredictable by killing absalom even after David clearly said “Deal gently with Absalom”

Here’s a question: Why did he do that?…the

more I’ve thought about it the more I realized their was a point of change in Joab relationship with David

Here’s the point...

2 sam 11:14

He knew something about David that possibly no one but the Lord and those two mean knew…David sent orders to Joab for the Murder of Uriah the Husband of Bathsheba

I believe this changed the way Joab looked at David

App: The Effects of sin are so much greater then you could ever imagine...

So lets read all of this again...

2 sam 19:

So after receiving the news about the kings about the king’s great grief, so he goes up to the chamber where David was mourning and He doesn’t console him, he actually rebukes him…His grief was having an adverse effect on the people...

This speaks to us about 2 things

As the Leader goes…the People go

2 SAM 19:

2 sam 19:4

You know, Joab could have been grieving and this wouldn’t have happened, Abishi could have been grieving and this wouldn’t have happened…but David’s grief changed an entire nation

This makes me think of Harod chapter 2 when he heard news about Jesus’ birth

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We see it…as the leader goes…so does the people

Wether it’s a business, a church, a family, if the Leader is the troubled, those under him or her will be as well.

App: Pray for your leaders

Help them

Minister to your leaders

App: If your a leader your spiritual and emotional health is important…so we must do what needs to be done try and address the issue

Because David was so strong and brilliant in the art of war

Be honest

Let’s pick it

Be around people who can speak into your life help you see your blindspots

Here’s the 2nd thing...

Grief

Grief is a powerful thing

David’s grief changed his men’s victory into mourning v.2

David’s grief alienated him from those who loved him and were there to help him v.5, 6,

David’s grief was gonna cause issues in the future v.7

This portion talks to us about the power of grief…so we’re gonna talk about grief for a min

Grief is natural and at times appropriate

The Ability to grieve is a part of being made in the image of God…

Jesus was grieved of Lazarus, he wept over the Jerusalem

To grieve and Mourn to is human

There are obvious seasons where grief is not only human it’s needed...

“God didn’t create the tear duct to simply moisten the eye…but as a release valve for the heart”

Excessive grief can be unhealthy

David was greiving an inappropriate amount for Absalom considering the circumstances…and it had become detrimental for those around him...

Great example of this is Samuel

Notice that God didn’t say “why are you crying”…he simply said…it’s time to stop crying…because I’m not done with you

You might say that a part of Samuel’s grief would have kept bound to that moment, never moving forward…But God said…It’s time to move forward

It’s not about being fake about your feelings…it’s about not being enslaved to them

Some wisdom for those who are grieving

I am leery whenever we talk about things like this some of you have lost very close loved one…

but here’s the a few wisdom pieces on this...

Give yourself time to grieve

I’ve seen some do this naturally, and I’ve seen others throw themselves into the next new thing…which doesn’t cure the grief, it just covers the grief and when it boils to the surface it’s 10 times more passionate

Find comfort in God’s promises

The bible says believers who we’ve lost can grieve with hope

The bible says believers who we’ve lost can grieve with hope

Jesus never said we would be shielded from things like pain, sickness, loss…He said he would overcome them...

It’s Human to mourn, it’s human, to cry, but as christians, we don’t mourn the way the world mourns…we grieve with hope

Our hope Is Jesus Christ and his resurrection

Here’s Paul talking about Jesus’ resurrection and what that means for those who have put their faith in Jesus for salvation...

Losing someone on this side of eternity must be the single most painful event one can experience…but the sting of that loss

How do you deal with grief?

Be honest about it

Some people are struggling

“Some Christians sorrow at times in death and tragedy like those who have no hope in God and this is a wrong thing to do.

If your dear one’s are dead, you can not restore them to life by your unbelief, and if they still survive, it would be a pity to be downcast and unbelieving when there is no occasion for it.

your strength is to sit still, remember you are a Christian and a Christian is expected to be more self possessed than those who have no God to fly too.”

“Some Christians sorrow at times in death and tragedy like those who have no hope in God and this is a wrong thing to do.

If your dear one’s are dead, you can not restore them to life by your unbelief, and if they still survive, it would be a pity to be downcast and unbelieving when there is no occasion for it.

your strength is to sit still, remember you are a Christian and a Christian is expected to be more self possessed than those who have no God to fly too.”

Comfort others

Let God redeem that lost or that tragedy by now using it as a launching board to ministry to others...

2 cor 1:3-

Utilize others

Utilize others

Understand you that don’t need to just be on the giving end…you need to receive as well