Real-lationships
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// RECAP
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Series: Spiritual Habits
Week 1: We Need to Talk
Week 1: We Need to Talk
Prayer is Communication with God
We need to pray God’s will over our lives, not our own
Pray to be Unshaken & Unafraid - prayer is the key to defeating anxiety
Week 2: Faith Unshaken
Week 2: Faith Unshaken
Faith is active trust and belief display through obedience
Faith & Works come together; if you have faith you will do works (obedience)
Faith recognizes that God is in authority
Faith impresses God
Faith grows through:
Testing
Asking
Hearing
Week 3: True & Free
Week 3: True & Free
Truth is something it’s someone
Truth is spiritual - we only know truth because of the Spirit of Truth (Holy Spirit)
Truth brings peace to fear & anxiety - what’s there to be afraid of if you know the truth?
Know truth by reading your Bible and activating your salvation
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// INTRO
// INTRO
Title: Real-lationships
In our social media driven culture, it’s easy to have many connections but no real relationship.
Jesus quotes Isaiah...
6 And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written, “ ‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me;
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The people of Jesus day would say they had a relationship with God, but really they just knew about God.
Knowing about someone and knowing someone are different.
Examine how we can have Real Relationships that will last!
1. Have Boundaries
1. Have Boundaries
“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to sense of ownership.”
- Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Define Your Relationship
Define Your Relationship
“I’m glad we have so much in common, especially our epic ability to slay in Fortnite.”
Establish Boundaries
Establish Boundaries
“We should play online three times a week. Let’s start next Saturday.”
specific time & place is established
without proper and specific boundaries, someone may come on too strong or not strong enough in the relationship
Reinforce Limitations
Reinforce Limitations
“I’m sorry I can’t play four times a week, my parents only allow me three times a week.”
we all forget sometimes; it’s okay to remind people of your limitations
Maintain Boundaries
Maintain Boundaries
“We will have to accomplish the mission next week when I can’t get back online.”
the moment that your boundaries are broken or flexed, they will not be the same until you re-establish them
2. Assume Positive Intent
2. Assume Positive Intent
As humans, our sin nature makes us want to question everything
Adam and Eve in the garden with the serpent, “Did God really say?”
Negative intent creates:
Gossip
Bad Thoughts
Jealousy
Jealousy
Positive intent creates:
Trust
Confidence
Opportunity
6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith;
Romans 12:16-18
16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.
Positive intent at Apple
Apple Positive Intent - repairs on damaged devices
3. Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt
3. Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt
- repairs on damaged devices
says, “love never ends”
that means, no matter what road blocks or detours come in your relationship we are called to love!
What does this mean?
You continue to love that person
You do not need to keep them close in your life
By loving someone, you are ultimately pointing them back to Jesus
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 18 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation;
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
If someone is in Christ they should be active in the ministry (service) of reconciliation
But, you don’t understand...
I don’t understand how a jacked up sinner like myself could still be loved by a God who has never done anything wrong.
What I know, is that He told me to love like He first loved me!
It Takes Time
It Takes Time
Hurt doesn’t happen overnight and love to overcome it wont be fulfilled overnight.
broken trust takes time to mend itself
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
It’s going to take time - but there’s no limit to how long you are to love others.
1 Let brotherly love continue.
You Won’t Forget, but you can Remember Differently
You Won’t Forget, but you can Remember Differently
Joseph and his brothers reconcile
17 When the sun had gone down and it was dark, behold, a smoking fire pot and a flaming torch passed between these pieces.
17 ‘Say to Joseph, “Please forgive the transgression of your brothers and their sin, because they did evil to you.” ’ And now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father.” Joseph wept when they spoke to him.
20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.
God is able to use something bad for our good!
God is able to use pain to grow us!
4. Serve Others First
4. Serve Others First
23 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
Colossians 3:23-24
When you serve others, you are ultimately serving God!
Jesus Washes the Disciples Feet
Jesus Washes the Disciples Feet
Foot washing was the duty of the lowest servant in the house
He rose from dinner - got uncomfortable
Laid aside his garments - this wasn’t about His position
He prepared the water and took a towel
Jesus could’ve had a servant prep the water, and simply wiped a couple dirty feet to give the “image of a servant”
Instead, Jesus was a complete servant!
This was an extreme act of servanthood. According to the Jewish laws and traditions regarding the relationship between a teacher and his disciples, a teacher had no right to demand or expect that his disciples would wash his feet. How much more unthinkable was it that the Master would wash His disciple’s feet?
Serving Others Practically
Serving Others Practically
Help Your Family (chores for money doesn’t count)
Send an encouraging note to someone (leave it in their locker)
Listen (don’t always be the one talking)
Ask God for opportunities to serve
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Dirty
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Dirty
“Good relationships are like a juicy watermelon; messy & wonderful!”
33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
Jesus said, hard times are going to happen.
We are messy people, so shouldn’t we expect that our relationships will also be messy?
17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Prob 17:17
17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
It’s the messy areas of life that keep us humble and build trust with others.
// CONCLUSION
// CONCLUSION
“Two things you will never have to chase: True friends & true love.”
― Mandy Hale
― Mandy Hale
Paul says in Romans...
9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
If we are outdoing one another in showing honor, serving others, and loving like we’ve never been hurt, our relationships will become real.
No longer will we hide behind the walls we put up to “protect” ourselves.
Huddles
Huddles
Students can drive the conversation with which topic(s) resonated with them the most.
Boundaries
Boundaries
Recap: Setting Up Proper Boundaries
Define Your Relationship
Establish Boundaries
Reinforce Limitations
Maintain Boundaries
Without boundaries we don’t know when a line has been crossed until it’s too late.
Positive Intent
Positive Intent
16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Positive Intent falls strictly in your hands - only you can choose to have positive intent about someone else.
Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt
Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Remember Differently
Bad things are inevitable, they will happen! Even though bad things have happened, we don’t have to forget them, but we can choose to remember them differently.
Serve Others First
Serve Others First
When you serve others, you are ultimately serving God!
What are some practical ways you can serve those in your life?
Examples from the message:
Help Your Family (chores for money doesn’t count)
Send an encouraging note to someone (leave it in their locker)
Listen (don’t always be the one talking)
Ask God for opportunities to serve
Don’t Be Afraid to get Dirty
Don’t Be Afraid to get Dirty
“Good relationships are like a juicy watermelon; messy & wonderful!”
When you think about your best friends, would be as close as you are if things didn’t get a little messy?