Biblical Parenting
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Common Ground
Common Ground
Every child is a gift from the Lord.
Every parent is a steward of their child(ren).
Steward = God given responsibility with accountability.
Each parent is under the headship of Christ as our creator, redeemer, and king.
Parents are NOT the final authority of their children.
Parenting is a great opportunity for discipleship.
Example: - the first generation of Israelites who grew up in the Promised Land ‘knew neither the Lord nor what he had done for Israel’.
Common Struggles
Common Struggles
Having a “Parent-Centered” or “Child-Centered” home:
Having a “Parent-Centered” or “Child-Centered” home:
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.
Defining a Parent-Centered home:
“When they fail to live up to your expectations, we find ourselves not grieving for them or fighting for them, but angry at them, fighting against them, and, in fact, grieving ourselves and our loss.”
Paul Tripp - Age of Opportunity
Elements of a Parent-Centered home:
Pride - The parent is always right or is very slow to admit one’s fault and seek forgiveness.
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.
Pro
Control - expecting children to obey them, but the parent disobeys authority (God’s, etc.).
Hypocritical - expecting children to behave one way, but justifying one’s own behavior.
Busy - neglecting to get any time with each child.
Inconsistency - enforcing rules and corrections one day, but not the next.
Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find?
Self-Centered - all decisions and choices are totally based on the parent and his or her wishes.
Impatience - the idea that “I want my child to do RIGHT NOW!
Expectations - the child has to be, do, and become everything the parents expect of them.
Idolatry - parents making the desires of their heart more important than pleasing God.
“You shall have no other gods before me.
What are some possible “idols of the heart” for parents?
comfort
respect
appreciation
success (spiritual, educational, athletic, occupational)
control
How do you know when something is an idol of your heart?
How do you respond when you don’t get what you want?
Are you willing to sin in order to get what you want?
Defining a Child-Centered home:
“A child-centered home is one in which a child believes and is allowed to behave as though the entire household, parents, siblings, and even pets exist for one purpose = to please them.”
Lou Priolo - The Heart of Anger
Elements of a Child-Centered home:
No Consequences - a child clearly sins and the parent allows them to get away with it.
Manipulation - a child reacts in anger, clams-up, or cries to get what they want.
Selfishness - the child gets whatever they want (it’s all about them, not others).
Demanding - the child insists that things be done their way and when they want.
Priorities - the child becomes more important than one’s spouse.
Responsibilities - the child has no responsibilities (parents do it all for the child).
Communication - the child tells the parent what to do as if the child is equal or in charge.
Never Offended - the parents do all they can to not offend their child.
Elements of more severe parent/child-centered homes:
Abusive situations: physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
Step-family issues (as a result of divorce or sexual involvement prior to marriage)
Drug and/or alcohol abuse by the child
Suicidal children
Sexual problems (internet, actual sexual relations, and other sexual disorders)
Legal violations by the parent and/or the children
Common Solution
Common Solution
Having a “God-Centered” home:
Having a “God-Centered” home:
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.
Deu 6
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
2 Tim
But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
The characteristics of a God-centered home
Definition of a God-Centered home:
“The concept of a God-centered home is derived from the biblical principle that the purpose of every Christian is to glorify God. In contrast to a child-centered home, where pleasing and serving the child is the dominant theme, the God-centered home is one in which everyone is committed to pleasing in serving God. God's desires are exalted over everyone else's. Everyone in the family may be expected to sacrifice personal pleasure if God’s will requires it. This philosophy teaches children to serve rather than to be served, to honor rather then be honored, to give or be loving rather than take.”
The concept of a God centered home is derived from the biblical principle that the purpose of every Christian is to glorify God. In contrast to a child centered home, where pleasing and serving the child is the dominant theme, the God centered home is one in which everyone is committed to pleasing in serving God. God's desires are exalted over everyone else's. Everyone in the family may be expected to sacrifice personal pleasure if God’s will requires it. This philosophy teaches children to serve rather than to be served, to honor rather then be honored, to give or be loving rather than take.
Lou Priolo - The Heart of Anger
Elements of a God-Centered home:
Truth Observing - the source of truth (inspired and sufficient Word of God).
and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
Worship Giving - loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength and loving others.
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
Glorify God - by thinking and acting like Christ.
and behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,
For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him.
Gospel Proclaiming - who Christ is and who you are in Christ.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.
Heart Transforming - dealing with issues of the heart, not simply outward behavior.
For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
God Glorifying - by thinking and acting like Christ.
and behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,
For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him.
Results of a God-Centered home
Right view of self.
Right view of others.
love them
serve them
Common Steps
Common Steps
Moving Toward a “God-Centered” home:
Moving Toward a “God-Centered” home:
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
There is hope for parents because God has revealed many truths about parenting.
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,
Parents should seek to bring glory to God by fulfilling the mission to which God has called them.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Common Struggles
Common Solution
Common Steps - application 1
God has given the responsibility particularly to the fathers
A wife and mother play an important part in the process of parenting.
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching,
My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching.
We should be sensitive to single moms or single dads who do this on their own.
Pray for them and their children.
Mentor their children (individual men/women connected to each child).
Encourage them and their children on a regular basis.
Obey God's command of “… do not provoke your children to anger”
This command does not mean a parent is to never oppose, deny, cross, or upset the child.
His father had never at any time displeased him by asking, “Why have you done thus and so?” He was also a very handsome man, and he was born next after Absalom.
And I declare to him that I am about to punish his house forever, for the iniquity that he knew, because his sons were blaspheming God, and he did not restrain them.
This command does imply a child is not to be brought up in any angry, impulsive lifestyle.
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
There are examples of how a child's sinful anger might be expressed.
Anger can take the form of open rebellion against any authority.
Anger can take the form of stubbornness, passive resentment, apathy, indifference, halfhearted performance and/or silence.
There are several ways a parent can avoid provoking their children to anger.
Make sure there is no tension between the parents (solve problems biblically).
Make sure there is no tension between the parents (solve problems biblically).
Control your anger and avoid abusive words, tones, and abusive correction.
Build involvement with and give attention to the child (develop godly relationships).
Edify the child (avoid being overly critical).
Be a good listener and communicator (don't answer a matter before you hear it).
Understand that not every thought or action is sin, or a major issue in life.
Help the child understand the difference between Scripture and house rules.
Avoid having too many rules and always changing the rules.
Obey God's command to “…bring them up in the instruction of the Lord”
Parents need to realize that if they don't teach their children, then somebody will!
The proverbs of Solomon, son of David, king of Israel: To know wisdom and instruction, to understand words of insight, to receive instruction in wise dealing, in righteousness, justice, and equity; to give prudence to the simple, knowledge and discretion to the youth—
Parents need to provide biblical instruction to their children.
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.
To value truth
who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Commands
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.
Wisdom
For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding; he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a shield to those who walk in integrity, guarding the paths of justice and watching over the way of his saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity, every good path; for wisdom will come into your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul; discretion will watch over you, understanding will guard you, delivering you from the way of evil, from men of perverted speech, who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness,
Boundaries
But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.
Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble.
Results
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.
To love the Lord
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.
To worship the Lord
Worship the Lord in the splendor of holiness; tremble before him, all the earth!
To glorify God
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
To accept, appreciate, and proclaim the Gospel
And all that generation also were gathered to their fathers. And there arose another generation after them who did not know the Lord or the work that he had done for Israel.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.
To understand the heart of man
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts!
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?
For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.
Parents need to take advantage of the many occasions of teaching a child.
Special circumstances, events and times
And Joshua said to them, “Pass on before the ark of the Lord your God into the midst of the Jordan, and take up each of you a stone upon his shoulder, according to the number of the tribes of the people of Israel, that this may be a sign among you. When your children ask in time to come, ‘What do those stones mean to you?’ then you shall tell them that the waters of the Jordan were cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it passed over the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. So these stones shall be to the people of Israel a memorial forever.”
Daily life situations:
Response to authority
Response to authority
Being a servant versus being selfish
Handling temptations
Developing a work ethic
Controlling the tongue
Controlling one's thoughts
Learning to love others
Committed to a local church
Using one's spiritual gifts
Living and proclaiming the gospel
Parents need to use a variety of methods in teaching each child.
Questions and answers
that this may be a sign among you. When your children ask in time to come, ‘What do those stones mean to you?’ then you shall tell them that the waters of the Jordan were cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it passed over the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. So these stones shall be to the people of Israel a memorial forever.”
Formal teaching during your family time
Informal times
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
Parents need to be an example of Christ to each child
What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
Common Correction
Common Correction
Reinforcing a “God-Centered” home:
Reinforcing a “God-Centered” home:
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
2 Tim 3.14-17
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Today’s Culture
1 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, 4 treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.
2 Tim 3:
Strategic Encouragement in Today’s Culture
14 But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it 15 and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
Obey God's command to “…bring them up in the DISCIPLINE and instruction of the Lord”
2 Tim
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Eph
This phrase refers to the upbringing, training and instruction of a child, particularly by act, discipline and correction.
This phrase refers to the upbringing, training and instruction of a child, particularly by act, discipline and correction.
It involves providing boundaries for a child and penalties for going beyond the boundaries.
The goals are character development and equipping for life in a world full of boundaries.
God uses this kind of training with his children.
5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” 7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
30 That is why many of you are weak and ill, and some have died. 31 But if we judged ourselves truly, we would not be judged. 32 But when we are judged by the Lord, we are disciplined so that we may not be condemned along with the world.
God prescribes this kind of training for our children.
24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
15 Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep, and an idle person will suffer hunger.
6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. 14 If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. 16 When the wicked increase, transgression increases, but the righteous will look upon their downfall. 17 Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
Parents promote a well-disciplined lifestyle and at least four ways:
Modeling
5 because our gospel came to you not only in word, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit and with full conviction. You know what kind of men we proved to be among you for your sake. 6 And you became imitators of us and of the Lord, for you received the word in much affliction, with the joy of the Holy Spirit,
9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
Training
7 Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather train yourself for godliness; 8 for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.
14 But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.
Motivation
Motivation
11 For you know how, like a father with his children, 12 we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.
Chastising
Chastising
5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” 7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. 12 Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees,
For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.”
24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Kinds of corrective discipline
Kinds of corrective discipline?
Logical consequences
10 For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.
11 And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. 12 And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. 13 Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living. 14 And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. 16 And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. 17 “But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants.” ’ 20 And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. 21 And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ 22 But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. 23 And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate.
Experience the fruit of sin
19 Your evil will chastise you, and your apostasy will reprove you. Know and see that it is evil and bitter for you to forsake the Lord your God; the fear of me is not in you, declares the Lord God of hosts.
22 The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
7 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.
Jer 2.10
Additional work
Loss of privileges and rewards
Rod of man
14 I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son. When he commits iniquity, I will discipline him with the rod of men, with the stripes of the sons of men,
2 Sam
14 I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son. When he commits iniquity, I will discipline him with the rod of men, with the stripes of the sons of men,
3 For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, 4 for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.
Corporal punishment = used when the child is deliberately defiant or disobedient
Practical suggestions on the use of the Rod.
Parental communication should happen prior to any discipline while none is needed and agreement should be reached so that discipline can be applied in unity with one another.
Give clear instructions beforehand; eye contact is important.
One warning only (clearly and do not count). They should never think that there is a protected zone for the parent is unable to control their behavior.
They should never think that there is a protected zone for the parent is unable to control their behavior.
Discipline the child alone. Establish personal responsibility. (e.g. ask, “what did you do? What should you have done? Who were you trying to please? What does God call what you did?”).
Explain the spiritual issues involved. Be sure they know your determination to be biblical.
Express personal grief. The stronger you need to discipline, the stronger you need to express love for the child and concern for their future.
Use a neutral object and spank until they cry softly and repentantly.
A rebellious scream or fighting will be cause for additional discipline.
Use enough force and swats to accomplish training.
The same parent who disciplines should also comfort later and use the time to teach.
Help the child clear his conscience with God and appropriate people.
Evaluate later. Seek forgiveness when you have disciplined improperly.
Do not use corporal punishment in a public setting.
5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” 7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. 12 Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, 13 and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.
5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” 7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
12 Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, 13 and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.
5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” 7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. 12 Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees,
24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Resources
Resources
Tripp, Ted. Shepherding A Child’s Heart. Wapwallopen, PA: Shepherd Press, 1995.
Baucham Jr., Voddie. Family Driven Faith. Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 2007.
Stinson, Randy, and Timothy Paul Jones. Trained in the Fear of God. Grand Rapids: Kregel Academic. 2011
Wright, Steve, with Chris Graves. Apparent Privilege. Wake Forest, NC. Inquest Ministries, Inc. 2008
Rapids: Kregel Academic.
Inquest Ministries, Inc.