DO's and Dont's For Dad's
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Introduction:
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Fathers day is a special day for us to celebrate our dad’s.
and dad’s there is no
I am so thankful for a dad who taught me how to follow Jesus, and I hope that someday my kids will look back and say The reason I’m follow Jesus today is because my dad followed Him when I was a kid. .
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Dad’s we have a ginormous job to do. God has given us a task of leading our families and raising our children up in the Lord so that we can send them out into the world as adults who want to follow Jesus with their own lives.
This morning I want our time together to be fairly simple but packed full of Bible Truth
Dad’s This one is for US!
I WANT US TO LOOK AT THE DO’s AND DONT’S FOR DAD’s
Maybe I’m a little strange dad’s but I love Checklist.
I Like looking at the big picture and then making a list of all the steps I need to take to accomplish my goal.
Case and point on my phone I use an app called “to do list”
Show Picture of my to do list on slide
To prove my point that I really like checklist heres a picture from Friday of my phone app
Jasons todo has 31 tasks that need to be completed in it. Our trip to Alaska has 51 things that need to be checked off before we leave on Tuesday’
CONTINUE WITH THE SCREED SHOT ON THE Power point
Open your Bibles with me to 1 Timothy Chapter 6 where we will see a checklist of does and dont’s that we as dads must follow in our lives if we are going to teach our children how to follow Jesus
Dad’s, there is one thing that is always true for every one of our lives.
We are all teaching our children something. Our kids wath us and we are setting them an example to follow.
Think about it
The dad who is never around is teaching his children that they don’t matter to him.
The dad who pushes his kids in in sports and gets angry at the refs when things do go his way is teaching his children to win at all cost
The dad who consistently skips church to hang out at the lake is teaching his children that recreation is more important than the body of Christ.
The dad who cheats on his wife is teaching his children that relationships are about your own pleasure and not about a life long commitment.
Dad’s we are responsible to teach our children
Background- Paul in our passage is speaking to Timothy His spiritual son and He is giving Timothy a warning of the Do’s and Dont’s of teaching others.
And Dad’s If we will follow the truths of this passage in our parenting, We will raise up children who not only Love God but will understand His love for them.
Let’s Jump into our text together this morning as Paul begins with the four Don’t of a teacher.
DON’TS
DON’TS
VS 3 If anyone teaches a different doctrine and does not agree with the sound words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the teaching that accords with godliness”
Don’t Neglect the Word of God (vs3)
I think this one should be very simple for us as dads to understand.
Don’t teach your kids a different doctrine than what God has clearly state in his word.
2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,”
Dad’s understand that the Bible isn't just a good bookto add to the pile of resources we use in parenting our kids, it is the source that all of our parenting should come from.
Paul says look Timothy when you are teaching other use Gods word as the source WHY- Because it is profitable for everything you need to teaxch others well.
It’s profitable for Teaching- what is right
It’s profitable for Reproof- what’s not right
It’s profitable for Correction- How to get right
It’s profitable for Training in righteousness- how to stay right.
Paul goes on and gives us the 2nd don’t in first part of verse 4
1 Tim. 6:4 “he is puffed up with conceit and understands nothing.
Don’t Be Prideful (v4)
Dad’s if your family life is all about you and what you want- you are not exemplifying Jesus to your kids.
A Dad who understand the word of God and desires to raise his children up in the Lord will have a heart compassion for others and not a big head about himself.
Simply put dad’s, if we have a conceited attitude it will teach our children that when they are “the boss” then they get to do whatever they want for their own pleasure no matter who it may hurt. .
Dad’s don’t be prideful but instead live out the truth of Phillipians 2
Phil. 2:3 “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
Dads we have the opportunity to teach our children about the character of Jesus when we choose Humilty over pride.
Paul goes on ansd says
1 Timothy 6:4–5 “He has an unhealthy craving for controversy and for quarrels about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, evil suspicions, and constant friction among people who are depraved in mind and deprived of the truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain.
The third don’t for dads is
Don’t be Quarrelsome (v4b,5)
Paul is telling timothy that The man who has to argue about everything and everyone is a toxic person
Dads’ do you always seem to criticize your wife in front of your children, Do you always seem to find the negative in every situation. Are you always complaining about what isnt going your way? These are all signs of a quarrelsome spirit. and Paul is saying these are toxic for a Christians family.
Why is a quarrelsome spirit toxic?
Paul goes on to tell us that if we s live a quarrelsome life than our homes will be filled with envy, dissension, slander, evil suspicions, and constant friction among people who are depraved in mind and deprived of the truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain.
Dads, do you see the point. When we are quarrelsome it leads our homes down a path of sinful behavior.
The opposite of quarrelsome is peace. In First Peter 3:10-11 it tells us that
“For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.”
Dad’s we are called to teach our children what it means to live in peace and to not have a quarrelsome spirit.
The fourth Don’t for dads is found in verse 9-10
1 Tim.6:9-10 “But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.”
Don’t be driven by Earthly Wealth (v9-10)
The Love of money is the root of all evil,
Our culture is fighting you and Your biblical foundation to be the one to teach your children.
and the message it is preaching is that money can solve all your problems in life.
If only you have more money than your life will seem more fulfilling.
Church family This is the biggest lie of Satan the we as Christians seem to believe.
and this is why aul says that “ the love of money is the root of ALL Evil”
More money is not the solution you need for happiness in your life,
More Money is not the solution your kids need for peace in this life
Jesus Christ is the only one that can bring anyone inner peace and joy to their lives.
and dad’s if we fall prey to this doctrine of the world that says more money brings more happiness than we are teaching our children this lie of the devil.
Instead of teaching your children the desire for money, teach them the value of a life depantant on Jesus
Teaçh them the truth of Philippians 4:19 “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
We now move from the Don’t to the does for dad’s in our text in 1 tim 6.
look with me at verse 11
1Tim. 6:11 “But as for you, O man of God, flee these things.
Pauls says dont jsut avoid these characxteristics but run from them dont let them even get close to your life.
Run from unbiblical doctrine
Run from a prideful spirit
Run a quarrelsome heart
Run from the pursuit of earthly wealth
and in its place - “Pursue [RUn towards] righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.”
The first thing we should do as dads to train up our children is to Pursue Christ likeness in our life.
DO
DO
DO Pursue Christ-likeness. (vs 11)
Paul gives us 6 characteristics of man who follows ofter Jesu
Run Towards Righteousness
righteousness is the quality of being morally right
Dad’s do the right thing no matter the cost- Have personal integrity in all your do
Run Towards godliness
Godliness is our personal integrity lived out in our lives.
Dad’s live out the truths of scripture in your life so that your children see God’s truths in action.
Run Towards faith
Faith is total dependency on God
Satan wants us to believe that money is the solution for when hard times come, but God’s word tells us that our faith in Christ is what we can clinge to in times of need
Faith is believing that God will do exaclty what he has promised to do
In Romans 8 God promises to work all things for our good to those who love him.
In Phil 4:19 “God will supply every need we have according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
To run towards faith means that you teach your children to rely on the riches of Gods grace in their life and not the riches in their bank account.
Run Towards love
The simplest way for you to demonstrate this agape love as a dad is to love them like Jesus loves you.
Agape love is a sacrifical love for the sake of others, it seeks to give and not gain.
to love your children the way that Christ loved you would mean you Serve your children, preference your children, forgive your children, and point your children to Jesus.
Run Towards steadfastness,
one of the greatest problems in our homes today is that dads don’t run towards steadfastness.
instead of sticking it out when the hard times come, many dads get up and leave.
To run towards steadfastness means that you are in the family for the long haul no matter the cost.
To be steadfast dads means that you have the courage to stay and continue in the hard times.
Dads to teach your children the character of Jesus means that we are there for the long haul through the good times and the bad.
finally to to be Christ like we need to...
Run Towards gentleness
If I were to ask you guys here today to describe for me what real man looks like, most of us would probably all come up with a picture of a lumberjack looking man
He’s rough and gruff
He’s strong, and carries a big axe to cut down trees
He only wears blue jeans and flannel shirts and of course he has a big full beard. 3.
thats a manly man..
But the Bible tells us that real man is man of gentleness
Strength under control.
Gentleness is the quality of being kind, compassionate, tenderhearted and mild mannered.
TO be Christ like men we need to have the chateristics of Jesus in our lives
we need to be righteous godly faithful loving steadfast and gentle with our children.
because when we act like Christ they see him in our lives.
The second thing we are to DO as dad’s is to STAND UP FOR WHAT IS RIGht
DO stand up for what is right (vs12)
1 TIm 6:12a “Fight the good fight of the faith. “
Eph 6:10-13 “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.”
Men As Followers of Jesus Christ we are in battle , but it is not with other men but it is against Satan and his demons and they want nothing more than to destroy your families faith.
Satan hates you and he hates your family and his greatest desire for your children is to pul them away from Jesus and consume them with the lies of this world.
Dad’s we are in a battle over our children's spiritual hearts. and our enemy doesn’t play fair.
Understand this dad when you are tempted with “the dont’s” for dads that is when Satan is gaining ground on your families walk with Jesus.
Dads we need to stand for what is right.
Verse 12 goes on and tells us the next thing we as dads must do
“Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called and about which you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.”
Dads the battle we are in is hard. the fight for our childrens hearts cans eem overwhelming but we can find our strength for the battle in our eternal life.
Dad’s Hold firm to your eternity.
Do Hold firm to your eternal life (vs12b)
Understand that Our Salvation is in Christ alone-
John 3:16 ““For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
We were called by God to salvation, this means that Our eternal salvation is secured in God alone and not dependant on our faithfulness.
and we can hold firm in the battle because we know that God has already given us the victory over sin and satan in our lives.
Dad’s teach your children that the foundation of your faith is in Christ alone, and your hope is in his finished work on the cross.
Moving on in our text v 14 tell us to Obey the word of the Lord.
1 Tim. 6:14 “to keep the commandment unstained and free from reproach until the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ,”
Do Obey the Word of God until Jesus Comes (v14)
The best thing we could ever teach our kids is to obey Gods word.
and the best method for teaching God’s is by living it out in our own lives.
But in order for us to teach we need to be in it.
The process is very simple. If you want your children to follow Gods word then you need to follow Gods word in your life, and if you want to follow Gods word in your life, you need to know what Gods word says. and if you want to know what Gods word says you need to be in it daily studying its truths
Dads if you want to teach your children the importance of Gods word, let Gods word be important to your life.
Finally in verse 17-19 Paul tells us
1 Tim:6:17-19 “As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life.”
Men if we want our Kids to see Jesus in our lives We must be driven by heavenly reward.
Do Be driven by Heavenly reward (17-19)
In Matthew 6:19-20 Jesus is teaching the crowd about working for a rewards. and he says “
“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal.”
Men we have the opportunity to teach our children about being wise stewards of what God has entrusted to us.
Listen again to Pauls charge to those who have financial wealth.
They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future.
Men the greatest financial advice we could ever teach our children is to be generous with what God has given us.
Billy Graham said “The greatest legacy one can pass on to hischildren and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one's life, but rather a legacy of character and faith.”
Dads are you using the wealth God has given you to grow his church on this earth or are you storing up your own treasure?
Your children are watching your generosity. They see when you give to others, the see when you hold back instead of being generous.
Dads don’t waste an opportunity to teach your children what it looks like to give to the Lord.
Give sacrificially, give generously, give willingly to the things that can have an eternal value.
teach your children the joy of Giving to Jesus.
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Bring it Home
Bring it Home
Dad’s We need to act like men with our children
1 Cor. 11:1 “Follow My Example as I follow Christ”
Men we have a job to do today and that is to live a life that exemplifies Jesus to those around us and especially our own children.
Our kids are watching how we follow Jesus and they will learn from you.
ILLUSTRATION OF LINDEN IN THE BACK SEAT FO THE CAR-
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whether we want them to watch or not- Our kids are watching what we do as dads and our actions are training our kids about how important jesus is in our lives.
Can you say to your kids “Follow me because I am following Jesus.”
Don’t waste the times you have with your children pursuing the things that will not last-
Men we have a checklist of does and dont’s to be a dad that follows after Jesus, and points our children to him.
Be the man that God has called you to be
Pursue Christlikeness,
Stand for what is right,
Hold firm to your eternal security
Obey the Word of God
and live your life for eternal reward.
As we close listen to wha Paul told his spiritual children,
Phil. 4:9 “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”
Men lets stand up for Jesus and Teach our children what real men look like
Pray