Dealing With Defeat 2
Dealing With Defeat
TEXT: James 3:2
INTRODUCTION: I want to talk to you about Dealing With Defeat. Sooner or later everyone in this building will fail at something. Failure is a universal experience. In fact the word of God says in James 3:2 2 We all stumble in many ways. The New Century Version says, “2 We all make many mistakes. The New King James Version says, “2For we all stumble in many things. The New Revised Standard Version says, 2 For all of us make many mistakes.” This does not give us the right to haphazardly live our lives as though nothing mattered. This does not mean that we throw caution unto the wind and live just any way that we please. James is just simply pointing out a fact of life and that fact is that everyone at one time or another will fail at something. There are some who have had more failures than successes. God does have a set standard that we are to live by. We are not free to throw caution to the wind and live our lives anyway we want to. James is pointing out to us that making mistakes, stumbling, and failing is a part of life and we should expect. Those who are devastated the most by their failures are those who think and believe that you can live life without ever making a single mistake.
We all have setbacks, failures, defeats, and losses in life. Nobody is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. Our failures and defeats in life can have a devastating effect on our lives if not properly dealt with or handled with the right attitude and frame of mind. In fact the setbacks and defeats that we face in life can make us feel like Job felt. Job 17:11 My days are past; my purposes are broken off, even the thoughts of my heart. What is Job saying? Job is saying, “ It’s over, my hope has disappeared, my hearts desires have been destroyed and my dreams have been shattered. There’s nothing left for me.” Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt that because of a failure or defeat in life that it was all over? Have you ever felt like your hope for the future had vanished? Have you ever felt like your desires and dreams were shattered? If you have ever felt like your dreams have been shattered and your hope for the future was gone that means that you are a part of the human race. When we feel this way we feel defeated in life but it doesn’t have to end that way. You can conquer those feelings of defeat and failure and move on to a brighter future if you will just learn from how to Deal With Defeat.
John Maxwell said, “The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.” Another writer said, “There is no doubt in my mind that there are many ways to be a winner, but there is only one way to be a looser and that is to fail and not look beyond the failure. In other words people that achieve success and win at life are those that have a proper perception of and response to failure. They learn from their experience and look beyond the failure to the future and as a result become a better person.
Failure is a training process that we go through on our way to success. In other words you and I are not going to succeed without some amount of failure along the way. The good news is that our failure does not have to be fatal or final.
The problem with us is that we have a fear of failure. Fear of failure will do three things to us.
It will stop us from trying. The questions that will haunt us is. What if I can’t do it? Someone has rightly said, “I would rather try and fail than not have tried at all.
It can cause us to be indecisive. We will never be able to make up our mind. The question that will plague our minds will be. What if I make the wrong choice?
It can cause us to have a perfectionist attitude. What if I can’t please everyone? That’s perhaps the biggest problem we have. We want to please everybody when we no we can’t. Our goal is not to please everybody but please God by doing what is right.
Failing at accomplishing something does not make one a failure. What makes a person a failure is their refusal to get up and get back in the game.
You need to remember that "your failures are not final and just because you fail at something does not make you a failure " !!!
We also need to remember that God is not surprised by our failures. Jesus knew about and foretold of Peter’s denial and failure in Matthew 26:33-34 33Peter answered and said unto him, Though all men shall be offended because of thee, yet will I never be offended. 34Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, That this night, before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice.
No, our failures do not take God by surprise. So with that let’s look at How To Deal With Defeat. There are three question that we to answer in order to Properly Deal with Defeat.
· What Are The Causes of Defeat:
· Why Does Defeat Have Such A Devastating Affect On Us:
· How Should We Respond To Defeat: