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HOW TO REKINDLE YOUR ROMANCE
The Secrets of a Satisfying Marriage - Part 9 of 12
Revelation 2:4-5
Bobby Earls, First Baptist Church of Icard, November 15, 1998
I recently saw this letter to Dear Abby: "Do all marriages go stale after 5 years?
Ours has.
My husband and I don't seem to have much to talk about any more.
We used to talk about our kids.
But now they're grown and gone and we really don't have anything to converse about.
I have no major complaints with my husband.
But the old excitement is gone.
We watch a lot of television.
And we read.
And we have friends.
But when we're alone together it's pretty dull.
We even sleep in separate bedrooms now.
Is there someway to recapture the old magic."
Signed, the Song has Ended.
Isn’t that a sad letter.
Reader's Digest reports that the number one question people ask marriage counselors is "Why don't we love each other the way we used to?"
I want to talk today about How to Rekindle the Romance in Your Marriage.
The Bible teaches that your marriage is always either growing together or drifting apart.
It does not stand still.
What do you do when your marriage has gone flat?
It's stable but there's no sparkle.
What do you do when your marriage has lost its pizazz?
The romance has gone out of it.
How do you rekindle that first love?
You do what Jesus told the church at Ephesus when the church had lost its first love.
The same three things apply to marriage.
Revelation 2:4-5 "You have forsaken your first love.
Remember the height from which you have fallen?
Repent and do the things you did at first."
This says three things: remember, repent, do.
First you Remember.
You remember the good times.
You relive the experiences, the happy feelings when you first fell in love.
You remember those times.
Then you Repent.
Repent means to deliberately change your attitude towards your mate.
You choose to turn it around.
You choose to act in a loving way.
You choose to act in a romantic way even if you don't feel romantic.
Then it says you Return.
“Do” Return to the things you did at first.
Act the same way towards your mate that you used to.
What you did to fall in love, you must continue to do to stay in love.
It's easier to fall in love than stay in love.
We get complacent.
We stop doing the things we did when we first fell in love.
Today I want to give you five actions that cause romance.
They cause romance in the first place and they cause romance to re‑ blossom.
If I were to summarize the message in a sentence today it would be this: Feelings follow actions.
If you act romantic you will begin to feel romantic.
Not vice versa.
You act your way into a feeling.
It's easier to act your way into a new way feeling than it is to feel your way into a new way of action.
When you first fell in love you did five things.
And to fall in love again you need to do the five things again.
Again, I can describe these five things in five words:
1. Attention
2. Affirmation
3. Affection
4. Adventure
5. Accordance -- spiritual oneness or fellowship
If you'll do those five things, the romance will come back.
1. ATTENTION
Philippians 2:2&4 "Live together in love as though you had only one mind and spirit between you.
Look to each other's interests not merely your own."
Circle "look" -- that involves attention.
Look to each other's interest.
The very first sign you know that helps you realize you are falling in love is when you noticed that somebody is paying attention to you and you begin to return the attention.
The first step in refalling in love is to start paying attention again.
Do you remember how much attention you paid your mate before they were married to you?
You wrote notes.
You made phone calls.
You spent hours talking together.
You sent cards.
You bought flowers.
You brought gifts.
Over and over.
All of these things were saying, "You have my total undivided attention."
What happened after you got married?
"Get it yourself!"
The attention switched.
We become complacent and take each other for granted.
Have you noticed that after you buy something new it looses its attraction after a while?
Familiarity looses our attention.
"I've got to have it!"
is the way you felt about your marriage.
And after you got it, now you think, "I can't get rid of it!"
Men are goal oriented.
Men are destination, achievement, goal oriented.
When you take that and apply it to marriage, the man has a goal, "I've got to get a wife."
And men become very creative in reaching this goal.
They might do things they would not normally do.
Stuff like poetry.
But once they have got the wedding over, they unconsciously think "Mission accomplished!
Now let's go on to the next goal in life."
That's usually providing for the woman.
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