A Dysfunctional Family
INTRODUCTION
· Baseball is a team sport.
– Regardless whether you are a player, a supporting coach, or a head coach.
– The success or failure of the team depends on how well each of them functions individually and corporately.
· “Pete Rose” was a professional baseball player and a coach.
– He was a National League Rookie of the Year, a (2x) Golden Glove Winner, a (3x) Batting Champion, an MVP, and a (17x) All-Star Player (involving 5 different positions).
– He was a World Series MVP, and on (3) World Series Championship Teams.
– He is Baseball’s Career Leader in Hits, Singles, At Bats, and Games Played.
· He functioned well both individually and corporately.
· He was a baseball legion on his way to the Hall of Fame.
– That all changed on March 6, 1989
– The commissioner of baseball launched an investigation that determined Rose was engaging in conduct NOT in the best interest of baseball.
– The accusation was that Rose had been betting on baseball games, which included the team he was actually coaching. This was serious, because he was in a position to affect the outcome of the game.
– This was extremely embarrassing for Pete Rose and baseball. It was in both of their best interest to minimize any further damage.
– Therefore, they agreed to make a deal. The commissioner agreed to give up his rights to prosecute; BUT Rose had to agree to give up his rights to play, to coach, or to be eligible for the Hall of Fame.
· Pete Rose individually, and baseball corporately, suffered consequences because of this dysfunction.
RAISE THE NEED
· Do you realize that your family is a team
– Regardless whether you are a single person, a married couple, or a married couple with children.
– The success or failure of your family depends on how well each person functions individually and corporately.
– Husbands, as the spiritual leader of your home, God has placed you in a position to affect the outcome of your family.
– The question is, do you want your outcome, or God’s?
· Do you realize that your church is a team
– Regardless whether you are a layman, a deacon, or a pastor.
– The success or failure of your church depends on how well each person functions individually and corporately.
– Pastors, as the spiritual leader of your church, God has placed you in a position to affect the outcome of your church.
– The question is, do you want your outcome, or God’s?
PRAY:
· Father, speak to us through Your Word today. Help us to hear, understand, and apply Your truth to our lives. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
TEXT:
· Long before Pete Rose and even baseball, God gave us an example of how Isaac’s dysfunctional family suffered series consequences.
· Our main text is Genesis, chapter 27, verses 1-41
· BUT first, let me share with you a few glimpses of what leads up to this story
CONTEXT
· Let us start by looking at how God built the faith of Abraham and Sarah, Isaac’s parents.
In Gen 17:4, 16-18, 21; 18:10, 12-15
– We see God telling Abraham and Sarah that at THE set time (him being 100, and her being 90), they would have a son, and call him Isaac “meaning Laughter.”
– What they do, they both laughed.
– Abraham said, “That is ok God, I have Ishmael.”
– Sarah said, “I did not laugh.”
In Gen 21:1-3
– We see God removing Sarah’s barrenness, and at THE set time, she bore a son, and called him Isaac.
– What did God do? Exactly what He said He would.
– It is clear that God got the last laugh.
· God builds our faith, but He also tests it.
In Gen 22:1-3, 7-13
– We see Abraham (in faith) lay Isaac on an altar, pulling out a knife to slay his son, and at THE set time . . . the Lord stopped Abraham and provided a ram to be the sacrifice instead. Isaac’s life was spared!
In Gen 24:2-4
– We see Abraham and his servant seeking God’s will as they find the forty-year-old Isaac a beautiful wife named Rebekah.
· Next, we see Isaac and Rebekah start to follow their parents’ example.
In Gen 25
– Rebekah is barren, so what does Isaac do? He pleads to God FOR his wife. God answers and she conceives.
– Rebekah senses something wrong because it feels like there was turmoil going on inside her. What does she do? She sought God’s help.
– God tells Rebekah, at THE set time, she will have twins; one is stronger than the other is, and the older shall serve the younger.
– Keep in mind this was totally against tradition and customs, but so was having a baby at 90.
– At THE set time, she had twins. Just like God had said.
– The first came out red, and covered in hair and they called him Esau “meaning Hairy”
– The second came out holding on to the heel of the first, and they called him Jacob “meaning Supplanter or Deceitful”
– In verse 28, we begin to see dysfunction in the family when the parents start playing favorites
– There is more dysfunction when Jacob persuades Esau to make a deal
a. Esau sounded like Pete Rose – I want a meal vs I want a deal
b. Jacob sounded like the commissioner – Give up your birthrights vs give up your baseball rights
– The baseball right was very important because it entitled Rose to a lot of endorsements, and a Hall of Famer has even more benefits. It also can lead to executive baseball positions or lucrative broadcasting jobs.
– The deal however, was legal and binding.
– The birthright was very important because it entitled the firstborn son to a double portion of inheritance as well as leadership rights.
– Once given, it was legal and binding.
· Like current day beneficiary
– If you have three children, and set it up with 50, 25, 25.
STRUCTURE
· In chapter 27, we see a tragic story about Isaac’s dysfunctional family who knew God’s will but tampered with it in many ways.
– Isaac, tried to bypass it
– Rebekah, tried to rush it
– Jacob, tried to wrongly secure it
– Esau, tried to divert it
· Let us learn from this biblical account.
MAIN IDEA
· Dysfunction is a sin that carries serious consequences
1. Isaac dysfunctions when he tries to bypass God’s will (vv. 1-4).
EXPLANATION
Isaac and Esau
· He acted in secret, v. 1
– Calling out only to Esau, shows he knew it was wrong
· He was impatient, v. 2
– He was 137, and the boys were 77, but he lived another 40 years
· He encouraged irresponsibility in Esau
– Obsession with hunting
– Not caring about business affairs or family welfare
– No spiritual development
– Isaac had the right to bypass Esau and give to Jacob
· He did what he wanted
– He knew the blessing was meant for Jacob but planned to give it to Esau anyway
· He used tradition as an excuse
– Eased his conscious by planning a traditional feast for his firstborn like every other father did
ILLUSTRATION & APPLICATION
· As the spiritual leader of the house, when you sin, it causes a rippling effect throughout the whole house. Just like if you threw a rock in a pond.
– You will answer for your sin, and those you cause to stumble.
REPEAT MAIN IDEA
· Trying to bypassing God’s will is a sin that carries serious consequences.
2. Rebekah dysfunctions when she tries to rush God’s will (vv. 5-17).
EXPLANATION
Rebekah and Jacob
· She told Jacob he was going to miss his blessing, v. 5-7
– She knew Isaac was disobeying but did not talk to him
– Instead she used Jacob against him
· She suggested a human method, vv. 8-10
– Jacob taking goat stew to Isaac
· She rationalized the plan and then justified it, vv. 11-17
– Planned for exceptions
– Agreed to accept the curse if caught
– Convincing Jacob
ILLUSTRATION & APPLICATION
· You can be right in identifying something wrong, but then wrong in trying to make it right.
· Seek God’s face, and wait on Him until He shows you beyond question that it is time to act.
REPEAT MAIN IDEA:
· Trying to rushing God’s will is a sin that carries serious consequences.
3. Jacob dysfunctions when he tries to wrongly secure God’s will (vv. 18-29).
EXPLANATION
Isaac and Jacob
· He allowed his mother to convince him to do wrong
– Approached his father deceptively
– He was 77 years old
· He falsely attributed his success to God
– Stated that God gave him the successful hunt
· He impersonated his brother
– By words, hairy touch, earthy smell, his clothes, and his cooking
· He received blessing early
– He knew it was not God’s time, but he pursued it
· He accepted God’s blessing through wrong method
– Through deception in many ways
ILLUSTRATION & APPLICATION
· When we try to act or be like someone else, we are not being the unique person that God created.
· God has a time for every person to begin his work and ministry on earth
– God’s will was for me to come to SWBTS for Fall 04, but I tried to hold off until Fall 05
– I questioned why God waited so long for me, and called others much earlier.
– Starting too early or refusing to step out will result in failure.
– Be satisfied with God’s timing
REPEAT MAIN IDEA
· Trying to wrongly securing God’s will is a sin that carries serious consequences.
4. Esau dysfunctions when he tries to divert God’s will (vv. 30-41).
EXPLANATION
Isaac and Esau
· When he allowed his father to convince him to do wrong
– He knew God chose Jacob
– He knew he had sold his birthright
– He knew God was not on his priority list
– He knew he was disqualified because he married unbelieving wives
– He was 77 years old
· When he refused to accept Jacob as God’s choice
– He was wanting a blessing also
– He refused to take any blame and said it was all his brother’s fault
– Esau refused to accept God’s will
· When he refused to accept his role in life
– He felt a blessing should have been reserved for him
– Isaac told him he would serve his brother
– He wept and asked again if there was a blessing left
ILLUSTRATION & APPLICATION
· Esau wanted to enjoy the desires of his flesh and receive God’s blessing
– The problem is they cannot exist together
– Esau did not want God’s blessing bad enough to:
o Change his life
o Give God priority in his life
o Begin following God with his heart
REPEAT MAIN IDEA
· Trying to diverting God’s will is a sin that carries serious consequences.
SUMMARIZE AND CONCLUDE THE MESSAGE:
· Isaac finally got it
– He trembled exceedingly, v. 33
– List all the points from sermon
· Two red flags for parents or church leaders to watch for:
– Under-functioning, by allowing our children or members to just fend for themselves.
– Over-functioning, by doing everything for them it encourages them to not grow up.
· What are the consequences?
– Individuals, families, and churches will suffer.
o Disunity, where parents or church leaders are picking favorites, not working together, using children or members as weapons against the others.
o Dishonesty, no one can be trusted, members are trying to be someone they are not, or trying to fulfill a role they were not designed for.
o Disharmony, where goals are impossible because everyone has their own agenda, and heading in different directions
· Dysfunction of any kind is a sin that carries serious consequences.
ILLUSTRATION
· Have you ever notice the bumper sticker, “God is My Co-Pilot!”
– I do not think they get it
– I think we need to scoot over to the passenger’s seat and let God drive.
CONVICTING CONCLUSION
· It is important to understand that we cannot do God’s will until we know God’s will.
– (Hold up Bible) God’s will can be found in Scripture.
– The more we get to know Him, the clearer His will becomes to us
– Do you want to please God?
– The only way to please Him, is to know Him, and to do His will.
· Listen to the chorus of Carrie Underwood’s song
Jesus take the wheel
Take it from my hands
Cause I can’t do this on my own
I’m letting go, so give me one more chance
To save me from this road I’m on
Jesus take the wheel
PRAY
· Let us pray! Father, we praise You for Your plan, and for Your timing. Help us to recognize when we are tempted to take a hold of the wheel. Thank you for reminding us that it is a sin when we do, and that there are consequences. May the Holy Spirit guides us, and Your inspired Word directs us. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!