The Most Excellent Way: Love Matters
Series: What Matters Most
Sermon: The Most Excellent Way: Love Matters
Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:1-13:3
Have you heard the story about the actor who was playing the part of Christ in the Passion Play in the Ozarks? As he carried the cross up the hill a tourist began heckling him, and shouting insults at him. Finally, the actor had taken all he could take. So he threw down his cross, walked over to the tourist, and punched him out.
After the play was over, the director told him, "I know he was a pest, but I can’t condone what you did. Besides, you’re playing the part of Jesus, and Jesus never retaliated. So don’t do anything like that again." Well, the man promised he wouldn’t. But the next day the heckler was back worse than before, and finally the actor exploded and punched him out again.
The director said, "That’s it. I have to fire you. We just can’t have you behaving this way while playing the part of Jesus." The actor begged, "Please give me one more chance. I really need this job, and I can handle it if it happens again." So the director decided to give him another chance.
The next day he was carrying his cross up the street. Sure enough, the heckler was there again. You could tell that the actor was really trying to control himself, but it was about to get the best of him. He was clinching his fists and grinding his teeth. Finally, he looked at the heckler and said, "I’ll see you after the resurrection!"
A. Sometimes it is hard for those who profess to be Christians to behave like Christians should. We try to carry our crosses, but if someone crosses us, we tend to lose our composure and behave in much the same way the rest of the world behaves.
But the Bible teaches us that we are to be people who exercise love in all of our relationships with one another.
Listen to these words, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" [Romans 12:18]. And again, "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love" [Ephesians 4:2]. And still again, "Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy..." [Hebrews 12:14].
Now all of those Scriptures say the same thing. It will be difficult sometimes, because not everybody will be easy to love; but if it’s possible, we are to live in peace and harmony with everyone.
I’m beginning a series of sermons this morning that will look at “What Matters Most.” Whenever you look in the scriptures you will find certain characteristics, or certain things that are more important than other things. One of the most difficult decisions we make in life is when we decide what our priority is. Sometimes what we think is important will be trumped by what God thinks is important.
During this series we’ll consider What Matters Most. Things like truth, grace, trust, faith, prayer, money, time, and family.
This morning we’re going to begin this series by taking a look at one of the most important things that God says matters: Love Matters.
Our scripture focus will be 1 Corinthians 13, the "love chapter" of the Bible. It’s interesting to me, especially in light of discovering what matters most, that Paul ends chapter 12 with these words: (which are actually an introduction to chapter 13), "Now I will show you the most excellent way."
I. THE IMPORTANCE OF LOVE IN OUR LIVES
He is saying, "I want to show you what matters most, what is most important, and that is the way of love." Then he points out 5 other things Christians consider very important, but love is more important than all of them.
A. In vs. 1, Paul says that love is more important than spiritual gifts. "If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal."
On the day of Pentecost God gave the apostles the special gift of being able to speak in languages that they had never learned so that the people hearing them could understand what was being said.
But here in 1 Corinthians, Paul is saying that if God gave him the gift of speaking every human language, and even the heavenly language of the angels, but he didn’t have love, then he would be nothing more than a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. Now what did he mean by that?
Back in the 1st Century, there was a big gong or cymbal hanging at the entrance of most pagan temples. When people came to worship, they hit them to awaken the pagan gods so they would listen to their prayers.
Here, Paul is saying that even if he were so blessed that he could speak with the greatest of eloquence in every language, but didn’t have love, then his life was as useless as this ridiculous act of pounding on a gong to awaken non-existent gods.
Love is more important than any spiritual gift.
B. Then in vs. 2 Paul says that love is more important than knowledge. "If I have the gift of prophecy and I can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge ...but have not love, I am nothing."
Paul says that even if you know it all - if you know everything there is to know about nuclear science; if you know everything there is to know about medicine; if you know everything there is to know about philosophy and psychology and theology and every other kind of “ology” - if you know it all, but have no love, then you are have forgotten what’s important.
It has always amazed me that when people look at society and try to analyze what is wrong with us, why we’re killing and abusing one another, that those experts always seem to come back with the same answer, "We need more education. We need to get everybody educated, and then we won’t have these problems anymore."
But I don’t think education is the answer. I’m certainly not opposed to education. But listen to what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 8:1, "Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up." I don’t think we need more knowledge near as much as we need more love. We need a whole lot more love and the hearts of people need to change before society will ever change.
C. Thirdly, Paul says that love is more important than faith. Can you believe that? Now he doesn’t say that faith is not important. He just says that love is more important than faith. He said, "If I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing."
Faith, we are told in the Scripture, is so important that it is impossible to please God without faith. And I trust that all of you here this morning have faith. But what is your faith? What do you believe for sure this morning?
Do you believe that God is the creator of the world? Do you believe that Jesus Christ is His only Son, and that He came into our world and lived a sinless life, and that He died and was buried and on the third day rose again? Do you believe that He is now at the right hand of the Father, and is preparing a place for us, and that one day He will come again? Do you believe that the Holy Spirit is our guide and counselor and comforter?
If you believe all those things, then that is well and good and I commend you for it. But the Bible teaches that if you believe all the right stuff, but you don’t have love, then you have lost sight of what is most important. Even faith is of no value unless it is backed up by love.
The priest and the Levite in the story of the Good Samaritan had faith. The problem was they had no love. So they walked by on the other side and just left the man lying there to die.
In Galatians 5:6 Paul says, "The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love."
D. Fourthly, love is more important than generosity. Paul says, "If I give all I possess to the poor...but have not love, I gain nothing."
Now notice that he doesn’t say, "If I give 10%." He says, "If I give everything, if I empty my checking account, if I give all my retirement funds, if I sell my house, if I cash in my insurance policies, if I sit on the corner with nothing left but what I’m wearing, and I’ve given it all away to help the poor, but I don’t have love then I am nothing at all."
You see, generosity is not enough. Are you a generous person? I get calls all the time, and I’m sure you do, too, from people appealing for funds for worthwhile causes.
But why do you give? Do you give because the preacher just preached a sermon on stewardship? Do you give because you feel guilty if you don’t? Do you give because you want to impress others sitting around you? Do you give because you’re afraid that God won’t bless you if you don’t? Do you give because you think you will get more than you give?
Those are all the wrong reasons. If the only reason that I give is to receive or to benefit myself, then love is absent, and giving is empty. The motive for giving should be love, love for God and love for God’s people.
E. Then he says that love is more important than sacrifice. He says, "If I...surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing."
He is talking about martyrdom. He is talking about being so faithful and so committed to God that you end up dying because of your faith. How deep is your faith? How deep is your commitment? Are you willing to lay down your life for God, if it came to that?
But Paul is saying that even if you go to church every time the church doors are open, if you read your Bible faithfully, if you pray, and do all the things that a Christian person ought to do, but if there is no love behind all that then you have forgotten what’s important
Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” Yet, even if we lay down our life for our friend it will mean nothing if it’s not done with a great love.
So he is saying that love is more important than spiritual gifts, more important than knowledge, more important than faith, more important than generosity, and more important than all the things that you might sacrifice for the kingdom of God.
II. THE PRACTICE OF LOVE IN OUR EVERYDAY LIVES
It’s obvious that love is very important, much more than we may have realized before. Listen to what Jesus says in John 13:34, "A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another."
Now notice that Jesus says that this is a commandment, not a suggestion. And God never commands us to do anything that we cannot do.
We tend to think that love is something that just happens to us because that is what the world teaches. You fall in love like you fall into a ditch, or you fall out of love like you fall out of a tree. You can’t help it. It’s something that just happens to you.
Someone sings, "I can’t help falling in love with you." Someone else sings, "You’ve lost that loving feeling." Someone else sings, "I love you. Please tell me your name." That’s really deep stuff, you know.
But the Bible teaches that love is something we can control. God commands us to love each other. This means, I can will to love you, and you can will to love me. So this is not a hopeless situation.
Now, what kind of love is being talked about here? In Philippians 2:4 Paul says that he wants us to behave as Jesus Christ behaved. In other words, we need to love in the same way that Jesus loved.
And here is the way Jesus loved. Paul said, "Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others." In other words, love is unselfish. You begin to think about other people and their interests just like you think about yourself and your interests. You become unselfish. Now I want to apply that in several different areas.
A. First of all, see how that would work in the family. Let’s suppose that someone in every family represented here this morning would say, "I’m going to go home and put this into practice."
Start with your spouse. You ought to love your husband or your wife first and most. You ought to be kinder, more tender, more gentle to them, even if they’re behaving like a jerk. Begin first in your marriage relationship.
Can you see how that would affect the atmosphere of the home? There wouldn’t be any arguing or bickering, no sharp words between each other because their interests are just as important as yours. And pretty soon it filters down to the relationship you share with your children, maybe even your in-laws and your out-laws and everybody else in the family. Just because you love them.
B. It begins in the family, and it spills over into the church family. In fact Jesus said, "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."
That’s the way the world will find out that the message of Jesus Christ is valid. And if we’re really going to love each other the way Jesus loved us then we have to develop in our own lives the same kind of compassion for people that Jesus had.
"What’s it like to hurt deep inside and no one knows you’re hurting and you don’t feel free to tell them that you’re hurting? What’s it like being sick and knowing you’re not going to get well, and wanting more than anything else to live? What’s it like to be handicapped? What’s it like to be a minority? What’s it like to be dealing with marital problems or domestic problems? What’s it like?”
What kind of burdens are people carrying, and do we care enough to help them bear those burdens? That’s what it means when Jesus talks about loving one another as He has loved us.
Patricia L. Miller, a former staffer in an emergency room, writes:
“While at work in the emergency room, I learned to stop crying at the pain around me. Each day it seemed I was becoming insensitive to people and their real needs. Five years of emergency room exposure had taken its toll.
Then God intervened.
I was taking information for registering a young woman who had overdosed on drugs and had attempted suicide. Her mother sat before me as I typed the information into the computer. The mother was unkempt and bleary eyed. She had been awakened in the middle of the night by the police to come to the hospital. She could only speak to me in a whisper.
Hurry up, I said to myself, as she slowly gave me the information. My impatience was raw as I finished the report and jumped to the machine to copy the medical cards. That's when God stopped me—at the copy machine. He spoke to my heart so clearly: You didn't even look at her. He repeated it, gently: You didn't even look at her.
I felt his grief for her and for her daughter, and I bowed my head. I'm sorry, Lord. I am so sorry.
I sat down in front of the distraught woman and covered her hands with mine. I looked into her eyes with all the love that God could flood through me and said, "I care. Don't give up."
She wept and wept. She poured her heart out to me about the years of dealing with a rebellious daughter as a single mom. Finally, she looked up and thanked me. Me…the coldhearted one with no feelings.
My attitude changed that night. My Jesus came right into the workplace in spite of rules that tried to keep him out. He came in to set me free to care again. He gave himself to that woman through me. My God, who so loved the world, broke that self-imposed barrier around my heart. Now he could reach out, not only to me in my pain, but to a lost and hurting woman.”[i]
C. Finally, we are to let that love flow into the workplace, too. We do it when we show those people who work next to us that Jesus Christ is our Lord, not just with words, but by the example we set.
You may have a hard boss that you don’t like very much. Or you may work with someone who makes fun of the way you live. But Jesus said that we are to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us.
In fact, Paul writes in Romans 12:20:21, "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink...Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
There is a story about Doug Nichols I want to share with you because I think it illustrates what I have been trying to say this morning. Doug Nichols went to India to be a missionary there, but while he was just starting to study the language he became infected with tuberculosis and had to be put in a sanitarium.
It was not a very good place to be. It was not very clean and conditions were difficult because there were so many sick people there. But Doug decided to do the best he could in that situation. So he took a bunch of Christian books and tracts and tried to witness to the other patients in the sanitarium.
But when he tried to pass out tracts, they were rejected. No one wanted them. He tried to hand out books, but no one would take them. He tried to witness, but he was handicapped because of his inability to communicate in their language, and he felt so discouraged.
Here he was. Because of his illness he would be there a long time. But it seemed like the work that he had been sent to do would not be done because no one would listen to him.
Because of his tuberculosis, every night at about 2 o’clock he would wake up with chronic coughing that wouldn’t quit. Then one night when he awoke he noticed across the aisle an old man trying to get out of bed. He said the man would roll himself up into a little ball and teeter back and forth trying to get up the momentum to get up and stand on his feet. But he just couldn’t do it. He was too weak.
Finally, after several attempts the old man laid back and wept. The next morning Doug understood why the man was weeping. He was trying to get up to go to the bathroom and didn’t have enough strength to do that. So his bed was a mess and there was a smell in the air.
The other patients made fun of the old man. The nurses came to clean up his bed and they weren’t kind to him, either. In fact, one of them even slapped him in the face. Doug said that the old man just laid there and cried.
Doug said, "That next night about 2 o’clock I started coughing again. I looked across the way and there was the old man trying to get out of bed once more. I really didn’t want to do it, but somehow I managed to get up and I walked across the aisle and I helped the old man stand up."
But he was too weak to walk, so Doug said, "I took him in my arms and carried him like a baby. He was so light that it wasn’t a difficult task. I took him into the bathroom, which was nothing more than a dirty hole in the floor, and I stood behind him and cradled him in my arms as he took care of himself."
"Then I carried him back to his bed and laid him down. As I turned to leave he reached up and grabbed my face and pulled me close and kissed me on the cheek and said what I think was `Thank you.’"
Doug said, "The next morning there were patients waiting when I awoke and they asked if they could read some of the books and tracts that I had brought. Others had questions about the God I worshiped and His only begotten Son who came into the world to die for their sins."
Doug Nichols says that in the next few weeks he gave out all the literature that he had brought, and many of the doctors and nurses and patients in that sanitarium came to know Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, too.
He said, "Now what did I do? I didn’t preach a sermon. I couldn’t even communicate in their language. I didn’t have a great lesson to teach them. I didn’t have wonderful things to offer. All I did was take an old man to the bathroom and anyone can do that."
SUM. Someone has said, "They will not care how much you know, until they know how much you care."
There is a more excellent way, and that is the way of Jesus Christ. This morning if you are here and outside of Jesus Christ and you don’t know Him as your Lord and Savior, we extend His invitation to you. We pray that you will respond as we stand and as we sing.
[i] Citation: Patricia L. Miller, adapted from Pentecostal Evangel (10-15-00), pp. 9-11