NJ - Keys to Parenting with Purpose
Keys to Parenting with Purpose
Keys to Parenting with Purpose
One of the most common questions I am here from parents today, is about parenting. Parents wanting specific and practical advice for raising their children in the very best way.
Couples usually understand their general parental responsibility, but will often speak of the need for help in specifically framing their biblical commitments to optimally shepherd and train their children.
Whether you are considering your parental responsibilities with a new child, or even reaffirming these biblical principles with your older children (It’s never too late!), or even as grandparents toward your grandchildren, the following “KEYS” from God’s Word are sure to benefit you, your family, and your church.
1. Pursue Righteousness in Your Marriage
Husbands, you need to show your children how a husband loves his wife, even as Christ loved the church
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Do they see you giving yourself up for her?
Are they observing how you tenderly and patiently lead her, teach her, and protect her?
Your example in the treatment of your wife will teach volumes about Christ’s love for His beloved bride, the church.
Wives, to your children you need to model biblical submission as you subject yourself to your husband in everything
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Do your children see how you work out your submission to Christ in respectful submission to your husband?
Your marriage is a living, breathing example of the church’s willing submission to the Lord Jesus Christ.
2. Confess Your Sins to One Another
You need to confess, when appropriate, your sins to your family
13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.
and seek their forgiveness when necessary
14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
As you are quick to confess,
you are demonstrating true humility
And an ultimate desire to be pleasing to God in all your ways
3. Manage Your Resources Wisely
Take great pains to manage the Lord’s money and resources with which you are entrusted, and do so with the utmost integrity
Continually think of ways to be a better steward of all your time, talent, and treasure (Proverbs 31:10-31)
Always looking to God for His provision for all your basic life needs (Matthew 6:31-34; 1 Timothy 5:8).
4. Evangelise Your Children and Others
Because of your great love for your children, endeavor to be a consistent witness to them of your own faith, as well as speaking often to them about the nature of their relationship to the Lord.
Live in such a way around your kids that you are fulfilling the spirit of Paul’s command to Timothy: “Do the work of an evangelist” (2 Timothy 4:5).
In addition, as you have opportunity, proclaim the gospel to others with whom you come in contact with.
Thus hopefully instilling in your children the same desire to share their faith with others (1 Corinthians 15:1-4).
5. Teach Your Children the Word of God
Regularly teach your children God’s Word
Both by your life (desiring to be models of Christ-likeness to them; 1 John 2:6)
by your proactive and consistent commitment to family worship.
Especially as fathers (as well as mothers) - you have the responsibility to impart the truth of Scripture to your children for their great good
4 “Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. 5 And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. 6 And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. 7 Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. 8 Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
6. Discipline Your Children
When your children need correction
Ps John’s message last week - go and check it out on our Facebook Page.
7. Watch Your Words Carefully
OUr words are very powerful tools for good or evil! They can either build up or tear down.
Speak to your spouse, your children, and others with godly wisdom so that you may edify and encourage (Proverbs 4:24; 6:12; 10:32; 19:1).
Your children are watching you intently, what you say (including how you say it)
This will have deep and lasting effects on them.
Train your children to speak well
29 Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. 30 Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted. 31 Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk.
8. Show Your Children Your Own Love for God and Man
Love your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-40). The greatest gift you can give your kids is to show them your all-consuming love for Jesus Christ!
What should flow from this passion is also your love for your neighbors, which certainly includes your immediate family.
Extending beyond this circle of influence, beyond those that you know.
Pray that your example of love will have great impact on on your children.
9. Ask God for Grace and Strength in Your Child-Rearing
The Bible commands you to raise your children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
If we have children the we have a responsability to raise them, this is not an option.
The remaining question should be: How well am I doing as a parent?
To whatever degree you perceive you are succeeding or failing in the task, and regardless of what will be the initial outcome and ultimate destiny of your children.
Ask God for grace and strength to be a parent who glorifies Him.
If you’ll follow these “Keys to parenting” the Lord will help you and bless you. Furthermore, your life and beliefs with the Holy Spirit can be useful in demonstrating the saving power of the gospel to your children. The rest we must leave in the hands of a sovereign God.
May God continually remind all of us of our solemn parental task to leave a legacy of Godly faithfulness to the succeeding generations.