Wedding of Matt Carlson/Kristi Fike
HLC-N 6/15/96 Texts: 1 Cor 13.1-13 Rom 15.5-7
M: Wow! This is just unbelievable, isn’t it?
K: It certainly is: Can you believe that Matt and Kristi are finally getting married?
M: Well, actually, I meant isn’t it unbelievable how great Matt looks? I’ve never seen him dressed up so well.
K: Oh, Mark, you’re so unromantic. Everyone is dressed up so beautifully here. There’s love and romance in the air. It’s like a fairy tale come true.
M: Come on, fairy tales are only make-believe.
K: Yeah, but think of it: Once upon a time Matt and Kristi started dating, and friendship turned into romance, and romance...
M: Meant Kristi had to put up with Matt messing around with cars and computers!
K: And romance turned into love. And one day Matt proposes marriage in such a romantic way with that little teddy bear holding the message and ring, and now they are getting married...
M: And they will live happily ever after.
K: Right, see how romantic this wedding is?
M: Oh, sure, the romance is wonderful, but you know, even fairy tales have monsters or dragons or villians in them, and in the real world they’re not just make-believe problems
K: Don’t be so pessimistic
M: I’m not. I’m just being realistic. You (unfortunately) know how it is sometimes a few years down the line in a marriage: the flowers stop coming, and, Kristi, the closest thing you’ll come to fairy tales is the ones you read to your kids; together, your lives seem to involve a lot more working than wooing; you start picturing how your life would make good subject matter for some sad country, western tune and you think: romance is gone..
K: Well, that can be true, but romance should always be an important part of a couple’s marriage, and I’m sure that we all hope and pray that you two both will be romantically involved with each other for the rest of your lives
M: But you’ll need more than romance and you won’t be able to count on some fairy godmother
K: True enough, and that’s why you’ll also need true love: You will always need to love each other
M: That sounds simple enough, but I suspect you know how difficult that may prove to be in a real world where you have to find a new place to live and there’s not enough time or money to get the computer monitor replaced
K: And that’s why it’s important to distinguish between true LOVE
M: and LUV
K: Here’s what we mean:
M: You fall in LUV at first glance,
K: But you must grow in LOVE
M: LUV is an impulse,
K: But LOVE involves decisions and commitment,
M: LUV is glamorous and sexy,
K: But LOVE is patient and kind
M: LUV is selfish and suspicious and jealous,
K: But LOVE is not envious or boastful or arrogant
M: LUV comes quickly, easily, and just as quickly/easily disap’ears
K: But LOVE takes time and energy, and ...
M/K: LOVE never ends
M: And so when we advise you to LOVE each other
K: You realize what an awesome promise it is that you are making to each other today
M: Will you indeed not just luv each other BUT also LOVE each other?
K: It’s almost too much for any human being to promise, but here is where you begin to realize that you are not alone in your marriage
M: When Paul speaks so eloquently of love in that passage from 1 Cor 13, underlying it all is his understanding of God’s surpassing love for you
K: And in the Romans passage, remember how it emphasizes that it is the God of steadfastness and encouragement who will grant you to live in harmony with each other
M: And shortly after your marriage vows to each other, you will hear it said: What GOD has joined together, let no one separate.
K: Do you hear the promise? it is God who has joined you together so that you shall not be separated
M: it is is the LOVE of God which will keep you together because God's love is far stronger and more powerful and more wonderful than even the most passionate and romantic and fairy-tale-like of human loves
K: You won’t need a fairy godmother, because you will always be able to count on the love of GOD to be with you in the midst of sickness and health and better and worse and all that the years may bring
M: So, even when it's one of those times when you know that your life ain't no fairy tale, times when human love falters,
K: That's when you will be able to count on God's love for you and rejoice that it is God who has joined you together
M: And when that happens,
K: well, that’s even better than a fairy tale for then we can rejoice that: Once upon a time, you, Matt and Kristi fell in love, got married
M: And LOVED happily ever after
K: Because you are held in God's never-ending love