Sermon Tone Analysis

Harmony in the Home

1 Peter 3:1-8

Two Stories:

·         My plane flight

o   Young boy with me – hadn’t seen mother since he was one.

o   Young girl in seat ahead – coming back from spending a month with her father somewhere on the eastern part of the US.

o   Young man sitting with Jane – coming to spend some time with his mother.

He used to live in Modesto but moved when his parents divorced.

·         Two different ladies

o   If my husband were to tell me I couldn’t go to church I would tell him where to go.

God says we are supposed to go to church, so he would just have to deal with it.

§  My husband didn’t want me to go to church but I told him that I really wanted to and that I believed as a Christian I was supposed to.

And I went.

I gave up a lot of things for him because I was a Christian, but I did go to church even though he would prefer I didn’t.

This man contracted cancer.

He led me.

I asked him if he wanted to pray.

He said yes.

His prayer was text book.

I couldn’t have prayed a more theologically accurate prayer myself.

We come today to another institution, in our study of 1 Peter.

The institution of marriage.

Genesis 2:24

For this reason, a man shall leave father and mother, and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.

We have been told to submit ourselves to every human institution

            To a king, a governor, etc.

We have been told that servants are to be submissive to their masters

            Even ones who are not very lovable.

Verse 12 – That the evil doers may glorify God in the day of visitation as they observe your good behavior.

Verse 15 – For such is the will of God that by doing right you may silence the ignorance of foolish men.

Verse 19 – For this finds favor with God.

WHY?

Because Jesus suffered for the higher purpose – our salvation

Serve me.

Leave the rest to God.

He will judge righteously.

And then we have the example we will look at today.

So that, even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.

The word:  a guy catching flies.

Told his wife he had killed thre males and two females.

How do you know?

The three males I killed on my remote, and the two females were on your phone!

Luke 2:51 – Jesus came with his parents and was *submissive* to them.

Luke 10:17 – The disciples came with joy, saying, “Lord, even the demons are *subject* to us in your name!”

Rom.

8:7 – The mind set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not *submit* to God’s law.

Rom.

13:1 – Let every person be *subject * to the governing authorities.

Eph 5:24 – Now as the church *submits* to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands.

Titus 2:9 – Slaves are to be *submissive* to their own masters in everything they do

Titus 3:1- Remind them to be *submissive *to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good deed.

James 4:7 – *Submit* yourselves therefore to God.

1 Pet 2:13 – Be *subject* for the Lord’s sake to every human

1 Pet 2:18 – Servants, be *subject* to your masters with all respect

1 Pet 5:5 – Likewise, you who are younger, be *subject* to the elders

 

Political Correctness!

Same word for all.

We can’t pick and choose what meanings we are going to give and not give to clear teaching of the scriptures.

I do not want to validate anyone’s misconceptions of what it means for a woman to be submissive to the God-given leadership a man is to have over thehome or what it means for a man to understand that his wife is to be submissive to that leadership.

I read of a man who required his wife to get his permission before she entered any room in their house  - That is pathological!

Not by pushiness, selfishly assertive, coercion or threat

Vs 4 – There is a beauty in being holy

The work of God in your heart

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*Portrait of the type of women God is looking for*:

 

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//Deepest root in her heart is her hope in God/

Holy women who hoped in God

            You do not put your hope in your husband

            You do not put your hope in getting a husband

            You do not put your hope in your good looks or adornment

She puts her hope in God

 

Women with unshakeable biblical roots in the sovereign goodness of God

 

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//Out of this hope she lives without fear/

This fear may come from attitudes in society in general, those who are close to you, or because you are not sure you can or want to trust your husband.

See 1 Peter 3:14, 4:19

The daughters of Sarah fight the anxiety that rises in their hearts.

They wage war on fear and they defeat it with hope in the promises of God.

NO ONE SHOULD BE SUFFERING AT THE HANDS OF THE MATE IN A WAY THAT IS HARMFUL TO THEIR SAFETY, OR IS IMMORAL.

3.

/She focuses on what really matters/

The not: 

-braiding of hair – the elaborate process that involves time, the services of the professional hairdresser, quite a bit of money and is for the purpose of drawing attention to oneself.

-gold jewelry

-fine clothing

Not slovenly – indifference toward one’s appearance

Extravagance – self centered display, gaudiness and immodest

You can wear too much – and you can wear too little.

“Neck above”

 

4.

/She submits to her husband/

-It can’t mean agreeing with everything he says – unbelievers.

You can’t put the will of your husband before the will of Christ.

-You don’t leave your brain, your gifts, your will on the altar.

-It doesn’t mean avoiding every effort to change your husband.

-Your hope is in God.

-Your submission is done in your freedom, not out of fear.

In the same way. .

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With the same attitude of wanting to honor Christ as Lord

 

The spirit that is at work to develop in your wife the gentle and quiet spirit is the same spirit who wants to develop in you kindness and attentiveness with your wife.

First of all, the husband is to live with his wife with understanding – or to be considerate as you live with your wife.

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*Portrait of the type of man God is looking for*:

 

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He is considerate

-This includes the knowledge that she is a weaker vessel.