When I'm Sinned Against
What if I’ve been sinned against?
Every sin either needs to be confronted or covered. We are never allowed to let it cook.
gives us an outline
Can/Should I overlook the offense?
There is beauty in covering things in love. ()
Times to confront
When they are trapped in sin
When they welcome rebuke
When the offense is especially serious (as defined by Scripture, not you)
2. When the offense is especially serious (as defined by Scripture, not you)
When the relationship is strained
3. When the relationship is strained
4. When the person is hurting self or others
When the person is hurting self or others
5. When the gospel is at stake (reputation of Christ, church, etc.)
When the gospel is at stake (reputation of Christ, church, etc.)
Questions to ask yourself
Have I examined myself thoroughly
Am I forgiving attitudinally
Is my goal clearly reconciliation
Is this the most loving action to take?
Am I willing to take this to the next step if necessary?
Am I seeking to please God more than people?
Do I need biblical counsel?
What does forgiveness look like?
Forgiveness is costly (absorbing the debt)
I will not bring up the debt to use as leverage
I will not bring up the offense to others
I will not dwell on the offense myself
Not forgiving costs more
Two levels of forgiveness
Guilt or depression
Attitudinal, Heart ()
Between me and God
Goal: to release bitterness from my heart, internal
Unconditional: independent of the offender’s repentance
Commitments to God
release offender from my judgment
empty my heart of bitterness
ready to grant level 2 forgiveness
Transacted, Granted, Relational ()
No forgiveness for your own
horizontal focus: between me and offender
Goal: To reconcile my relationship with offender
Conditional: dependent on the offender’s repentance
Commitments to repentant offender:
no using this later
Rooted in God’s grace to us