The fully human person is an Actor, not a Reactor. The syndicated columnist, Sydney Harris, tells the story of accompanying his friend to a newsstand. The friend greeted the newsman very courteously, but in return received gruff and discourteous service. Accepting the newspaper which was shoved rudely in his direction, the friend of Harris politely smiled and wished the newsman a nice week-end. As the two friends walked down the street, the columnist asked:
“Does he always treat you so rudely?”
“Yes, unfortunately he does.”
“And are you always so polite and friendly to him?”
“Yes, I am.
“Why are you so nice to him when he is so unfriendly to You?”
“Because I don’t want him to decide how I’m going to act.”
Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am?, John Powell, page 38