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Extra Grace Required - Preparations for Small Group Ministry

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Introduction
Video - Skit Guys - Baggage, 10 minutes
Introduction
Unfortunately that skit is the truth of many of our lives at times. We compare ourselves to others, we get in conflicts and heap issues on ourselves and others that we love. Jesus promises us something different though, and this morning I want to dive into that.
We all have people that we don’t get along with easily compared to others, it is part of being human. The difficulty is that Jesus pushes us to treat others; including those we don’t get along with as lovingly as anyone.
Maybe it is that co-worker, sibling, or relative that you are going to have to see this upcoming Christmas season. Or even possibly, it is someone in this church. Conflict is part of being human, but more than that, conflict with others brings us face to face with our own conflicts and problems. Small groups bring conflict, because they bring relationship. The fact is though that we all need relationship.
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16. ON USING HOSPITALITY
Use hospitality to one another without grudging.
1 Peter 4:9 NIV
Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.
—1 Peter 4:9
Note the precise terminology of the text. It does not simply read: “Be hospitable,” though that, of course, is patently involved in the exhortation. It says: “Use hospitality.”
It is, to be sure, possible to use it in the wrong way. We can invite people to our homes not for their sakes but for our own. “Come and see what a beautiful and well-appointed house I have.” “Come and be impressed with my social graces or culinary competence.” “Come and keep me from being lonely.” If we were absolutely honest, we should have to admit that quite often our motives in this matter are pretty mixed.
Hospitality may, however, be used for higher ends. It may be used for God’s glory and for human good, with only incidental benefit to ourselves.
For consider:
1. Hospitality may be used to help us to break out of the closed circle of domestic life.
It may be a charmed circle but it can be a vicious circle. Its philosophy is epitomized in the probably apocryphal prayer: “O Lord, bless me and my wife, our John and his wife: us four and no more.”
Love for strangers is one of the most Godlike of qualities. The Greeks had a word for it—philoxenia—a beautiful word denoting a beautiful thing.
“Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares” (Heb. 13:2).
2. Hospitality may be used to enable us to give practical expression to the love which as Christians we claim to have for others.
One of the most searching and challenging texts in the New Testament is this of the apostle John: “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue, but in deed and in truth” (1 John 3:18). There is a tremendous amount of loving in word in the Christian church today—much pious patter, but little benevolent action. To wish people well in word and do nothing practical to improve their lot is sheer cant.
3. Hospitality may be used to win others to Christ.
A very ragged and unkempt man presented himself at the door of a Christian couple one day. He asked for a drink of water. They brought him in and brewed him tea. Then they thought he needed a bath: they gave him that. Next a new suit of clothes: they furnished him with that. Then a home: they lodged him in a room of their house. After a while the old man took ill and died. Although they never suspected it, he was rich and he left all of his fortune to his benefactors. With the money the Christian couple were able to pay for a university education for their son, there being no state subsidies in those days. He became a well-known Methodist minister—father of the famous David Frost. There is a saga of hospitality.
Galatians 6:1–6 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor.
Conclusion
I want to encourage each and everyone of you to get involved in small groups in the coming months. It is an important aspect of the church, church is more than just Sunday morning for two hours. It is a good opportunity to practice having good relationships with others and to throw away some of the baggage in your life.
This morning I want to talk about conflict, especially conflict within the church.
Joking aside, we need to learn how to say no. More than that we need to realize that authenticity is the best response in relationships. When we do this, we experience true relational intimacy. The difficulty is that...
Paul does not say “punish” or “pass judgment” but “restore.” Nor did he even stop there, but showing that he strongly desired them to be patient with those who stumbled he adds “in a spirit of gentleness.” He does not say “in gentleness” but “in a spirit of gentleness,” showing that this also is the will of the Spirit and that the capacity to correct another’s faults is a spiritual gift.
Let’s see what has to say about all of this.
Galatians 6:1–5 The Message
Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day’s out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ’s law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived. Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.
Galatians 6:7–10 The Message
Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life. So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us in the community of faith.
Verse 1, starts by saying to live creatively...looking for an opportunity to help or sow into your fellow man’s life, reserving your comments or what you think, for you yourself may need to be helped as well at any moment.
Galatians 6 The Message
Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day’s out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ’s law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived. Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. Be very sure now, you who have been trained to a self-sufficient maturity, that you enter into a generous common life with those who have trained you, sharing all the good things that you have and experience. Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life. So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us in the community of faith. Now, in these last sentences, I want to emphasize in the bold scrawls of my personal handwriting the immense importance of what I have written to you. These people who are attempting to force the ways of circumcision on you have only one motive: They want an easy way to look good before others, lacking the courage to live by a faith that shares Christ’s suffering and death. All their talk about the law is gas. They themselves don’t keep the law! And they are highly selective in the laws they do observe. They only want you to be circumcised so they can boast of their success in recruiting you to their side. That is contemptible! For my part, I am going to boast about nothing but the Cross of our Master, Jesus Christ. Because of that Cross, I have been crucified in relation to the world, set free from the stifling atmosphere of pleasing others and fitting into the little patterns that they dictate. Can’t you see the central issue in all this? It is not what you and I do—submit to circumcision, reject circumcision. It is what God is doing, and he is creating something totally new, a free life! All who walk by this standard are the true Israel of God—his chosen people. Peace and mercy on them! Quite frankly, I don’t want to be bothered anymore by these disputes. I have far more important things to do—the serious living of this faith. I bear in my body scars from my service to Jesus. May what our Master Jesus Christ gives freely be deeply and personally yours, my friends. Oh, yes!
Galatians 6 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. See what large letters I use as I write to you with my own hand! Those who want to impress people by means of the flesh are trying to compel you to be circumcised. The only reason they do this is to avoid being persecuted for the cross of Christ. Not even those who are circumcised keep the law, yet they want you to be circumcised that they may boast about your circumcision in the flesh. May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world. Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation. Peace and mercy to all who follow this rule—to the Israel of God. From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit, brothers and sisters. Amen.
Don’t pay so much attention to what others are doing, Pay attention to what God has given you to do. The Bible says, if you think you’re above that… You are mistaken and you have another thing coming!
Sometimes our will gets in the way, doesn’t it?
Our will is like a pressure switch. When it gets to be too much for us to handle, we activate our pressure switch and we shut off or shut down whatever we don’t think we can do or handle.
Our will is a manufactured pressure switch between us and God. A pressure switch is designed to limit and control how much gets let through it. We can have as little or as much of God we want in our lives at any given moment, and He has the resources to deliver!
When it comes to the things God has to offer, why would we ever want to limit the good things God has in store and planned for us?
What does all this mean? Why does Paul contradict himself when he says carry each other’s burdens, and each should carry their own load?
We will answer all this, but first let me ask a question.

Intimate Settings Bring Us Face To Face With Our Conflicts

Intimacy, love, affection. Simply put these words all define closeness. Closeness can be a good thing, like the love you share with your family. It can also be a bad thing, like the tight confines of a vehicle on your way back from a youth retreat. Bunch of sweaty kids that need a shower, and all you smell is dirty socks. Tight spaces, or intimacy brings us closer together. Jesus desires the church to be like a family. Even if we have to smell each others sweaty feet at times.
How many in this room are married?
How has your life changed since you have become married?
Most likely you live in a different place (house, apartment etc) but more importantly you are a changed individual.
First year of college story compared to others years of college.
When I got married I realized that I wasn’t as perfect as I thought I was. It has caused me to be more considerate, to consider someone before myself. That is the point of marriage, to cause us to grow. More than that, that is the point of relationships.
Story of first year of college.
Proverbs 27:17 NIV
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
This is why deepened relationships within the context of church is so important.
The problem is that, relationships involve conflict. Not only that, but it is easy to look at the faults of others and ignore our own. While sharpening can happen, so can things that are detrimental to relationships.
What do I mean by that?
Matthew 7:4–5 NIV
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Matthew 7:4–5 NIV
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Matthew 7:4 NIV
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
Matthew 7:4–5 NIV
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
In fact speaks about much of the same thing, only addressing it in the issue of comparison. It says:
Galatians 6:3–4a NIV
If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else,
Galatians 6:3–4 NIV
If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else,
Galatians 6:3–6 NIV
If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor.
Paul is not condoning pride in ourselves here, but rather is saying don’t pay so much attention to what others are doing, Pay attention to what God has given you to do. The Bible says, if you think you’re above that… You are mistaken and you have another thing coming!The book of Galatians is all about the comparison game. The truth is though is that comparison kills. It kills individual church gatherings, and the global church of Jesus.
Don’t pay so much attention to what others are doing, Pay attention to what God has given you to do. The Bible says, if you think you’re above that… You are mistaken and you have another thing coming!
“from the cross to the city of God, there are ten million paths, and the Christian must walk where he believes the Lord wants him to walk. No man may choose another’s route from the cross to the city of God. We may advise, we may cite our own experiences, we may pray, we may point to the Word of God, we may seek to enlighten, but we may never command the conscience of another believer.”
The constant problem within the Bible and today is that we aren’t all alike. Galatians tells us a story of Jewish believers that were imposing their ways upon Gentile Christians. Romans tells the same story, as well as many other parts of the Bible.
The strong may flaunt their knowledge and freedom and possibly offend others in doing so; they are insensitive. The weak may try to come up with rules or regulations to follow as a believing community that is in opposition. “Love for a Christian brother rules out the passing of judgment, the dangerous practice of both weak and strong.” Paul is calling the weak and strong to be strong in the faith, but also sensitive to the needs of others.
How do we deal with conflict in the context of relationships within church?
How do we deal with conflict in the context of relationships within church?
Does it mean that we just ignore the issues of our brothers and sisters?
Galatians 6:1 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.
If we are to restore someone else, it makes us look at ourselves to see whether or not we need to be restored closer to God. Not only that, but when we speak into someone’s life is opens the door in the future for that individual to do the same to us. The important thing to remember is that if someone is in sin they should be restored gently.
The point is that we are in this for each other. If someone is in sin they should be restored gently
Not talked behind their back.
Not ripped apart on social media.
Not judged or condemned.
But we cannot just ignore the issue. We all are broken people, and at times need the counsel of others in our lives. We do need to know when to speak up and when to hold our tongue though.
Proverbs 15:22 NIV
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
Counsel is good, but at times we want to just listen to ourselves. We say “my way is the highway.”
This is why humility is important in the body of Christ.
Humility is the absence of pride or arrogance.
We must emulate humility within the body of Christ in order to have healthy churches.
John 13:35 NIV
By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Paul does not say “punish” or “pass judgment” but “restore.” Nor did he even stop there, but showing that he strongly desired them to be patient with those who stumbled he adds “in a spirit of gentleness.” He does not say “in gentleness” but “in a spirit of gentleness,” showing that this also is the will of the Spirit and that the capacity to correct another’s faults is a spiritual gift.
Healthy relationships are only created when healthy boundaries are in place.
Galatians 6:2 NIV
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2 NIV
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
This is where the church becomes the church.
We see someone too weak to carry their load, we don’t just watch and give them well wishes.
We don’t just say “let me pray about that.”
It means helping others and also asking for help. Being present in that time of need, to what their specific needs are. We cannot be all things to all people, but what we do have we can give to others. No, we should give to others.
Galatians 6:3–6 NIV
If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor.
Galatians 6:3 NIV
If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves.
Galatians 6:4b NIV
Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else,
Galatians 6:4 NIV
Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else,
INSERT THREE IMPORTANT POINTS FOR CHRISTIAN SMALL GROUPS (6 MIN)
Galatians 6:5 NIV
for each one should carry their own load.

THREE IMPORTANT POINTS FOR CHRISTIAN SMALL GROUPS

Benefits Of Healthy Christian Community

Galatians 6:2 NIV
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
“from the cross to the city of God, there are ten million paths, and the Christian must walk where he believes the Lord wants him to walk. No man may choose another’s route from the cross to the city of God. We may advise, we may cite our own experiences, we may pray, we may point to the Word of God, we may seek to enlighten, but we may never command the conscience of another believer.”
“from the cross to the city of God, there are ten million paths, and the Christian must walk where he believes the Lord wants him to walk. No man may choose another’s route from the cross to the city of God. We may advise, we may cite our own experiences, we may pray, we may point to the Word of God, we may seek to enlighten, but we may never command the conscience of another believer.”
“from the cross to the city of God, there are ten million paths, and the Christian must walk where he believes the Lord wants him to walk. No man may choose another’s route from the cross to the city of God. We may advise, we may cite our own experiences, we may pray, we may point to the Word of God, we may seek to enlighten, but we may never command the conscience of another believer.”
1 John 4:10–12 NIV
This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
“from the cross to the city of God, there are ten million paths, and the Christian must walk where he believes the Lord wants him to walk. No man may choose another’s route from the cross to the city of God. We may advise, we may cite our own experiences, we may pray, we may point to the Word of God, we may seek to enlighten, but we may never command the conscience of another believer.”
Christian Community can be challenging at times. We are in Christ, but we don’t always emulate who Christ is. Not all of us believe, and think exactly the same.

Why We Need To Be Mature In Challenging Relationships

Healthy relationships are only created when healthy boundaries are in place.
The Book of Galatians is all about Paul addressing issues within the church. A small group of religious people were convincing and telling new believers that they had to do everything that they told them. Paul writes to say not to listen and to make the central issues central. Keep Jesus at the centre, and all the grey areas we need to respect others.
It doesn’t stop there though. This isn’t just for specific people; the leaders. Or those people that are just more naturally patient. Jesus calls us to truly love our Christian brothers and sisters. In fact He says:
John 13:35 NIV
By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Our love within here is supposed to be an example to the love that we need to have for those that we know that don’t know Jesus. This is why calls us all to:
Galatians 6:5 NIV
for each one should carry their own load.
We all have a part to play, and it’s non-negotiable to do if we want to be in Christ.
“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.”
John Jackson, superintendent of a Methodist mission in London’s east end, tells how not long ago he was walking along a street in Whitechapel when he saw in a shop window a notice which caught his eye and stirred his imagination. The notice read: AMAZING GRACE! SUPPLIES EXHAUSTED! COMPLETELY SOLD OUT!
The reference was, of course, to the popular record. Never before, to my recollection, has a great hymn been at the top of the Hit Parade.
Thank God, supplies of His grace have not run out!
Amazing grace! Grace is always amazing. If it does not amaze us, we do not really know what it is.
1. Saving grace is amazing.
“Grace … came by Jesus Christ,” John tells us (1:17). Everything about Jesus was gracious. His personality was gracious! “The Lord is gracious” (). His teaching was gracious: “They wondered at the gracious words which proceeded out of his mouth” (). His whole redemptive ministry was gracious: “Ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.” ().
2. Sustaining grace is amazing.
Recently I purchased a ball-point pen in a Christian bookshop. I was in urgent need of the pen, and although the assistant at the counter warned me it wasn’t a good one and offered indeed to let me have it for nothing, I insisted on paying for it, as no other was available. The assistant was right. The pen was a dud. At least a dozen times I tried to coax it to write, but without success. Then I looked at a text printed in gold lettering on the pen. The text was: “My grace is sufficient for thee”!
3. Saintly grace is amazing.
It is a reflection on the quality of our common and commonplace Christian living that when a really Christian act is performed, it fairly takes our breath away. We are amazed at it. George Bernard Shaw used cynically to say that there has been in human history only one Christian, and that He got Himself crucified. It is scarcely an exaggeration. Most of us who bear His name are so monstrously unlike Him. Ghandi, a non-Christian, shames us. There was a Christlike amazingness about him. “It was his life that proved to me,” wrote K. Matthew Simon, “more than anything else that Christianity is a practicable religion even in the twentieth century.”

John Jackson, superintendent of a Methodist mission in London’s east end, tells how not long ago he was walking along a street in Whitechapel when he saw in a shop window a notice which caught his eye and stirred his imagination. The notice read: AMAZING GRACE! SUPPLIES EXHAUSTED! COMPLETELY SOLD OUT!

The reference was, of course, to the popular record. Never before, to my recollection, has a great hymn been at the top of the Hit Parade.

Thank God, supplies of His grace have not run out!

Amazing grace! Grace is always amazing. If it does not amaze us, we do not really know what it is.

1. Saving grace is amazing.

“Grace … came by Jesus Christ,” John tells us (1:17). Everything about Jesus was gracious. His personality was gracious! “The Lord is gracious” (1 Peter 2:3). His teaching was gracious: “They wondered at the gracious words which proceeded out of his mouth” (Luke 4:22). His whole redemptive ministry was gracious: “Ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.” (2 Cor. 8:9).

2. Sustaining grace is amazing.

Recently I purchased a ball-point pen in a Christian bookshop. I was in urgent need of the pen, and although the assistant at the counter warned me it wasn’t a good one and offered indeed to let me have it for nothing, I insisted on paying for it, as no other was available. The assistant was right. The pen was a dud. At least a dozen times I tried to coax it to write, but without success. Then I looked at a text printed in gold lettering on the pen. The text was: “My grace is sufficient for thee”!

3. Saintly grace is amazing.

It is a reflection on the quality of our common and commonplace Christian living that when a really Christian act is performed, it fairly takes our breath away. We are amazed at it. George Bernard Shaw used cynically to say that there has been in human history only one Christian, and that He got Himself crucified. It is scarcely an exaggeration. Most of us who bear His name are so monstrously unlike Him. Ghandi, a non-Christian, shames us. There was a Christlike amazingness about him. “It was his life that proved to me,” wrote K. Matthew Simon, “more than anything else that Christianity is a practicable religion even in the twentieth century.”

This can sometimes be the sad truth, that we aren’t always the best at loving others. We must begin by loving those within these walls, or we will find it difficult to love those outside effectively.

Why We Need To Be Mature In Challenging Relationships

Galatians 6:1 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.
Why does Paul warn us to watch ourselves?
Hebrews 12:1 NIV
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,
Hebrews 12:1 NIV
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,
Hebrews 12:1 NIV
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,
Sin easily entagles us, that is why Paul is warning us of being tempted. It is a great joy to bear the burdens of others, but it is also a burden. That is why it is important to remember part one of which says “you who live by the Spirit.” It is not for the faint of heart, and it is not for those that are in a place of spiritual weakness.
We must be spiritually mature, the difficulty is how do we measure spiritual maturity?
Christ Is Our Goal
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Marks of spiritual maturity

Spiritual understanding See also ; ; ; ;
Spiritual understanding Col 2:2 See also Ro 15:14; 1Co 2:6; 14:20; Eph 1:17-18; Heb 5:12-6:1
Spiritual Understanding
Colossians 2:2 NIV
My goal is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ,
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Discernment of God’s will and changed behaviour Col 1:9-10 See also Ro 12:2; 1Co 3:1-3; Gal 5:22-23; Eph 4:22-23; Php 1:9-11; 2Th 1:3
Discernment of God’s will and changed behaviour See also ; ; ; ; ;
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Stability Col 4:12 See also Eph 4:14; 2Pe 3:17-18
Discernment Of God’s Will And Changed Behaviour
Stability See also ;
Colossians 1:9–10 NIV
For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God,
Colossians 1:9–10 NIV
For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God,
Care for the weaker brother See also
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Care for the weaker brother Ro 15:1 See also Gal 6:1-2
Stability
Colossians 4:12 NIV
Epaphras, who is one of you and a servant of Christ Jesus, sends greetings. He is always wrestling in prayer for you, that you may stand firm in all the will of God, mature and fully assured.
Maturity is to be the aim of the Christian
Colossians 4:12 NIV
Epaphras, who is one of you and a servant of Christ Jesus, sends greetings. He is always wrestling in prayer for you, that you may stand firm in all the will of God, mature and fully assured.
See also ;
See also ;
The process of maturity
Care for the weaker brother
Php 3:13-15 See also Lk 8:14 a reason for spiritual immaturity; 2Co 7:1; 13:11; 1Ti 6:11
Romans 15:1 NIV
We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.
Galatians 6:1–2 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
God causes spiritual growth See also ;
Galatians 6:1–2 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
The process of maturity
How do you know if you are in the process of spiritual maturity?
Spiritual Understanding (comprehensive of the Bible)
Discernment of God’s Will and Changed Behaviour (Spirit’s leading)

Spiritual Undersanding

2. Discernment of God’s Will and Changed Behaviour
Stability

Discernment of God’s Will and Changed Behaviour

Possessing gifts of ministry See also

Stability

Care For The Weaker Brother

Care For The Weaker Brother

4. Care For The Weaker Brother
God causes spiritual growth Php 1:6 See also Gal 3:3; Heb 10:14

The Process Of Maturity

See also ;
Possessing gifts of ministry Eph 4:11-13 See also Ro 1:11
God Causes Spiritual Growth
Being equipped by the word of God See also ; ;
We don’t grow on our own. When I was a kid I wanted to be in the NBA. I loved basketball as a child, and still do. I would spend countless hours practicing in my driveway my skills, setting up obstacles as frozen opponents. What excited me the most about basketball was when a player performed a slam dunk. I longed to be able to do that. I would practice and practice how high I could jump, and when I was really young pray that God would make me really tall. That never happened. I am not abnormally tall, and now as an adult I can just reach the rim on a regulation basketball net. The point is that no matter how hard I tried I could not cause growth in myself. I could not predestine how tall I would be.
We don’t cause our own spiritual growth, God does. We only contribute to it. I had to work on how high I could jump as a kid, but God controlled how tall I was. We need to be in the Bible, and in relation with other Christians, but God gives us the spiritual maturity.
Galatians 3:3 NIV
Are you so foolish? After beginning by means of the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?
Being equipped by the word of God 2Ti 3:16-17 See also Ro 15:4; 1Pe 2:2; 1Jn 2:5
Persevering through trials See also ; ;
Jesus As The Example of Servanthood
Being equipped by the word of God See also ; ;
Possessing Gifts Of Ministry
Ephesians 4:11–13 NIV
So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.
See also
Persevering through trials Ro 5:3-5 See also Heb 2:10; Jas 1:3-4; 1Pe 5:10
Romans 1:11 NIV
I long to see you so that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to make you strong—
The concern of the pastor is to help others to maturity
Persevering Through Trials
Illustration
The concern of the pastor is to help others to maturity
Fifty-Two Invitation Illustrations 36. The Faith to Die In
Col 1:28-29 See also 2Co 13:9-10; Gal 4:19
The concern of the pastor is to help others to maturity Col 1:28-29 See also 2Co 13:9-10; Gal 4:19
Galatians 6:1–18 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. See what large letters I use as I write to you with my own hand! Those who want to impress people by means of the flesh are trying to compel you to be circumcised. The only reason they do this is to avoid being persecuted for the cross of Christ. Not even those who are circumcised keep the law, yet they want you to be circumcised that they may boast about your circumcision in the flesh. May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world. Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation. Peace and mercy to all who follow this rule—to the Israel of God. From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit, brothers and sisters. Amen.
Conclusion
See also: ; ; ;
Many years ago, in old London, a young Christian girl married a man who was an avowed atheist. She dearly loved him and hoped to win him to a belief in God, but her hopes were in vain. Later, when children began to come to them, he made a bargain with his wife. She was to be allowed a free hand in the religious training of any girls that might be born but he was to have complete control of any boys, and neither was to interfere with the other in religious matters.

Sharing in the Fellowship of a Common Devotional Life

The first child born to them was a boy, and the mother shuddered as she heard the father pour his blasphemous teachings into the childish ears. Later a little girl came to bless the home, and quite early in life the mother began to take the little one to Sunday School and church. The wee girlie learned the sweet hymns of childhood, such as “Jesus Loves Me” and often sang them to her brother. The parents’ agreement did not bind the children, and the brother proved an apt pupil as his little sister told him the stories she learned in Sunday School of the Saviour who loves the children, and seeds of faith and love were sown in the little lad’s heart.

Sharing In The Fellowship Of A Common Devotional Life

One day, however, when the boy was about seven years of age, he was taken suddenly ill. The parents were stricken with grief when the physician said that there was but little hope of the boy’s recovery. The father who except in the matter of religion, was a loving husband and a kind father, was as a man distracted, for his boy was as the apple of his eye.
Acts 2:42 NIV
They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.
He called the best physicians, and himself stayed by the boy’s bedside day and night; but nothing could save his child. The little lad grew weaker, and one evening touched his Daddy’s hand and said:

Worshipping Together

“Daddy, the doctor said I was going to die, didn’t he?”

Hebrews 13:16 NIV
And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Worshipping Together

“Oh, my boy, don’t talk like that! You must get better, Daddy can’t spare you yet,” sobbed the father.
Acts 20:34–35 NIV
You yourselves know that these hands of mine have supplied my own needs and the needs of my companions. In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ ”
Psalm

Praying Together

Showing hospitality
Sharing money and possessions

Breaking Bread Together

True Fellowship Means With Those in Need

The collection for believers in Judea

Showing Hospitality

Sharing Money and Possessions

Strengthening One Another In Fellowship Together

John 13:1–17 NIV
It was just before the Passover Festival. Jesus knew that the hour had come for him to leave this world and go to the Father. Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end. The evening meal was in progress, and the devil had already prompted Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot, to betray Jesus. Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?” Jesus replied, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” “No,” said Peter, “you shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered, “Unless I wash you, you have no part with me.” “Then, Lord,” Simon Peter replied, “not just my feet but my hands and my head as well!” Jesus answered, “Those who have had a bath need only to wash their feet; their whole body is clean. And you are clean, though not every one of you.” For he knew who was going to betray him, and that was why he said not every one was clean. When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.
“But, Daddy, I know I can’t get better. I am going to die, and I want to ask you a question.”
Galatians 6:1–2 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Romans 14:1 NIV
Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters.
Romans 15:1 NIV
We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.
1 Thessalonians 5:14 NIV
And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone.
Bearing with the weak
Strengthening the weak
Encouraging one another
Putting the needs of others first

True Fel

“What is it, my boy?”
1 Peter 3:8 NIV
Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.
“Daddy, whose faith shall I die in, yours or mother’s?”
Romans 12:16 NIV
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
The grief stricken man turned his head from the child unable, or unwilling to answer. His religion was being tested to the full. Would it stand the test? Now was his chance to deny the existence of any hereafter. Surely there was nothing to be afraid of!
Ephesians 4:2–3 NIV
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.
“Daddy, I’m dying. Whose faith shall I die in, yours or mother’s?”
Philippians 2:1–4 NIV
Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
He who had boasted that there was no God, no Heaven and no Hell, dare not deceive his dying child, so he shouted with fierce earnestness:
Colossians 3:12–14 NIV
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
“For God’s sake, my boy, die in your mother’s faith. Don’t die in mine.”
Showing equal concern for all
Read call to do likewise again.
Unless your religion is good enough to commend to your children, whether for this present life or the life beyond, it is not worth having.
Examples of fellowship
—T. DeCourcy Rayner
Failure to exhibit true fellowship
The implications behind Jesus washing feet.
Fifty-Two Invitation Illustrations 36. The Faith to Die In

Many years ago, in old London, a young Christian girl married a man who was an avowed atheist. She dearly loved him and hoped to win him to a belief in God, but her hopes were in vain. Later, when children began to come to them, he made a bargain with his wife. She was to be allowed a free hand in the religious training of any girls that might be born but he was to have complete control of any boys, and neither was to interfere with the other in religious matters.

The first child born to them was a boy, and the mother shuddered as she heard the father pour his blasphemous teachings into the childish ears. Later a little girl came to bless the home, and quite early in life the mother began to take the little one to Sunday School and church. The wee girlie learned the sweet hymns of childhood, such as “Jesus Loves Me” and often sang them to her brother. The parents’ agreement did not bind the children, and the brother proved an apt pupil as his little sister told him the stories she learned in Sunday School of the Saviour who loves the children, and seeds of faith and love were sown in the little lad’s heart.

One day, however, when the boy was about seven years of age, he was taken suddenly ill. The parents were stricken with grief when the physician said that there was but little hope of the boy’s recovery. The father who except in the matter of religion, was a loving husband and a kind father, was as a man distracted, for his boy was as the apple of his eye.

He called the best physicians, and himself stayed by the boy’s bedside day and night; but nothing could save his child. The little lad grew weaker, and one evening touched his Daddy’s hand and said:

“Daddy, the doctor said I was going to die, didn’t he?”

“Oh, my boy, don’t talk like that! You must get better, Daddy can’t spare you yet,” sobbed the father.

“But, Daddy, I know I can’t get better. I am going to die, and I want to ask you a question.”

“What is it, my boy?”

“Daddy, whose faith shall I die in, yours or mother’s?”

The grief stricken man turned his head from the child unable, or unwilling to answer. His religion was being tested to the full. Would it stand the test? Now was his chance to deny the existence of any hereafter. Surely there was nothing to be afraid of!

“Daddy, I’m dying. Whose faith shall I die in, yours or mother’s?”

He who had boasted that there was no God, no Heaven and no Hell, dare not deceive his dying child, so he shouted with fierce earnestness:

“For God’s sake, my boy, die in your mother’s faith. Don’t die in mine.”

Unless your religion is good enough to commend to your children, whether for this present life or the life beyond, it is not worth having.

—T. DeCourcy Rayner

Jesus did this with his followers first, and then commanded them to do the same.
Unity is important, more importantly unity in the church is important. We need each other for when times get difficult. If we don’t have that then things can quickly turn much like the result of this story. We must learn to carry our brothers and sisters, but also carry our own load.
How do we grow in maturity?
Romans 5:3–5 NIV
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
Hebrews 2:10 NIV
In bringing many sons and daughters to glory, it was fitting that God, for whom and through whom everything exists, should make the pioneer of their salvation perfect through what he suffered.
Making God central in our lives
James 1:3–4 NIV
because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Looking to Jesus as our example
Service - both for those outside the church and those inside the church (translation; service is also important among us in this room)
Conclusion

“The conclusion is that believers are to make every effort to do those things that lead to peace and to mutual upbuilding”

How is
Grow in spiritual maturity
Be genuine - help those that need help and ask for help when you need it

“The conclusion is that believers are to make every effort to do those things that lead to peace and to mutual upbuilding” and this begins by looking at the servanthood of Christ as a model for Christian unity.
Galatians 6 NIV
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. See what large letters I use as I write to you with my own hand! Those who want to impress people by means of the flesh are trying to compel you to be circumcised. The only reason they do this is to avoid being persecuted for the cross of Christ. Not even those who are circumcised keep the law, yet they want you to be circumcised that they may boast about your circumcision in the flesh. May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world. Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation. Peace and mercy to all who follow this rule—to the Israel of God. From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit, brothers and sisters. Amen.
Get involved
and this begins by looking at the servanthood of Christ as a model for Christian unity.
Deal with conflict

and this begins by looking at the servanthood of Christ as a model for Christian unity.

Who can you serve this week?
Grow in spiritual maturity
We all have a part to play, and I want to challenge all of us to get to know people that we aren’t familiar with. You have something to offer, and it is important to be a part of relational ministry within the church.
Now I want you to think about the person that God calls you to love this week
Who’s dirty feet will you wash this week?
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