As people, it is apparent that we are remarkably bad at choosing people for the best reasons. We are predictably drawn to what we see, to the outward appearance. This is often the natural inception of our understanding of others, and this is not always a bad thing. However, we have to move to a much more accurate assessment of someone by viewing who they are in the inside. When we miss this, we end up with all kinds of trouble. We elect, hire, marry, reward attractive people, or people who perform well, but miss the much more important beauty of so many who may not have the appearance of others. In the same way, we have learned to have the outside of our cups clean and decorated in specific ways in order to be accepted.