Dating Sermon
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· 12 viewsIn this sermon we take a look at dating habits established by the world and those that pertain to God. While the Bible doesn't speak on the dating it does speak about the end result of dating in our culture, marriage. We backtrack what a good spouse will look like in order to know what the singles in Christ should both pursue and be. In addition to that the challenge is given to have the world see God in those same habits.
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Don’t Thank Me
In a concert in Chicago, Harry Lauder, Scottish singer and songwriter, sang to an overflowing audience. At the conclusion, the audience stood en masse, and applauded uproariously. After the applause subsided, the audience said in unison, “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Showing splendid humility, Lauder replied, “Don’t thank me! Thank the good God who put the songs in my heart!”
Tan, P. L. (1996). Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations: Signs of the Times (p. 479). Garland, TX: Bible Communications, Inc.
Don’t Thank Me
In a concert in Chicago, Harry Lauder, Scottish singer and songwriter, sang to an overflowing audience. At the conclusion, the audience stood en masse, and applauded uproariously. After the applause subsided, the audience said in unison, “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Showing splendid humility, Lauder replied, “Don’t thank me! Thank the good God who put the songs in my heart!”
Tan, P. L. (1996). Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations: Signs of the Times (p. 479). Garland, TX: Bible Communications, Inc.
Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations 1870 Don’t Thank Me
1870 Don’t Thank Me
In a concert in Chicago, Harry Lauder, Scottish singer and songwriter, sang to an overflowing audience. At the conclusion, the audience stood en masse, and applauded uproariously. After the applause subsided, the audience said in unison, “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Showing splendid humility, Lauder replied, “Don’t thank me! Thank the good God who put the songs in my heart!”
This musician chose to allow God to get the glory. He played the music but God gave him the ability! God was the source of talent and great happiness that others obviously felt through the music. The question I would pose to the listener is this. Is God glorified in all you do?
Don’t Thank Me
Is God glorified in all you do?
In a concert in Chicago, Harry Lauder, Scottish singer and songwriter, sang to an overflowing audience. At the conclusion, the audience stood en masse, and applauded uproariously. After the applause subsided, the audience said in unison, “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Showing splendid humility, Lauder replied, “Don’t thank me! Thank the good God who put the songs in my heart!”
31 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God.
Paul challenges the church at Corinth to do everything for the glory of God. He tells them as they argue over whether or not it is OK to eat food offered to idols, to always give glory to God. No matter what! And what that means is this; Can the nature of God be seen in what you do? Can the world see who God is based on your attitude? Can the world see God based on who you are?
Tan, P. L. (1996). Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations: Signs of the Times (p. 479). Garland, TX: Bible Communications, Inc.
glory (divine) n. — the manifest presentation of God’s infinite and majestic nature; normally conveyed to humanity as superlative brightness.
What is glory?
Can the nature of God be seen in what we do?
Can the world see who God is based on our attitudes?
Can the world see God based on who we are?
3 Ways the World sees dating
A means of finding a spouse.
An eternal BF or GF
A means of the hookup. (casual sex)
Today we will examine dating. While the Bible may not speak on the topic, as the culture of the Bible is very different from ours, it does speak on what should be the end result. Marriage should be the goal of dating or courting. The world may have us to examine only physical attributes, credit scores, and social media profiles but I believe that God asks us to take a closer look. I believe that God would be pleased if we glorified Him in our dating. Showing the world the nature of God based on who we date and how we behave while dating.
A Truly Fine Woman!
A Truly Fine Woman!
When you are a man seeking a woman you may have a list of things that you would like to see in your perfect woman! You may seek out a coke bottle shape, 2 liter shape, Oprah rich, Michelle Obama powerful, or Angela Davis militant! But I want you to understand that God calls us to look in a different way. In order to glorify God in your dating you need to see her through God’s eyes! In Samuel is tasked by God to go and find a king to replace Saul.
1 The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you grieve over Saul? I have rejected him from being king over Israel. Fill your horn with oil and set out; I will send you to Jesse the Bethlehemite, for I have provided for myself a king among his sons.”
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6 When they came, he looked on Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed is now before the Lord.” 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
12 He sent and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, and had beautiful eyes, and was handsome. The Lord said, “Rise and anoint him; for this is the one.”
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“…for the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
The Bible does not specifically speak about dating but we can take the end result and back track what a desirable, or truly fine woman looks like from the perspective of looking at a Spirit filled wife.
A Woman Capable of Affection
A Woman Capable of Affection
4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
Illustrations for Biblical Preaching Affection, Child’s Need of
Affection, Child’s Need of
Salimbene, a thirteenth-century historian, wrote this about the attempt of King Frederick II to raise children without maternal affection: “He wanted to find out what kind of speech children would have when they grew up if they spoke to no one beforehand. So he bade foster mothers and nurses to suckle the children, to bathe and wash them but in no way to prattle with them, or to speak to them, for he wanted to learn whether they would speak the Hebrew language, which was the oldest, or Greek, or Latin, or Arabic, or perhaps the language of their parents, of whom they had been born. But he labored in vain, because the children all died. For they could not live without the petting and joyful faces and loving words of their foster mothers.” (Cited in Gary Collins, Fractured Personalities, [Carol Stream, Ill.: Creation House] pp. 35-36.)
If you are dating a woman who is incapable of being a good friend or one who can show affection (Tender attachment) then that’s a sign. Humanity needs affection. You need affection, your possible future children will need affection!
A Woman Who Understands Respect
A Woman Who Understands Respect
22 Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord.
33 Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and a wife should respect her husband.
One thing I was told by one minister is that sometimes you have to sit back and watch people. You have to observe the actions of people when they are behaving as they naturally do. But for this purpose you do so to see what you as a man will have to later deal with in your headship of a Christian home.
A Woman With a Meek & Quiet Spirit
A Woman With a Meek & Quiet Spirit
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,
4 rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight. 5 It was in this way long ago that the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves by accepting the authority of their husbands.
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Instead of seeking to have external beauty as a main priority, which fades, you want to seek a woman who is more concerned with having meekness and being gentle.
Some women are like interviewers at a TV award show, their first question is “So who are you wearing tonight?!”.
You want a woman who clothes herself in meekness and a quiet spirit.
Meek- enduring injury with patience, not violent, or gentle.
Quiet or tranquil- Being untroubled and free from disturbances
This is a woman who is more concerned with putting on the meekness than she is putting on Mac, more concerned with putting on the peacefulness of God than putting on a purse made by Gucci, more concerned with the D.B.R than D&B.
A Woman Who is Modest
A Woman Who is Modest
9 also that the women should dress themselves modestly and decently in suitable clothing, not with their hair braided, or with gold, pearls, or expensive clothes,
Adorn- To adorn means to make oneself look better by. To dress up.
Modest- self-conscious modesty n. — a self-conscious timidity which fears committing an act unworthy of oneself or representing oneself in an unworthy manner.
So Paul tells Timothy that women ought to make themselves look better by being conscious of misrepresenting themselves in their dress/clothing.
A Woman Who Has a Relationship With God
A Woman Who Has a Relationship With God
3 and I will make you swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I live,
I remember seeing fixed up Hondas when I was a younger man. They would put a kit on it and have it looking like it was a car that Vin Diesel himself would race in! And at times you will find people in relationships when they are not connected to Christ will put the Jesus Christ mod kit on just to get you to buy! Putting a kit on a Honda does not make it an ideal sports car, if you want a sports car you have to invest in a sports car! Don’t you buy the hype, find a woman with a real spiritual fruit producing relationship with God!
If she is faithful before you and not because of you, then you won’t have to work hard to lead her that way.
If she is faithful before you and not because of you, then you won’t have to work hard to lead her that way.
Young men when you are dating, your purpose ought not be to play games with young ladies. Practice habits that will carry over into marriage. Choose someone who the nature of God is seen in.
Desirable Traits In A Man
Desirable Traits In A Man
A Man That Understands A Woman is NOT a Man
A Man That Understands A Woman is NOT a Man
1500 Illustrations for Biblical Preaching Marriage, Role of Wife
Charles Swindoll tells of being married ten years before he became aware of the value of being grateful for the differences between his wife and himself. He was often irritated that she didn’t view things exactly as he did. She wasn’t argumentative, only expressive of her honest feelings. But he took this as a lack of submission and told her so. Time and time again they locked horns until finally God showed him from the Genesis 2:18–25 passage that his wife was different because God had made her different, and she was more valuable to him because of those differences. She was not designed to be his echo but to be his counterpart, a necessary and needed individual to help him become all God wanted him to be.852
Your wife should be the peanut butter to your jelly. She was created to be WITH you and not a replication of you!
7 Husbands, in the same way, show consideration for your wives in your life together, paying honor to the woman as the weaker sex, since they too are also heirs of the gracious gift of life—so that nothing may hinder your prayers.
16 To the woman he said,
“I will greatly increase your pangs in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children,
yet your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”
Find a man that understands it is his job to be the spiritual leader. One that will not make you carry the load of headship. If he’s not an addition to your life then he is going to be a subtraction. He must understand that you are different yet valuable.
A Man Who Is Faithful
A Man Who Is Faithful
17 Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for sharing with strangers.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
May her breasts satisfy you at all times;
may you be intoxicated always by her love.
Don’t date a man with wandering eyes or one who will not make you his ONLY one! Practice makes perfect.
A Man Who Will Put God First
A Man Who Will Put God First
26 “Whoever comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and even life itself, cannot be my disciple.
You want to find a man that will put God first. Even above you.
A Man Who Will Consult With You
A Man Who Will Consult With You
4 So Jacob sent and called Rachel and Leah into the field where his flock was, 5 and said to them, “I see that your father does not regard me as favorably as he did before. But the God of my father has been with me. 6 You know that I have served your father with all my strength; 7 yet your father has cheated me and changed my wages ten times, but God did not permit him to harm me.
What does it mean to consult?
1con•sult \kən-ˈsəlt\ verb
[Middle French or Latin; Middle French consulter, from Latin consultare, frequentative of consulere to deliberate, counsel, consult] verb transitive 1527
1: to have regard to: CONSIDER
2 a: to ask the advice or opinion of 〈consult a doctor〉
b: to refer to 〈consult a dictionary〉 verb intransitive
Seek a man who will lay discuss what is going on with him and plans that involve the both of you.
A Man Like Adam
A Man Like Adam
8 And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the east; and there he put the man whom he had formed.
Has his own spot
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to till it and keep it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You may freely eat of every tree of the garden;
Has a job
24 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh.
He forsakes all familiar things and hangs onto a good woman
Conclusion
Conclusion
This is not an exhaustive list. But instead of memorizing the list examining the opposite sex, be what a Godly spouse needs. If you are a single woman, be the description of a godly partner. If you are a single man, be the description of a godly partner. Then pray that God causes your paths to cross with someone else who is as ready as you are. Pray for someone that will strengthen and challenge you in spiritual areas where you are weak. Who you choose to date should be representative of who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Are you showing the world a good example of what to seek out in a spouse. Can the world see God in whom you choose to date. Again we look at
31 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God.
Can others see God through your dating habits?
Is God revealed when...
we choose fornication instead of preserving our virginity?
we publicly grope/molest our boyfriends/girlfriends
we give the perception of fornication by having live in boyfriends/girlfriends?
we have multiple girlfriends/boyfriends?
we don’t choose abstinence after if we lose our virginity?
Be the you that the world needs to see in order to save the institution of marriage and family. Give the world hope that God knows what He is talking about. Give the world a reason to seek God through the stability of your relationships.