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Wives and Husbands

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We continue to walk through Peter’s household code.
Here we have Peter giving practical exhortations to the church for what living as sojourners and exiles looks like.
We have noticed that Peter is especially focusing on this call to submit or to be subject and Peter is focusing on those within the culture that would be vulnerable to abuse or injustice.
Those that would be considered weaker in some way or another,
politically, socially, physically
And because of this weakness they may be open to abuse or injustice
The one exception to this rule is that in the passage before us this evening Peter speaks to wives and to husbands.
Wives as those who are physically weaker and therefore possibly vulnerable to physical abuse or manipulation.
And yet he also addresses Christian husbands as well.

Wives called to submit to their husbands (v.1-2)

Likewise, with this word Peter picks back up with his exhortations after giving us the beautiful section of 2:21-25
Just as citizens should submit to ruling authorities and slaves should submit to their masters wives are exhorted to submit to their husbands.
Notice this command is not to women in general but to wives and the command is specifically for wives to submit to their husbands.
Notice this command is not to women in general but to wives and the command is specifically for wives to submit to their husbands.
Now lets stop and think about this command some because this command is rejected in our day.
Even by some that would say that they are Bible believing Christians they would say that we are not to take this command as applying to us today.
Their argument would be that just as slavery was wrong and yet Peter commanded slaves to submit to their masters so also he calls wives to submit to their husbands
In other words in Peters day their were cultural expectations that were wrong but instead of trying to start a cultural reveloution Peter called Christians to live peacefully within their cultural context but they would go on to argue that we should seek to change culture if possible to do so peacefully.
Now their are parts to this i agree with wholeheartedly, their have been pieces of culture, things that we have seen through out history that needed to change and by God’s grace the preaching of the gospel and Christian morality has changed a lot of those things, so that when the gospel, when the church can be salt and light and cause change in a culture for good then we should praise God for that.
And I would agree wholeheartedly that slavery is an example of that.
But where i disagree with this argument is the assertion that a call for a slave to submit to his master is equal to the call for a wife to submit to her husband.
Let me explain, God does not institute slavery, the Bible deals with the phenomena of slavery within a broken and fallen world just in the same way that the Bible does not advocate divorce, but deals with divorce in a broken and fallen world.
Matthew 19:1–9 ESV
Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
The hardness of men’s hearts, the wickedness of men is the cause for divorce, it is the cause for slavery and much of what the Bible is doing in dealing with slavery and divorce is giving direction in the midst of a broken and messed up situation.
But this is not the same with marriage, it is not the same with the command for a wife to submit to her husband, unlike slavery, marriage is a good institution, it is an institution given to us by God and it is also to be an institution that points us to God and to the gospel.
look at , this is the institution of marriage
And listen to what the apostle Paul says in Ephesians
Ephesians 5:22–33 ESV
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Eph. 5.
Marriage, the husband / wife relationship is to be a beautiful picture of God’s relationship with His people, a picture of Christ and His bride.
The husband is called to love and lead his wife and the wife is called to lovingly submit to his leadership.
This call for a wife to submit does not make her less in worth or dignity.
Galatians 3:28 ESV
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 3:7 ESV
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
What the Bible teaches is an equality is personhood, in worth, in dignity; but a difference in roles.
We even see roles within the Trinity
The Father sends
The Son goes
For God so loved the world that He sent His Son.
This does not make the Son any less God, He is Light of Light, true God of true God
But we simply see different roles within the Trinity
And we see that within the family, within marriage
The father is to lead
The wife is to submit
Children are to obey
This understanding that God has created men and women with the same value but with different roles is called complementarianism, that is God has created men and women with roles that complement one another.
BF&M Article 18

Beauty that lasts (v.3-4)

Godly Examples (v.5-6)

A call for Husbands to Understand (v.7)

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