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It’s good to be back.
But if I had of been thinking right, I would have let Bill preach on today’s text.
All that to say Thank you Bill, and today to help with what might be a topic that’s hard for us to hear, I invited my wife to teach with me today.
The way to get Jesus in our marriage is to love and respect our spouse
We share one thing in common with every person in every culture, across time.
Seek God
Fight fair
Have fun
We were created by God to live in relationship with other people.
In fact, to live without relationships is in many ways not living at all, because we bring such a depth and richness to life as we interact with each other.
Stay pure
Keep on
In fact, the life of a Christian almost requires relationships with other believers in order to live life to it’s fullest.
This reality began at creation
Created for relationships
We were created for relationships
We were created for relationships
Did you hear that last part?
They were naked and felt no shame.
They were completely vulnerable, UN protected, yet…they were able to be completely present.
Relationships in the beginning weren’t a struggle.
That would come on the next page of your bible when Adam and Eve sinned against God by disobeying his command not to eat the forbidden fruit.
One of the results of sin entering our lives is that while we were created for relationships, they became the source of some of our deepest struggles.
Just Like Adam and Eve, we struggle with our insecurities.
We fear that we will be truly known.
Just like Adam and Eve, we hide our true selves.
We fear being known.
Because if people really know us, they might take advantage of us…or embarrass us…or exploit our weaknesses.
Either our insecurities - which lead to fear
Illustration:
Or we struggle with holding or giving up authority or control
Illustration: WANTING TO BEING RIGHT and pouting when you can’t win the argument…banging pots in the kitchen…going to bed mad because you don’t take time to listen or to be heard
This isn’t new to us…it was into this same reality that Peter was writing...
Marriage in 1st Century
Family was the identity of Husband.
They were his status symbol in culture.
Marriage relationships are a place for much of our struggles.
That’s why Paul told the church in Corinth
Woman had control over very little, except how she looked.
2 Cor 7:2
Woman had control over very little, except how she looked.
She was responsible for doing what ever husband asked and not making him look bad.
Now imagine if she becomes a Christian and starts hanging out with folks not her husband.
Her pagan husband might get physical…her neighbors might get physical with her.
It could get ugly fast for a Christian wife of a nonbeliever.
In that context, hear what Peter tells her:
Submit
I know we don’t like that idea of being submissive.
It brings all sorts of negative thoughts to our minds.
But think about it this way.
For these women, their whole lives would be controlled by their husbands.
Peter is teaching them not to fight against it, but to respect them, to show their husbands respect and honor them and that just might win them over to the Gospel as they lived out the Gospel.
Their love and respect would make them more beautiful than any dress or hair do possibly could.
Peter taught them not to fear anything just do what’s right.
Purity and reverence means for woman’s relationship with Jesus Christ.
Our desire to love and please the Lord will produce a beautiful woman that is adorned with purity and reverence.
It’s like a glow in side of us that produces an unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.
I see this as God’s desire for women.
Scripture says this can change our husbands.
I’ve tried to fix my husband…lord knows he needs fixing…bless his heart.
But I’ve come to realize that the best way for him to change him is to give God room to work in his life.
I do this when I life in purity and reverence.
But the wife is only half of the marriage relationship.
1 Peter 3:
That’s right gentlemen…in the same way.
The Greek word here is the exact same as that in verse 1.
Respect
Peter’s saying just like slaves respect their masters, just like wives respect their husbands…you guys, respect your wives.
Peter teaches them to remember that they are physically weaker, and culturally they are more vulnerable as well.
This was a crazy idea...
Peter’s saying just like slaves respect their masters, just like wives respect their husbands…you guys, respect your wives.
Peter teaches them to remember that they are physically weaker, and culturally they are more vulnerable as well.
Remember their wives are an heir to the gift of the Good News.
Your neighbors might treat them like possessions, but you don’t…You owe them more than food and shelter.
You owe them your respect…love them because husbands and wives are equals in the sight of God.
And if we don’t honor and respect our wife, God wouldn’t honor your prayers.
The Apostle Paul put it this way
I read an article this week that revealed that the greatest relational need for men is respect....the greatest relational need of women is to be loved.
Paul knew this I guess, even though he was single…teaching Husbands love your wife
Married life was certainly different in the 1st Century, it wasn’t the only source of relationship struggles.
You remember that Christians were opposed in culture at every turn.
They were locked out of the government.
Every where they went, there was conflict.
So Peter wanted them to remember that we don’t treat each other that way.
1 Peter 3:
Even further, don’t seek revenge against those who mistreat you.
Love and respect was to be the rule for all their relationships in order to live a life filled with love.
This past week we went kayaking on one of the lakes off Lake Michigan.
My sister hadn’t kayaked before so we put her and Michelle in a double kayak.
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