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WELCOME

On behalf of the families of _Kawika __ and _Lisa___, we want to welcome you to this celebration of the wedding between _Kawika _ and Lisa_.

We know what God thinks about weddings because it was at a wedding that Jesus did his very first miracle...where he took something that the world saw that was common such as water and turned it into something very, very special - the choicest of wines.

That all happened by His touch.

So today, we want to invite the presence of the Lord Jesus to this wedding where again a miracle can transpire.

The reason we need His touch is because all of us know that it takes more than ink on paper and the signing of a wedding certificate that will turn a man into a husband and a woman into a wife.

We really do need the blessings of God and His presence here today.All over the world there are probably many, many weddings going on this week.

Wedding ceremonies are something common to the world.

But, with the touch of Jesus, He can take something that the world sees as common and He can turn it into something very, very special.

Just like He did on that day, that wedding in Cana of Galilee, and so, if you would bow your heads with me, let's pray and invite the presence of the Lord Jesus here today.

PRAYER

You may be Seated...

Father Gives the Bride Away...

"At this time you would usually hear in weddings a brief statement made by the Pastor which says 'Who-gives this woman to be married to this man?' and the father will answer, 'Her mother and I do.'"But

let me explain a little bit of why this part of the ceremony is so important."

At this time, there's going to be a new covering, a new person who oversees the caring and the loving of this woman.

At this time the father will actually hand the baton of that responsibility to his new son-in-law.”“And

so, when I ask, 'Who gives this woman to be married to this man?', it is not just a neat platitude, it's not just a trite phrase, actually, it is the handing of that baton, a handing of the trust, handing off of a father's confidence to his new son-in-law that he will cover his daughter.

That this new husband will care for his daughter even as he would.”

So with that in mind, I now turn to the father and say, "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?"

The father then answers, "Her mother and I do."

At this point, the groom goes down and takes the bride by the hand and turns to face Pastor Wayne.

Kawika and Lisa’s Story:

They met in 2016 paddling....

Lisa said:

She kept thinking: Who is this guy?

and why does he keep asking “how many times do I need to fill out these forms?

I thought, just do it because I said so.

Eventually he got all his paperwork done, and everything was good.

Kawika said:

Kawika said:

Why is she so hung up about all these forms, and why do I have to fill out so many of them?

Fortunately, we got through all of that, and I paddled with the New Hope’s 50 Men crew crossing the Ka’iwi channel in a koa canoe for the first time.

Lisa was organized and he noticed.

One day someone asked Kawika if he went to church…and he said NO...

Lisa helped to bring me closer to God.

I asked Kawika and Lisa to tell me 3 things that they loved about each other.

The things that stand out the most are...

Lisa said...

His Heart:

For God I have watched God do amazing things.

1.

His Heart:

- For God: Since he has returned to God, I have watched God do amazing things.

I am positive that Kawika has always had a big heart, buy his heart for God has grown so much over the past year

For Family: for his and how embraces mine

- For Family: for his Dad, his brothers and sisters, his sons, nephews, and his grandchildren, uncles, aunties, cousins.

And his Mom—although I never met her, she is definitely a big part of who he is.

But now I watch him embrace my family, and everyone is becoming our family

For Me: he truly makes me feel loved and cherished every day

- For Me: all he does for me and with me—he truly makes me feel loved and cherished every day

For Others: Friends, Co-workers, and even strangers—I think he’s always had a heart to help others in need

- For Others: Friends, Co-workers, and even strangers—I think he’s always had a heart to help others in need

His Passion: For life...Nothing is half way.

Whatever is important to him or becomes important to him—he’s always “all in”

2. His Passion: For life, for everything I mentioned above—God, Family, Me, Others.

Let me add paddling and coaching to the list of things he is passionate about.

Nothing is half way.

Whatever is important to him or becomes important to him—he’s always “all in”

His Laugh: it’s really loud and full of joy.

When I hear his laugh it makes me smile, sometimes even laugh out loud because it can be heard all the way across the room—a big room!

It’s always a reminder to me, to Choose Joy!

3. His Laugh: it’s really loud and full of joy.

When I hear his laugh it makes me smile, sometimes even laugh out loud because it can be heard all the way across the room—a big room!

It’s always a reminder to me, to Choose Joy!

Kawika Said:

Love for God- God is truly first in her and that spreads to all that are around her, and she keeps me focused on him as well

Humility- Even with all her success she has had over her lifetime, she never boast about it

Love for God- God is truly first in her and that spreads to all that are around her, and she keeps me focused on him as well

Humbleness- Even with all her success she has had over her lifetime, she never boast about it

Steadfast- when she commits to something she does it with tenacity 

Stedfastness- when she commits to something she does it with tenacity 

Message:

“It's wonderful to see how the Lord has brought circumstances together that would somehow bring you two to become husband and wife.

You have heard the Lord and you have consented to His call to you, to be a wife, and to you, to be a husband.

“However, (McKe) you don't come down this altar as half-a-woman and now that you are going to be married, you're going to become whole.

And (Zach) you don't come down the altar as half-a-man or a partial man or an incomplete man and now that you'll be married, you'll be complete, you'll be made whole.”“Because in actuality, as wonderful as (this bride) is and as wonderful as (this groom) is, you cannot fulfill each other's dreams and hopes.

As wonderful as (this man) is, he will never fulfill your dreams (bride).

As wonderful as (this bride) is, she will never fulfill all your hopes (groom) You are not made whole in one another, (bride): you are made whole in Jesus Christ.

(Groom) you are made whole in Jesus Christ.

And so, (bride) you come down this aisle and to this altar already a whole woman in the Lord.

You see if you come as half people, then you start off your marriage as an expecting proposition.

You expect (groom) to fulfill you, you expect (bride) to fulfill you.”“And it starts off as a taking proposition.

But (bride) if you're whole in Jesus and (groom) if you're whole in Jesus, then you come down this aisle as whole people and you start your marriage off as a giving proposition because you are already whole, you are already complete in the Lord.

You see, if you come to this altar as half people, then you will not marry one another, instead you'll be marrying an expectation of a husband; you'll marry an expectation of a wife.

And that will only set you up to be frustrated.

But when you are already secure and whole in Christ, then you start your marriage off as a giving proposition and that's God's design.

““As much as you respect one another right now, never let your respect from one another diminish.

Regardless of the performance and regardless of how the day has gone.

Always remember (bride) that God has called you to respect the office of a husband not necessarily the performance of that husband, but the office of a husband in your life.

And (groom) to respect the office of a wife in your life regardless of the performance which may change from day-to-day because both of you are growing and you're learning.

““Because you see, love is not an emotion.

It may be something which may include emotions, but love is a choice.

A choice that you’ve made to her the Lord say that you get to be a husband to this woman; you get to be wife to this man.

Life is a dynamic, it’s something that needs to grow as you face the storms and the decisions that will come to you in the future.

Your love will need to increase as the years go by.

And respect is like the soil in which love grows.

When you respect somebody, it’s easy to love that person.

But when you lose respect it’s very difficult isn’t it?

Never lose your respect for one another.”“Now

I’m going to ask you a question.