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THE GOSPEL-CENTERED HUSBAND

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THE GOSPEL-CENTERED HUSBAND REFLECTS CHRIST IN THE WAY THAT HE TREATS HIS WIFE

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1 Peter 3:1–7 ESV
1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. 7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

INTRODUCTION:

The humble submission commanded of wives is complemented by the exhortation to husbands to exercise humble and gentle authority.
A husband’s leadership of his wife is meant to be a picture of Christ’s sacrificial lordship over us, driven by selfless love, full of grace, and aimed squarely at another’s benefit and joy.
Christ himself, the eternal Lord of the universe, is “gentle and lowly in heart.”
Matthew 11:29 ESV
Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
). Christian husbands are called to this same heart. The word used to describe the “honor” they are to show their wives () is from the same root as the word used to describe the “honor” emperors are to be afforded (cf. 2: 17).
Christian husbands are called to this same heart.
Therefore, the focus of our message is that a gospel-centered husband is revealed by the way in which he treats his wife. There are three characteristics in this passage that reveal whether or not you are a indeed this kind of husband this morning:
ESV Bibles by Crossway. ESV Gospel Transformation Bible (Kindle Locations 262556-262562). Crossway. Kindle Edition.

1. HE UNDERSTANDS HIS WIFE (7)

…live with your wives in an understanding way...
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The Greek word gnosis is used here
It means knowledge that is gained by experience
This literally has the idea of learning your wife
This is something that needs to start immediately…even before marriage
Learning your wife is also something that is on-going

2. HE HONORS HIS WIFE (7)

…showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel...
The word used to describe the “honor” they are to show their wives is from the same root as the word used to describe the “honor” emperors are to be afforded.
“Weaker” means “to be without strength.”
“vessel” is the idea of “a tool that can be utilized.”
The Point: The main job for a husband is to help perfect his wife and help mold her to be a vessel that can be used of God.
Men and women were not created equal by God
Each was created for a purposes for which God made them
The woman is made to be dependent upon her husband. She is weaker physically and emotionally. Ladies, this is ok for you to admit
God gives grace to woman that have unbelieving husbands or husbands that are not walking with the Lord. But the creative order remains.
The Point: the woman was created to be a helpmeet for her husband. She was not meant to lead or to be the point person in a family. Yet, because of the curse, we see these roles reversed far too often in homes!
Genesis 2:18–24 ESV
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 3:1–7 ESV
1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” 2 And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, 3 but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’ ” 4 But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. 5 For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. 7 Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.
Ephesians 5:25–33 ESV
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Eph 5:35-

3. HE WALKS WITH GOD (7)

…so that your prayers may not be hindered.
He recognizes how God views his wife (as being heirs with us of the grace of God)
He recognizes that his wife is not inferior to God or in his life
He treats her as Christ treats the Church
He understands that not doing so will result in his not being right with God
Ephesians 5:25–32 ESV
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

CONCLUSION:

(Story of Wayne VanGelderen Sr. and his wife with cancer)
The question to consider today....men, are you a gospel-centered husband?
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