12 Ways your phone is changing you- #10 We Fear Missing Out
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We are back in our series “ 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing you” an we are at #10.
We fear missing out
Growing up i always we had a lot of fun stuff in our neighborhood; baby house, Gun-shooting, pan-a-pan, rounders, football, cricket, pushing tyre, bucket cover, cart, scooter, cooking etc. We had some fun times. But there were summers that i would spend with some relatives and all of these fun activities and people to do them with. I couldn’t bare the thought on missing out on being with my friends. More and more i dreaded missing my friends because they affirmed me in some weird way, i felt accepted around them.
Today we will look at how our phones changes us by keeping us on the edge of our seats waiting for every like, snaps, comments etc. Because when we miss out, we remember our misses clearly, and this memory of missing so many things, causes us to do what it takes to never miss anything again.
In the book the author Tony talks about FOMO. FOMO is an anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.
FOMO can be diagnosed through more basic symptoms of “disconnection anxiety,” also known as “no-mobile-phone phobia”— nomophobia— the fret when we find ourselves prevented from accessing our digital worlds.
This strain of FOMO is highly contagious and progresses rapidly. For example, one young woman, who was raised offline in an Amish community for eighteen years before entering the online world, quickly caught the disconnection fever. After adjusting to the non-Amish life and adapting to digital America, she took an offline mission trip. She says “I was thinking, I just can’t wait to go back to the U.S. where I can be connected to technology again and see what all is happening. Because it feels like I’m naked or something without being constantly updated on what’s going on.”
Personal FOMO - My desire to never be socially left out comes at the price of beeps, pings, and endless feed refreshes. I constantly check my phone to make sure I’m not missing anything.
Cultural FOMO - We heap shame on others for not having yet ingested the movies, television series, or viral stories that we have already consumed. Whenever someone admits that they are behind on these cultural products, we are quick to expose them. For some it It feels so good to flaunt our relevance over one another’s irrelevance.
Reinke, Tony. 12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You (p. 154). Crossway. Kindle Edition.
Core FOMOs - We can boil down our core online fears to two anxieties, says theologian Kevin Vanhoozer: “status anxiety (what will people think of me?), and disconnection anxiety (‘ I connect, therefore I am’).” But we are unaware of what we are connecting to, and at what cost?
The damages of FOMO:
We focus on the next appealing thing. Browsing the internet trumps listening to sermons because a sermon seems weak in comparison to an Internet-surfing session: cool graphics, hot button topics, the latest gossip, a game, chatting with friends etc.
We focus on the next biggest thing. You can be so caught up with what’s happening next that you can’t enjoy or participate in what’s happening now.
FOMO and social media go hand in hand. Even the new entry in the Oxford English Dictionary confirms the link: “FOMO— fear of missing out, anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may be happening
Reinke, Tony. 12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You (p. 153). Crossway. Kindle Edition.