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Love in relationships
Synopsis
Human love is ennobled by being patterned on God’s love for his people. It is also safeguarded by God’s commands.
The love between husband and wife
Conjugal love is commanded
(KJV 1900) — 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
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(KJV 1900) — 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
(KJV 1900) — 5 When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
(KJV 1900) — 18 Let thy fountain be blessed: And rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, And embrace the bosom of a stranger?
(KJV 1900) — 9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
(KJV 1900) — 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
(KJV 1900) — 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
(KJV 1900) — 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
(KJV 1900) — 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
It is patterned on God’s love for his people
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(KJV 1900) — 5 For thy Maker is thine husband; The Lord of hosts is his name; And thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
(KJV 1900) — 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
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(KJV 1900) — 5 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, So shall thy sons marry thee: And as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, So shall thy God rejoice over thee.
(KJV 1900) — 14 Turn, O backsliding children, saith the Lord; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion:
(KJV 1900) — 8 Now when I passed by thee, and looked upon thee, behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over thee, and covered thy nakedness: yea, I sware unto thee, and entered into a covenant with thee, saith the Lord God, and thou becamest mine.
(KJV 1900) — 19 And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; Yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, And in lovingkindness, and in mercies.
(KJV 1900) — 2 For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.
(KJV 1900) — 7 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.
The power of human love
(KJV 1900) — 6 Set me as a seal upon thine heart, As a seal upon thine arm: For love is strong as death; Jealousy is cruel as the grave: The coals thereof are coals of fire, Which hath a most vehement flame. 7 Many waters cannot quench love, Neither can the floods drown it: If a man would give all the substance of his house for love, It would utterly be contemned.
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(KJV 1900) — 20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.
(KJV 1900) — 30 And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years.
(KJV 1900) — 34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35 He will not regard any ransom; Neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.
Examples of love in courtship and marriage
Isaac and Rebekah; Jacob and Rachel; Samson and Delilah; Elkanah and Hannah; Xerxes and Esther; ; ; ; Joseph and Mary
(KJV 1900) — 67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
(KJV 1900) — 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.
(KJV 1900) — 4 And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.
(KJV 1900) — 5 But unto Hannah he gave a worthy portion; for he loved Hannah: but the Lord had shut up her womb.
(KJV 1900) — 17 And the king loved Esther above all the women, and she obtained grace and favour in his sight more than all the virgins; so that he set the royal crown upon her head, and made her queen instead of Vashti.
(KJV 1900) — 2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: For thy love is better than wine.
(KJV 1900) — 10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! How much better is thy love than wine! And the smell of thine ointments than all spices!
(KJV 1900) — 1 Then said the Lord unto me, Go yet, love a woman beloved of her friend, yet an adulteress, according to the love of the Lord toward the children of Israel, who look to other gods, and love flagons of wine.
(KJV 1900) — 19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily.
Safeguards on human love
Sexual immorality is condemned
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
(KJV 1900) — 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
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Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.
There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel. Thou shalt not bring the hire of a whore, or the price of a dog, into the house of the Lord thy God for any vow: for even both these are abomination unto the Lord thy God.
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
(KJV 1900) — 22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
(KJV 1900) — 29 Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.
Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.
(KJV 1900) — 17 There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel. 18 Thou shalt not bring the hire of a whore, or the price of a dog, into the house of the Lord thy God for any vow: for even both these are abomination unto the Lord thy God.
There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel. Thou shalt not bring the hire of a whore, or the price of a dog, into the house of the Lord thy God for any vow: for even both these are abomination unto the Lord thy God.
(KJV 1900) — 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
(KJV 1900) — 29 That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
(KJV 1900) — 26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
(KJV 1900) — 1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife.
(KJV 1900) — 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
(KJV 1900) — 8 Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.
(KJV 1900) — 3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
(KJV 1900) — 5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
(KJV 1900) — 3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
Adultery is condemned
(KJV 1900) — 14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.
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(KJV 1900) — 10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
(KJV 1900) — 18 Neither shalt thou commit adultery.
(KJV 1900) — 24 To keep thee from the evil woman, From the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
(KJV 1900) — 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
(KJV 1900) — 4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Restrictions on divorce
(KJV 1900) — 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
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(KJV 1900) — 16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: For one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: Therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
(KJV 1900) — 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
(KJV 1900) — 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
(KJV 1900) — 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
(KJV 1900) — 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Lust is condemned
(KJV 1900) — 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
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(KJV 1900) — 1 I made a covenant with mine eyes; Why then should I think upon a maid?
(KJV 1900) — 25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; Neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
(KJV 1900) — 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
(KJV 1900) — 19 Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
(KJV 1900) — 5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:
Polygamy is forbidden
(KJV 1900) — 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
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(KJV 1900) — 17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.
(KJV 1900) — 15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
(KJV 1900) — 12 Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
(KJV 1900) — 6 If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.