All In This Together - Family
All In This Together - Family
Intro: relationships, you will never be healthier than the state of your relationships.
Rate your relationships from 1 - 10.
I wish my relationships where better, stronger. There is nothing more important than relationships.
Jesus would agree...
30 And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’ 31 The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”
We exist to move people to a more dynamic relationship with Jesus Christ.
Relationships can turn into task, duties and responsibilities quick. When we get in the rut of relationships we lose our dynamic.
God - your family are our calling.
1 Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God.
lll - Walmart, not a pleasant interaction. They are not worthy to be a parent. (Infertility counsel then go to Walmart)
Live a life worthy of the calling of mom...
I desire for BCC to love relationships as much as God desires.
To do this we have got to make an investment in priorities. If we are going to turn up the dynamic degreee we must make our family a PRIORITY
FOUR PRIORITIES FOR YOUR FAMILY
Any group, people all in this together, must be learning and growing. If we are not learning and growing we get boring. Jesus exhibited this.
52 Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and all the people.
God in the flesh made it a priority to grow. He just didn’t exist.
6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Telling them is not the same as training them. A lecture is not learning. If we learn things at home it sets us on the right path.
Feelings - if you don’t learn this you will go through life emotionally crippled. Develop an environment where everyone can be honest. Stop that crying NOW. Kids will stuff their emotions.
Conflict - Marriage equals clarifying and resolving conflict. If you grew up in a family that experienced divorce CONFLICT means someone is going to lose. Don’t go to their coach… train them to go to their coach.
Losses - Resilient . the ability to bounce back. Great leaders are the most resilient people.
16 The godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again. But one disaster is enough to overthrow the wicked.
Values - The world values SEX, STATUS & SALARIES. It is so important that your kids are a part of our Family Ministry here. We want to encourage you and equip you.
Habits - They build character. Be intentional in your home.
How Do You Train?
Through example - Priorities are caught more than taught
Through conversation -
7 Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.
Average father talks face to face with kids 35 seconds per day. What!?! Sex, friendships, drugs...
Not through criticizing -
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Not through comparing - we become prideful or envious
4 Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.
“We don’t rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training.”
How would your life be different? If you where raised up in a home that trained.
8 When people live to be very old, let them rejoice in every day of life. But let them also remember there will be many dark days. Everything still to come is meaningless.
The more serious you are… the more serious the more boring.
When is the last time you laughed together?
13 A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.
15 So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them under the sun.
Stop thinking and feeling and start acting and doing.
4 But if she has children or grandchildren, their first responsibility is to show godliness at home and repay their parents by taking care of them. This is something that pleases God.
The first place you should receive care is not from the staff but from your family.
Attention - listen
Affection - healthy touch
Affirmation - you affirm their worth
Our heart longs for these.
8 But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.
Our desire it to have great relationships.
Average father talks face to face with kids 35 seconds per day.
We want our dynamic to be dialed up. Marin Luther - we all can serve
26 But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant,
33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
That is why we - SEEDS, serve on Sunday.
What is the opposite of this?
We are going to train in our house. We are going to have fun, care and serve.
15 But if you refuse to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”
Prayer - begin a relationship with Him. Ask Him to be the forgiver of your sins and leader of your life.
Determine some priorities - with your help and your strength to turn up the dynamic dial.