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Taming the Tongue

Proverbs: Practical Wisdom for the Walk of Faith  •  Sermon  •  Submitted
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Our speech has power for good and evil; the wise use speech for righteousness

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A wise Believer listens more than he talks

Explanation: There is incredible potential for good and evil in the power of the tongue. states, “death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Those who understand this power are careful not to damage others with their speech. It has been pointed out many times that God gave us 2 ears, but only 1 mouth.
states, “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is wise.”
Argument: Our technology in the 21st century makes this more difficult than in previous generations. This is the time of “instant everything” including responses. When we receive an email or a text, or see a FB post, we often respond before considering our response. We need to stop and think about how the listener is going to understand what we have communicated.
Application: As believers who seek to be wise and to walk worthy of the One who called us, it is important for us to consider our words carefully.
Wait and consider before making an immediate response, especially with social media and electronics. “Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life, he who opens his mouth comes to ruin.” ()
“Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life, he who opens his mouth comes to ruin.” ()
Actually listen to what the other person is saying instead of focusing on your next response. “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” ()
“If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” ()
Given our sin natures, it is too easy to undo years of positive relation with one incident of careless words. Meditate on the following Proverb: “Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than form him.” ()
Given our sin natures, it is too easy to undo years of positive relation with one incident of words

A Wise Believer keeps confidences

Explanation: This is just common sense. We are to protect our friends, family, and fellow church members. “Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.” ()
Illustrate: Old story about the man with a truck that quit running so he parked it at the Liquor store to get off the road. One of the church hens started gossiping about his drinking problem. When he got the truck fixed he parked it at her house overnight. “Just because it’s true doesn’t mean you have to tell it.”
Argument: Believers should have the reputation of a person who can keep a confidence and should never be considered a gossip. This requires restraint and discipline in our speech habits.
“Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.” (
Application: Consider the motivation of telling someone a piece of “news.” Ask yourself why you are planning on sharing, before you actually tell it. Will it help? Does it really need to be shared?
“Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.” ()
“For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarrelling ceases.” (Proverbs 26:20)

A Wise Believer speaks Truth at all times

Explanation: When we do speak, we who name the Name of Christ should be relaying truth. Throughout the Bible and in the Book of Proverbs, those who tell falsehood are considered to be wicked. Truthful speech is of paramount value to all people, but it should be the unchanging standard for the people of God.
“Put away from you crooked speech; and put devious talk far from you.” ()
Argument: God Himself is the Source of Truth, and His people should be a reflection of that. The old saying “Honesty is the best Policy” is good as far as it goes. This saying simply addresses the reality that lying creates opportunities for future problems that can arise at unwelcome times. The Wise Believer, armed with the Word of God, understand that Truthfulness is the only policy because it reflects who we are in Christ.
Argument: God Himself is the Source of Truth, and His people should be a reflection of that. The old saying “Honesty is the best Policy” is good as far as it goes. The understanding
Application: Resolve not to be untruthful, even if lying appears to be advantageous in the short term. “Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.” ()
Reflect on the sobering words of before you decide to lie.

A Wise Believer uses speech for encouraging others

Explanation: Life is hard, and very often, it is not fair. The World system (the kosmos) is not going to be easy on believers, and we shouldn’t be surprised when we get knocked up side the head by the world. We should not, however, be verbally assaulted or slandered by another believer. In Christ, we should stick together, and be kind to each other. We may disagree with another Christian, but we don’t have to be rude or ugly to him or her.
Illustrate: It is sad how theological diversity is addressed in public forums. One side claims the others are not genuine believers due to an opposing position. Closer to home, there are local pastors who consider non-denominational churches to be cult groups because of the style of music and the version of the Bible that is used.
Argument: How we treat others in the family matters! We must remember that a lost and dying world is watching how we interact with one another. The words of bear repeating: “death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” ()

A Wise Believer is willing to the speak the hard truths in love

Explanation: We are sometimes responsible for confronting another person over a difficult situation, whether moral, financial, or ethical. When we become aware that a person we are in relationship with is doing something harmful, we are called to be the Voice of Truth
Example: If you have a friend who is getting too friendly with someone else’s spouse, you can and should speak truth into her life.
Argument: Our society is highly individualized, and for many, the above scenario is unthinkable. It is not our business! We should not interfere! This is where discernment and prayer comes to the fore. We truly are “our brother’s keeper” and we do have biblical responsibility to love one another.
Application: Pray for wisdom and the leading of the Holy Spirit before intervening. If you can’t share in love, don’t do it! ()
Focus on the motive - this is to help, not hurt. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear.” ()
Act for obedience, not results, but God may very well allow you to see positive outcomes. “Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with his tongue.” (Proverbs 28:23)
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