Relationships That Matter: Parenting
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· 31 viewsThird sermon in a series on relationships. Sermon deals with the basics of how God exemplifies parenting us and how that is realized here on earth. Cuts parents some slack by describing parents of the Bible and the outcome of their children.
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RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER
RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER
ME:
ME:
One of my favorite stories to tell is of my father when we lived in a small Mississippi town and he was picked to play the role of Jesus in the Passion Play. Though he sang and acted well, I was most struck by the scene of him carrying the cross (that he built for the prop crew) down the aisle. He was supposed to walked laboriously toward the front, cross over to the other side and about mid-way, stop and look compassionately one the crowd. My Dad is severely cross eyed and has worn glasses since he was 3. Obviously Jesus didn’t wear glasses, so when he stopped to look, his left eye turned in and the expression on his face was that of complete exasperation, passion for the mission, and compassion for all of us. In that moment, my dad was Jesus.
My Mom, Martha, is a beloved public school teacher with several second generation students. The entire church and community know her as a giving, loving, and helpful person. She’s attended hundreds of funerals, a multitude of weddings and showers, and has led Sunday School and Vacation Bible School for years.
This year they celebrate 50 years married. A testimony to all that can be accomplished with determination and what the Bible calls “long suffering”.
Yet, as good as they were, my parents were not perfect. They did the best they could with what they knew. My mom’s dad was killed by a drunk driver when she was 4. She is the youngest of 4 children, to a widowed mother of 27. My dad’s dad was a POW in WWII under the Japanese. And while he was a good man, he still struggled with the consequences of disease and wounds and died shortly after I was born leaving my dad to figure parenting out on his own as the oldest of 5. He really didn’t want to be a parent, but he put his all into it when he was.
YOU:
YOU:
How about you? What’s your story? Did you have good parents or bad parents? Were your parents honorable and therefore easy to honor, or is it a struggle to conjure up nice things to say?
In the last few years, a book titled “Tiger Mom: How you can get your child to not only be successful, but dominate” was added to the pantheon of parenting books in the overwhelming category of self-help.
What does it mean for a child to succeed? When we really think about it, do we want our kids to dominate anything or anybody? Sometimes we act that way, but why?
Todd, last week you joked that you felt inadequate as a father and complimented me. Trust me, there is not a week that goes by that I don’t question if I’m doing the right thing. But, I want to encourage you, you and Amanda are doing great! Your boys are fantastic boys, full of life and intelligent, and your daughter is full of grace, beauty and wisdom.
Those with older kids, you may sometimes feel you failed as a parent. New parents and those with young kids, you may be desperately wanting to know the text book answers. There are numerous guides that tell you how to make sure you kids are perfect, even starting inside the womb!. Well, this sermon will not be one of those.
Maybe, and this is the saddest situation, maybe you’re just resigned. Maybe you’ve given up and checked out from this parenting thing.
No matter where you are in this relationship called parenting, the first thing I want to do is tell you, “cut yourselves some slack!”
Let’s take a look at just the Hall of Faith listed in .
By faith...Abel, Noah, Abraham (Lot’s daughters), Sarah, Moses, David. A great cloud of witnesses?
In what we call the 2d commandment “Make no idols” we miss an amazingly encouraging statement.
“You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.
“You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 5 you shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.
“You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 5 you shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.
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8 “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor, and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, you, or your son, or your daughter, your male servant, or your female servant, or your livestock, or the sojourner who is within your gates. 11 For min six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.
8 “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor, and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, you, or your son, or your daughter, your male servant, or your female servant, or your livestock, or the sojourner who is within your gates. 11 For min six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.
Then, in the 5th commandment we see a promise.
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
GOD:
GOD:
Parenting God’s Way
Parenting God’s Way
I need to give a little setting first. In the Old Testament, the books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Job are called wisdom literature. When you look at them together, what you find is that Proverbs lays out a collection of wisdom (personified as a woman) that if followed will produce a perfect life. Ecclesiastes is a discussion about how that perfect life is impossible, because of the countless variables and inputs beyond your control, you may as well just let it roll because all effort is just self-centered vanity. However, Job then gives a story of a man that seemingly is doing everything right, but then loses it all, gets a terrible disease, and suffers loneliness like most of us will never experience. But, the point of the story is that through it all, God our Father was faithful to Job even when the discipline building trials were overwhelming. In the end, Job’s endurance produced a man that defines the word patience. As we thinking about parenting, having and passing on wisdom are the hallmark of the job. These three books, this wisdom literature, should help us to see there is a right way, but that doesn’t always guarantee success.
In our primary text for today, Paul expands on the relational lessons we’ve been looking at, to now address parents and children. And, he draws on the summary of this wisdom literature.
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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
“Obey your parents in the Lord” does not mean “Obey your Christian parents”. Sometimes our parents are not worthy of honor, but we are supposed to anyway. Just because our parents are Christians doesn’t mean they are living the best example, but we are to honor them anyway.
Heavenly Parent/Child Roles
Heavenly Parent/Child Roles
God identifies himself as our Father. Jesus teaches us to pray to our Father. The prophets and the disciples talk about our Father. In every case, to demonstrate the heavenly relationship between God in His ultimate parental role and how here on earth, we exemplify that role throughout the generations. We even see that when we get out of the proper relationship, we are told that in a very real sense we have experienced divine divorce and now have a step father named Satan!
My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
Proverbs 3:11-12
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.
Hebrews 12:7
Palms 103:13
Parenting By The Book
Parenting By The Book
Two weeks ago, Ron said in his sermon on marriage relationships “The husband is to live a sacrificial life before his wife and his Family.”
Today, I want to remind you that this is where is starts. Fathers (and mothers having to fill both roles), don’t abuse the power that comes from the role you have, don’t demand respect/submission. We as parents begin by honoring the Lord, as fathers, a man exemplifies this by honoring his wife in front of his children.
Don’t abuse power, don’t demand respect/submission
Today, I want to remind you that this is where is starts. Fathers (and mothers having to fill both roles), don’t abuse the power that comes from the role you have, don’t demand respect/submission. We as parents begin by honoring the Lord, as fathers, a man exemplifies this by honoring his wife in front of his children.
My dad demonstrated this to my sister and I in a way that I’ve taken into my marriage. My wife comes first in everything and one of the best ways, is each day I come home, I kiss her first. In front of my kids. So that they know, she comes first.
My dad demonstrated this to my sister and I in a way that I’ve taken into my marriage. My wife comes first in everything and one of the best ways, is each day I come home, I kiss her first. In front of my kids. So that they know, she comes first.
His desire is to honor the Lord, by honoring her.
This is a challenge that we typically like, but we’ve given up our Nathenson battle and adventure
The reality is our wives and children will buck against our authority. We do the same with God, it’s been this way since the beginning. Remember the fall of Satan and then the fall of mankind. However, Love is patient and kind.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
Love is patient and kind.
Our children are a blessing, and a reward. Though we should value our marriage first, do we recognize the blessing and reward?
Our children are a blessing, and a reward. Though we should value our marriage first, do we recognize the blessing and reward?
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
The outcome is worth it! If we endure, if we work with grace and mercy, our kids will find their way and ultimately be a joy, rather than a sorrow. One amazing outcome is that God promises us if we endure, it will ultimately impact our nation! However, we do need to be reminded, that this is not an overnight process and that daily failures should not create anxiety.
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.
And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Parenting comes through observation. is often misread to mean that somehow there is a particular set of rules that if we follow, the kids will turn out alright. When in reality, the emphasis is on the way the child SHOULD go. God created each of us for a purpose, with unique purpose in the time we are given. Are you a student of God’s design in your children? A word of caution. Something that we have learned the hard way is that you can crush an ember by putting the log on too fast. The way to nurture a spark of interest is by adding tinder and kindling that guides the child to their potential. I’ve heard artists who gave up, because their early work was dismissed by those they needed the most encouragement from. When Caitlin showed interest in piano, I thought taking her on a daddy date to buy the best keyboard we could afford was the way to go. Every child goes through periods of discovery. Exploration, exposing to ideas are the way for them to find what interests them and ultimately what inspires what they were made to do.
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.
And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Our children are a blessing, and
“Discipline hurts me more than it does you.” We can become exasperated when we think of discipline, but ultimately it brings rest. tells us discipline brings rest and delight. How? because it takes repetition to learn anything, but once a child can get dressed, take a shower, make something to eat, then we have less to do and can enjoy more of who they are! reminds us that this discipline won’t kill them! Instead, like our children’s sermon illustration, discipline is comforting because it shows the boundaries. We all push against the fence to see how sturdy it is. It is in this pushing the boundaries that we get the warning from not to provoke children to the point of discouragement, and lose them as in our central text as well as to hold back anger that might want to kill them! I messed this up with Gavin when he was about 13. We had an amazing experience; first building a treehouse together, and then after the campus insurance guy said it was a liability, we rebuilt it as
a ground fort. Gavin had access to my tools and with permission, used my handsaw to build a bench. However, when I found that saw laying in the grass a few days later, I went to far an lost him for a time. I thought I was instilling discipline about responsibility, but he wasn’t able to bear the punishment and shut me out for the next four years. Thankfully, we have healed the brokenness, I’ve sought forgiveness and now we can talk at a deeper level.
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Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Ephesi
So how do we discipline? Well, tells us if we spare the rod we hate our sons, or a more familiar colloquialism “spare the rod, spoil the child”. tells us that rod gives wisdom and if left to his own devices, he will shame his mom. says those little sinners from birth have folly bound up in their harts and apparently we need to beat it out of them! I don’t know about you, but my parents and grandparents read this literally and the “board of education was applied liberally to my seat of learning”. While I am a proponent of physical discipline done correctly, in our non-agrarian Western culture, we miss a much deeper meaning. You see, a shepherds rod is used to defend, to warn away from a danger, and to inspect for disease or wounds.
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
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Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity,
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
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Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
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Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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And those twelve stones, which they took out of the Jordan, Joshua set up at Gilgal. And he said to the people of Israel, “When your children ask their fathers in times to come, ‘What do these stones mean?’ then you shall let your children know, ‘Israel passed over this Jordan on dry ground.’ For the Lord your God dried up the waters of the Jordan for you until you passed over, as the Lord your God did to the Red Sea, which he dried up for us until we passed over, so that all the peoples of the earth may know that the hand of the Lord is mighty, that you may fear the Lord your God forever.”
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Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
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Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
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Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity,
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
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Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
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And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
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Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
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Do not withhold discipline from a child;
if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
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Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live?
For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.
For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
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Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock.
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It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.
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Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching,
for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.
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Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
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Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
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Here for the third time I am ready to come to you. And I will not be a burden, for I seek not what is yours but you. For children are not obligated to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.
As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.
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But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
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“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
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Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.
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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.
A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.
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Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive,
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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
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Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death. A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.
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You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
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Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
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The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
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And so train the young women to love their husbands and children,
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
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And he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready for the Lord a people prepared.”
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Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the Lord!
for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
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Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
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For the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
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For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
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For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
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Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
If anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination.
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And how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
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Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
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The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.
And Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. For the promise is for you and for your children and for all who are far off, everyone whom the Lord our God calls to himself.”
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We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done.
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“Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children's children—
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For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”
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And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.
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If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
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US:
US:
Tell your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children to another generation.
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My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
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And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
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My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
A Psalm of David. The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. ...
“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. ...
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“Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children's children— how on the day that you stood before the Lord your God at Horeb, the Lord said to me, ‘Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.’
“Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
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And I declare to him that I am about to punish his house forever, for the iniquity that he knew, because his sons were blaspheming God, and he did not restrain them.
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
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“Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the rules that the Lord your God commanded me to teach you, that you may do them in the land to which you are going over, to possess it, that you may fear the Lord your God, you and your son and your son's son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be long. Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey. “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. ...
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And that you may tell in the hearing of your son and of your grandson how I have dealt harshly with the Egyptians and what signs I have done among them, that you may know that I am the Lord.”
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Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
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By faith Isaac invoked future blessings on Jacob and Esau.
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“Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),
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Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.
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“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.
The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness.
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“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear.
For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.
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It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons?
“My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord,
nor be weary when reproved by him.
For the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and chastises every son whom he receives.”
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
ESV / 9 helpful votes
ESV / 9 helpful votes
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? ...
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.
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Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.”
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How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.
And he blessed Joseph and said, “The God before whom my fathers Abraham and Isaac walked, the God who has been my shepherd all my life long to this day,
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Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,
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And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living. And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. ...
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
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“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
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And in all the land there were no women so beautiful as Job's daughters. And their father gave them an inheritance among their brothers.
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My people—infants are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, your guides mislead you and they have swallowed up the course of your paths.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.
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Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth.
“ ‘Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
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“‘Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me,
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You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me,
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live?
ESV / 6 helpful votes
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live?
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And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him.
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him.
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Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.
They shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord, and their descendants with them.
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At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, ...
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They shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord, and their descendants with them.
David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground.
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Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths: I am the Lord your God.
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“Whoever strikes his father or his mother shall be put to death.
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And Abraham said to God, “Oh that Ishmael might live before you!”
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For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,
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Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
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And implored him earnestly, saying, “My little daughter is at the point of death. Come and lay your hands on her, so that she may be made well and live.”
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Poverty and disgrace come to him who ignores instruction, but whoever heeds reproof is honored.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
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ESV / 5 helpful votes
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
The revelation of Jesus Christ, which God gave him to show to his servants the things that must soon take place. He made it known by sending his angel to his servant John,
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And how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.
and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.
Honor widows who are truly widows. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.
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And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.”
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“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven.
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Children learn from you.
It is said that the only Bible some will ever read is you. This starts in the home. Most of life’s lessons are caught, not taught.
More of life’s lessons are caught, not taught.
Your children learn how to give respect and love from you.
Count it all joy…
They learn how to honor their parents from you.
They learn how to be a friend from you.
They learn how to be husbands and wives from you.
And, they learn how to be good parents to your grandchildren from you. It is said that the only Bible some will ever read is you. This starts in the home. Most of life’s lessons are caught, not taught.
Count it all joy…
We can be joy thieves
We can be joy thieves. When our children constantly want our attention, it can feel like it sucks the life our of us. The saddest state is when a child quits coming to us. Count it all joy, even when the questions never end, the curiosity overwhelms, the messes add up, and the nerves are frazzled. It’s worth it!
Being like your daddy
The biggest curse I hear in counseling is the familiar phrase, “You are just like your father”. To me, and many others, this is a good thing. I find myself saying things, or acting a certain way and think, “that’s what my dad would do” and it generates a smile. But, to these men in distress, and perhaps some of you, to be told you are just like your father, is the most painful thing you can hear. I assume it might be the same for women and their mothers, but I don’t hear that very often. For all of us, we can be the generation of change. Can you imagine a better statement than, “you are just like Jesus” or “you look and act just like God, our heavenly father”
The biggest curse I hear in counseling is the familiar phrase, “You are just like your father”. To me, and many others, this is a good thing. I find myself saying things, or acting a certain way and think, “that’s what my dad would do” and it generates a smile. But, to these men in distress, and perhaps some of you, to be told you are just like your father, is the most painful thing you can hear. I assume it might be the same for women and their mothers, but I don’t hear that very often. For all of us, we can be the generation of change. Can you imagine a better statement than, “you are just like Jesus” or “you look and act just like God, our heavenly father”. How great to hear children say, I want to be just like you.
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Encourage one another.
Parenting is hard. But, it is not meant for us to do alone. Look around you. If there is a single mother or father, they could really use some encouragement. In two parent families, reach out in friendship, those of you further down the road.
Have no fear in discipline.
In this current culture, lack of discipline is literally killing us. The headlines this week showed how self-destructive we are and how it stems from lack of parent intervention. It is not loving to withhold discipline. Parts who do not care, do not discipline.
Count it all joy...
Be self aware. Are we stealing the joy from our spouses and our children? Encourage them, be present, and when mistakes are made approach it as an opportunity to learn rather than as an assault on you.
Don’t abuse power, don’t demand respect/submission
His desire is to honor the Lord, by honoring her.
This is a challenge that we typically like, but we’ve given up our Nathenson battle and adventure
The reality is our wives and children will buck against our authority. We do the same with God, it’s been this way since the beginning.
Love is patient and kind.
Once said, the Bible some will ever read is you.
More of life’s lessons are caught, not taught.