Sermon Tone Analysis

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Things Men want you to know

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Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

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ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.

Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color.

Pumpkin is also a fruit.

We have no idea what mauve is.

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If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing’s wrong.

We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

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Defining Fatherhood  

Bill Cosby said "Poets have said the reason to have children is to give yourself immortality; & I must admit I did ask God to give me a son because I wanted someone to carry on the family name.

Well, God did just that & I now confess that there have been times I’ve told my son not to reveal who he is.

`You make up a name,’ I’ve said.

`Just don’t tell anybody whose son you are.’"

 

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Provide for them

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Correct them

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Redefining Fatherhood

#. *(Eph 6:4) "*4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."

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Don’t exasperate them (provoke them to anger)

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Nuture (Bring them Up) Time

                                                              i.      Word is only used twice in NT

1.      here translated “bring them up” but in *(Eph 5:29) "*29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—"

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To nourish to maturity

1.      Watering plants

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You are not in the

1.      bread winning business

2.      the ladder climbing business

3.      the keeping peace at home business

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You are in the nurturing business and everything you do from bringing home a paycheck to getting that promotion to praying that you aren’t walking in to a battle royal when you come home – everything you do is in order to achieve your greatest goal – to nurture children into adulthood.

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Demands

1.      clear goals

2.      plan

3.      commitment

 

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Training (Actions)                                                               i.

Rewards and punishments set boundaries

1.      *(Heb 12:6) "*6because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.”"

2.      *(Heb 12:7) "*7Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons.

For what son is not disciplined by his father?"

3.      *(Heb 12:11) "*11No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful.

Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it."

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Examples set the goal

1.      *(1 Co 11:1) "*1Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ."

2.      *(Tit 2:7) "*7In everything set them an example by doing what is good.

In your teaching show integrity, seriousness"

In his book Lessons from a Father to His Sons, Senator John Ashcroft writes:

Until 1997 Michael Jordan, indisputably the leading player in the NBA for over a decade, was never the highest paid player.

When asked why he did not do what so many other players do—hold out on their contracts until they get more money—Michael replied, "I have always honored my word.

I went for security.

I had six-year contracts, and I always honored them.

People said I was underpaid, but when I signed on the dotted line, I gave my word."

Three years later, after several highly visible players reneged on their contracts, a reporter asked Michael once again about being underpaid, and he explained that if his kids saw their dad breaking a promise, how could he continue training them to keep their word?

By not asking for a contract renegotiation, Michael Jordan spoke volumes to his children.

He told them, "You stand by your word, even when that might go against you."

His silence became a roar.

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Instruction (Words)                                                               i.

*(Dt 6:6-7) "*6These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.

7Impress them on your children.

Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up."

A young boy had just gotten his driving permit.

He asked his father if they could discuss his use of the family car.

His father took him into his study and said, "I'll make a deal with you.

You bring your grades up, study the Bible a little, get your hair cut, and then we'll talk about it."

After about a month, the boy came back and again asked his father if they could discuss his use of the car.

They again went into the father's study where the father said, "Son, I've been very proud of you.

You have brought your grades up, you've studied the Bible diligently, but you didn't get your hair cut."

The young man replied, "You know, Dad, I've been thinking about that.

Samson had long hair, Moses had long hair, Noah had long hair, and even Jesus had long hair."

"Yes," his father said, "and everywhere they went, they walked."

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Point them to the Lord                                                               i.

The only thing of true value we have to pass on to our children is what we know and experience from God.

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Conclusion One night a wife found her husband standing over their newborn baby’s crib.

Silently she watched him.

As he stood looking down at the sleeping infant, she saw on his face a mixture of emotions: disbelief, doubt, delight, amazement, enchantment, skepticism.

He would stand back, shake his head and say, "Amazing," while smiling from ear to ear.

\\ \\ Touched by his unusual display and the deep emotions it aroused, her eyes glistened as she slipped her arms around him.

"A penny for your thoughts," she whispered in his ear.

\\ \\ "Isn’t it amazing!" he replied.

"When you take the time and really look close, how can anyone make a crib like that for only $45.99!"

 

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Nurture them

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Train Them

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Instruct the

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Point them to Jesus

\\ Tupac Shakur was an extremely popular, award-winning gansta rap artist.

Brought up in a New York City ghetto, he personified the violent lifestyle depicted in his music.

Shakur spent eight months in prison for rape.

He also survived a mugging, during which he was shot five times.

Then, in the fall of 1996, Tupac was gunned down in a drive-by shooting.

Six days later, on September 13th, he died.

Tupac: Resurrection is a documentary of Shakur's brief and tragic life.

It is told through a collection of audio recordings and interviews given before his death, as well through his music, poetry, photographs, and home movies.

Tupac narrates the experiences of his early childhood.

As he speaks, family pictures appear on-screen along with the words, "I blame my father, cuz he left me."

Tupac says, "My real father was a Black Panther.

But when I was growing up, I never knew who my real father was, for sure.