You know, relationships are hard, and I believe that this applies especially to marriages. Think about when you and your other half were dating or courting. What was life like then? Things were pretty easy, right? I mean, guys, we were constantly on the worry about how we looked, how we treated our special lady, and how we smelled. Let’s be real: we wanted to make a consistent good impression. How many people here were wealthy or very well off when they were dating? Did that change at all when you first got married? NO! You were broke! You didn’t have anything and it was okay! You were married and finally got to do that one thing that you waited for marriage to do. You know what I’m talking about…But marriage is hard. It was easier when you did not know anything about each other’s bad habits, or annoying idiosyncrasies. How easy is it to see the trats that you used to see as being so cute and/or endearing as becoming something close to a deal-breaker? Her outspoken and independent nature has just now become loud and obnoxious. That adorable way she would take food off of your plate during dinner is now annoying and irritating. Speaking of dinner, have any of you gentlemen had the following conversation: “Hey sweetie, what do you want for dinner?” “Oh, anything sounds good. I’m just hungry.” “Okay, what about [insert name of restaurant you like here]?” “Oh, absolutely not, I hate that place!” “Oh, okay, and then where do you want to go?” “Oh, anywhere.” And it doesn’t have to be so dramatic; spontaneity becomes reckless and responsible, their feet on the dash is no longer hot and attractive, but just another distraction in your already busy life, or their endearing stubbornness has become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity. But it’s not all that bad. Usually, it’s a matter of things just being okay. Not bad and not great, but just okay. And that stretches on for a few weeks. Then months. Then maybe years. Years of no particular highs or lows. Love becomes apathy.