Authority, Instructional Discipline, & Goals
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· 21 viewsWith responsibility comes authority. God has given us as parents the responsibilty to raise up our children to know Him and glorify Him. With this responsibility comes the authority to instruct and discipline toward godliness. To do so we must not only exercise our authority, but we must do it properly in love and grounded with Biblical instruction and goals.
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Parental Authority
Parental Authority
A parent’s authority (the right to govern and dictate) in the home is given by God for the good of the child ().
Merrill, R. (2014). Authority. D. Mangum, D. R. Brown, R. Klippenstein, & R. Hurst (Eds.), Lexham Theological Wordbook. Bellingham, WA: Lexham Press.
Authority refers to the prerogative to rule or govern others. It has to do with the right to regulate and control the activities of one or more individuals.
Merrill, R. (2014). Authority. D. Mangum, D. R. Brown, R. Klippenstein, & R. Hurst (Eds.), Lexham Theological Wordbook. Bellingham, WA: Lexham Press.
Merrill, R. (2014). Authority. D. Mangum, D. R. Brown, R. Klippenstein, & R. Hurst (Eds.), Lexham Theological Wordbook. Bellingham, WA: Lexham Press.
1 Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. 2 Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. 4 For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. 5 Therefore you must be subject, not only because of wrath but also for conscience’ sake.
The authority is to fulfill the responsibility (;
The authority is to fulfill the responsibility (;
6 “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
If we withhold instruction, we withhold blessing.
Discipline (instruct, correct, punish)
Discipline (instruct, correct, punish)
We must use our authority to discipline (instruct, correct, and punish) our children.
15 The rod of correction imparts wisdom,
but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
As a school administrator, I observe that most parents do I understand the appropriateness and necessity of being in charge in willing to say, for instance, “I have prepared oatmeal for your breakfast. It is a good, nutritious food and I want you to eat it. Maybe other mornings we will have something you like better.” Many are saying, “What do you want for breakfast? You don’t want the oatmeal I have prepared; would you like something else?” This sounds very nice and enlightened, but what is really happening? The child is learning that he is the decision maker. The parent only suggests the options.
This scenario is repeated in the experience of young children in clothing choices, schedule choices, free-time choices and so forth. By the time the child is six or eight or ten, he is his own boss. By age thirteen the child is out of control, parents can cajole, plead, urge (in frustration and anger), scream and threaten, but the child is his own boss. The parent has long since given up the decision-making prerogative in the child’s life. How did it happen? It crept in at a very early age as the parent made every decision a smorgasbord of choices for the child to decide.
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24 He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.
18 Discipline your children while you still have the chance;
indulging them destroys them.
We exercise our authority to discipline (instruct, correct, and punish) . This discipline cultivates not only godly character, but contrary to what it sometimes appears in the moment, it creates love and honor between parent and child (; ).
We exercise our authority to discipline (instruct, correct, and punish) in love and wisdom, not anger and manipulation. This discipline cultivates not only godly character, but creates love and honor between parent and child.
7 If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? 8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. 11 Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Hebrews 12
23 He who rebukes a man will find more favor afterward
Than he who flatters with the tongue.
We discipline in love and wisdom, not anger and manipulation.
19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Godly Goals
Godly Goals
17 Correct your son, and he will give you comfort;
He will also delight your soul.
18 Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained,
But happy is he who keeps the law.
18 Without revelation people run wild,
but one who listens to instruction will be happy.
With vision and revelation through knowledge and instruction, we can exercise discipline and perseverance in doing what is right and walk in the blessings of obedience (). The biblical instruction and example we give our children will enable them to exercise godly discipline and enjoy righteous fruit.
28 Whoever has no rule over his own spirit
Is like a city broken down, without walls.
31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise,
15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, 16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
We have to evaluate. How are we ordering our daily lives so that we are properly training our children in the way they should go? What are the goals I have for my children? Relationship with Jesus? Education? Skill Development? Honorable and Honoring Relationships? First have goals and a plan to fulfill them. Second, let the guiding source of motivation for our goals be for God to be glorified in the process and the results.
31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.