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*“Top-ten List” of “You might be a male if . .
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You can go to the bathroom without a support group.
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You can drop by to see a friend without bringing a little gift.
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Another guy shows up at the same party in the same outfit, and you become lifelong buddies.
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You have one wallet, one pair of shoes, one color, for all seasons.
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There is always a game on somewhere.
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Your pals can be trusted never to trap you with, “So… notice anything different?”
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LET’S PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GUIDE US
It probably doesn't surprise you that surveys indicate that most of us would like to have only one marriage during our lives.
Not just one marriage, but a good marriage, and for a lifetime.
In Malachi, these words are recorded:
*Malachi 2:15-16* \\ /So guard yourself and your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.
I hate divorce, says the Lord God of Israel./
Now remember, God is saying.
"I hate divorce."
If that's your situation, God's not saying he hates you or your circumstances.
What God is saying is he hates what divorce does to us as people.
Why does God hate divorce?
I think, first of all, because there's a tearing apart that happens.
Marriage is the closest of all relationships.
It's closer than a parent~/child or close friend relationship because Scripture says the two become one.
When we pull that apart, we rip a hole in our hearts.
It does something to our souls.
It's not as easy as we think it's going to be.
It's not simply dividing up our assets, and deciding who gets an equitable share of goods.
Even if we're amicable in the process, divorce is devastating on people.
Those of you who have been through it know how emotionally wrenching it is—the roller coaster you've been through in that process.
You're aware of the conflicting emotions you still carry, even now.
The biblical word for marriage is /gameo/, and it means to fit together or to pair up.
When we pull those apart, there's a wrenching of the spirit and soul that lasts for a long time.
It rips a hole in our heart.
I think the second reason God hates divorce is that a covenant is broken.
A promise that we've made has been broken.
God has established a covenant relationship with us.
He expects us to keep that covenant.
He hates to see us break our promises.
There are long term issues and consequences related when we're unable to keep a commitment, a covenant relationship.
I think the third reason divorce is a bad idea is that it's not the cure-all we thought it would be.
It's not simply putting something behind us, and moving on.
It doesn't resolve the issues.
In fact, often in many cases, divorce creates additional issues for us.
It's hard for us when we divorce.
It's not a surprise when we say we'd like to have one marriage, because I think we've come to recognize that divorce isn't the answer we thought it would be for us.
What do we do?
How do we work through our issues?
What are some of the things going on?
What are our problems really?
Is it just that we've fallen out of love somehow?
Is it that I no longer care about this person?
Don't I have those feelings any more?
I think we forget that love is the mental and emotional commitment to care even on the days we don't feel like it.
There are some days we don't feel like loving.
There are some days we're not very lovable.
But love is that mental and emotional commitment to care and to act like we care even when we don't feel like it.
But many of us have lost that feeling.
Willard Harley said, "When a husband and wife are in love with each other, they're happier, healthier, wiser and more productive than ever.
But when love fades, they lose everything that made them better people.
What once seemed almost effortless becomes awkward and very difficult.
Instincts that worked for a couple who are in love work against them when they lose their love for each other.
And in most cases, the relationship eventually becomes so bad that couples try to escape each other through divorce or permanent separation."/
(Love Busters, p. 9.)/
In other words, when we no longer have those feelings, all our attitudes and actions and habits work against each other.
What once used to work for us now works against us.
We look for the slightest reason to be upset.
It's human nature to view other people in terms of their weaknesses and to see yourself in terms of your strengths.
When it comes to our spouse, oftentimes we look at the little things about them we don't like, and wish we could change.
We look at things that we would want to be different.
We look for them in their weaknesses and see ourselves in the things we do that are of benefit and help the relationship and we wonder why we get in so much trouble at times.
1 Corinthians 13 describes love, and what ought to be occurring for us in relationships.
*1 Corinthians 13:4-8* \\ /Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not rejoice in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails./
Wouldn't it be nice if we could have that kind of love in our marriage?
Wouldn't it be nice to have a love that brings value to us, a love that affirms us, a love that's encouraging, a love that we could count on, and a love that we could trust?
But that's not what many of us have in our marriages.
I would like to try something this morning.
I want to go back and reread our Scripture passage.
Every time the words "love" or "it" is used, I want us to substitute with our name.
I want you to read along with me.
We will start in verse 4 and slide our name in wherever the word love is.
"Rick is patient, Rick is kind.
Rick does not envy, Rick does not boast, Rick is not proud.
Rick is not rude, Rick is not self-seeking, Rick is not easily angered, Rick keeps no record of wrongs.
Rick does not rejoice in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
Rick always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Rick never fails."
Does that describe me?
I'm not always patient.
I can think of a couple of times in the past week when I wasn't kind.
There are times I'm arrogant.
I keep track of when I've been hurt.
Maybe the reason there's some struggle in our relationship is because we've not really learned to love.
The reality is sometimes our harshest words and actions are often left for the people closest to us.
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