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Friendly Relationships
Youth Church
New Hope Baptist Church
January 7, 2007
Text: 1 Sam.
18:1-4
Introduction:
All of us in this room today have experienced in some way a person that we called friend.
Now, that experience may have been bad, or it may have been good.
I think you would agree that having a friend also brings about a certain amount of joy and it is really good to feel like we have a closeness with someone, but many times those friendships bring sorrow or pain.
Can you remember your earliest friendship?
Was it in elementary school?
Was it earlier than that?
All of us need someone to call friend; Someone other than our parents or our siblings.
Sometimes it is not easy to be completely open and completely honest with our family.
They live with us everyday and they know a lot of stuff about us anyhow.
Sometimes we need to share our real thoughts, our real hopes, our dreams, our secrets and our failures and fears with a person we can trust.
Usually that person is someone we call friend.
The thing is, there are some important *ingredients* to friendships that keep */some/* *relationships* at the acquaintance level and then allow others to become genuine *friendships*.
Notice first that I have used the words relationship and friendship in the same sentence.
Now, let me try and simply tell you the difference.
A relationship can be merely an association, or a contact, or an interaction with someone or thing.
You can have relationship with your computer or your pet; with your sofa or your teacher.
A friendship, on the other hand, is a companionship; a closeness; a familiarity and an alliance with someone.
In other words, in a friendship you have investment.
It costs something.
That’s important.
Remember that.
A friendship costs something.
Have you ever heard the expression, “birds of a feather, flock together?”
Well, it simply means that people who are alike usually hang out together.
Even though that’s an old saying, it really is rather true.
If you put in a lot of time, if you exchange enough ideas and thoughts with any group, eventually, you will identify with that group.
The Bible says the same thing like this, in Prov.
23:7, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”
You see, friendships cost something, remember?
It does not matter what kind of friendship it is, it will cost you something.
You time, your loyalty, your allegiance, the ideals that your parents taught you, you morals, you common sense, your independence.
So, the important thing is not so much that we have friendships and relationships, but the kind of friendships and relationships that we have.
For a few minutes today, I want us to look at a friendship in the Bible between two people that we have probably heard a lot about; David and Jonathan.
We are looking and these two people because their friendship is a very good model for us of what true friendship is meant to be.
David had just beaten the biggest giant of the time, Goliath.
After David defeated the giant, he was invited to meet with King Saul.
It was kind of like the Lakers winning a hard championship and then being invited to the White House to meet with the President.
Well, King Saul was so impressed with David that he insisted that David stay at the palace with him and his family.
Then, David met Jonathan, Saul’s son who was next in line to be King.
Almost immediately something clicked between these two young men.
They saw something in each other that led them to form a bond of friendship.
They became the best of friends.
Jonathan made a special vow to be David’s friend, and he sealed the pact by giving David his robe, his jacket, his sword and bow, and his belt.
Have you ever had an experience like that?
I know when I was a kid, we would prick our fingers and become blood brothers with other kids, but those relationships didn’t last too long.
All it took was a little jealousy at something or somebody to say “yo momma” and it was on!
But I did have a couple of special friends like David and Jonathan.
I was at a very difficult time in my life and I really didn’t have many friends, or people that I even called friend.
I was lonely and I felt as though no one cared.
Then, I met this lady.
She sensed that something was not right in my life, but she also sensed that there were some good qualities that she wanted to know better.
We began to talk and visit each other.
Soon, we decided that we would be real friends.
We made a vow to each other that nothing or no one would ever come between our friendship.
We have been friends for over 35 years.
True friendship will last the test of time.
As the young boys grew, David gained a lot of popularity all around Israel because he was so successful at war.
King Saul got jealous and began to feel threatened by David’s success, so he banned David from the palace and demoted him in the army to be over only a small group of troops.
But, no matter what King Saul did to tray and make David fail, the Lord just kept on blessing him and making him successful.
David began to feel in his heart that the King was against him, and that in act he wanted David killed.
David shared his fears with his friend, Jonathan.
It was very difficult for Jonathan to hear and believe these things against his own father, especially that his father wanted to do harm to his friend, David.
But Jonathan promised to talk to his father and to let David know for sure is his life was in danger or not.
He only asked David to treat him with love as long as he lived, or if he died, to love his family faithfully.
You see, it was no easy thing to go before the King and question him of his intentions.
The two young men reaffirmed their friendship and love, for the Bible says, “for Jonathan loved David as much as he loved himself”.
In fact, Jonathan would have preferred David to be king over him.
From this friendship we can see the first thing that true friendship has: true friendship is *unselfish*.
Jonathan loved David as himself.
That type of friendship is only possible when we can set aside self, set aside our own desires for what’s best for others.
Jesus said that “the greatest command of God is to love Him with all of our heart, all of our mind, all of our soul and strength, and that we love our neighbor as much as we love ourselves.”
Jonathan felt a debt of love toward his friend David that would have prompted him to do anything to serve and honor him.
Remember, real love cost something.
Real friends are willing to lay down their own agendas, their own expectations, and even their own lives in favor of what’s best for the other person.
Again Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends (John 15:13).”
This tells us that the love of real friendships is not just selfless and serving, but it is also sacrificial.
Jonathan really wanted the best for David, and there was a lot at stake for him.
By being David’s friend, Jonathan risked being disinherited, he would receive his father’s anger, and he unselfishly ensured David’s future over his own.
He wanted to help David to become what he was intended to be, King.
Now, how do your friendships match up to this one?
Do your friendships really reflect selflessness?
Do your closest friends have your best interest in mind?
Do you have their best interest in mind, or are you always looking for what you can get out of the relationship?
Another ingredient that we find from this friendship is: real friendship is *faithful*.
Prov.
17:17 says: “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”
All of us want to be in loyal friendships.
Deep down we want to be known for who we are but we will not risk these things is we cannot trust that our hearts are secure.
We want friendships where we are accepted and loved just as we are with no hint of judgment or condemnation.
On the human level, that kind of love is really rare.
There really isn’t a human relationship that won’t fail our expectations.
No human can be perfectly faithful, only Jesus has the ability to be faithful to our hearts in ways that ensure our inner security.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t risk sharing our hearts with others, it just means that our human relationships cannot be all we expect them to be.
Though our friends may fail us at times, though they may not always understand us, and though they may not always be able to see us like Jesus does, we can experiences faithful human friendships.
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