God’s creative work was not complete until he made woman.
He could have made her from the dust of the ground, as he made man; however, God chose to make her from the man’s flesh and bone.
In so doing, he illustrated for us that in marriage man and woman symbolically become one flesh.
Throughout the Bible, God treats this special partnership [marriage’ seriously.
If you are married or planning to be married, the question is “are you willing to keep the commitment that makes the two of you one?”
The goal in marriage should be more than friendship; it should be oneness.
!! A. God’s plan to create woman (v.18).
!!! 1. “The Lord God said, it is not good that man should be alone…” (v.18a).
!!!! a) Because it was not good for man to be alone (v.18a).
!!!!! (1) The Lord God regarded Adam’s situation as incomplete and deficient while he was living without a companion or a proper counterpart.
The Lord said “It is not good.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 expresses this same opinion about aloneness.
*The wise writer Solomon advised:* Two are better than one.... If one falls down, his friend can help him up.... Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
!!!!! (2) True, in (Jeremiah 16:1–9) the prophet Jeremiah is commanded by God to remain alone, but this is meant to be a sign that God’s judgment on the people is so near that it will not be worthwhile to get married.
!!!!! (3) Without woman, man would not be able to reproduce, nor to work and subdue the earth as God had instructed (Genesis 1:28).
!!!!! (4) Man was only half of God’s plan for human life.
Woman was the other half.
God’s plan was not complete until woman was created.
Woman was as much a part of God’s plan for human life as man was.
Therefore, it was not good that man should be alone.
!!!! b) Scripture gives numerous reasons for marriage.
!!!!! (1) *First, marriage is for /procreation/*.
God commanded Adam and Eve to /“be fruitful and multiply”/ (Gen.
God intends for mankind to reproduce itself.
Marriage is also for /pleasure/.
Proverbs speaks of a man’s being /“exhilarated always” /with the wife of his youth (5:18–19), & the Song of Solomon centers around the physical attractions and pleasures of marital love.
!!!!! (2) *Marriage is a /partnership/*.
Woman was created for man to be /“a helper suitable for him”/ (Gen.
Friendship between husband and wife is one of the key ingredients of a good marriage.
!!!!! (3) */Marriage is a picture of the church/*.
Husbands are to have authority over and to love their wives as Christ has authority over and loves the church (Eph.
!!!!! (4) *And marriage is for /purity/*.
It protects from sexual *immorality* by meeting the need for physical fulfillment.
Although celibacy is good, it is not superior to marriage, and it has dangers and temptations that marriage does not have.
\\ !!!! c) Celibacy is Good (1 Corinthians 7:1-9).
!!!!! (1) *To touch a woman* was a common Jewish euphemism for sexual intercourse.
The phrase is used in that sense in passages such as (Gen.20:6;
Ruth 2:9; and Prov.
!!!!!! (a) Paul uses it to state that it is a good thing for Christians not to have sexual intercourse, that is, to be single, unmarried.
!!!!!! (b) He does not say, however, that singleness is the only good condition or that marriage is in any way wrong or inferior to singleness.
He says only that singleness, as long as it is celibate, can be good.
!!!! d) Celibacy is not for everyone *(Matthew 19:3-12)*.
!!!!! (1) Singleness has its own problems and temptations, and not every Christian is capable of living a godly single life.
Paul said that it is good to remain single for spiritual purposes, but that it was /“//better to marry than to burn” /with lust (1 Cor.
!!!!! (2) Jesus proceeds to mention the only three categories where there can be successful singleness.
!!!!!! (a) First */are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb/*.
These are people who are born with congenital deformities that involve undeveloped sexual capacity.
!!!!!! (b) Second */are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men/*.
In some ancient religions, castration was considered a way of pleasing and serving a pagan deity, and parents sometimes even had their infant sons castrated for that purpose.
Obviously, castrated men do not have normal desires for a woman.
!!!!!! (c) Third */are eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven/*.
Unlike the other two forms, this one is not physical.
Mutilation of the flesh in order to please God is a purely pagan idea.
Jesus is speaking of the voluntary celibacy of those to whom that gift has been granted by God (v.11).
In that case, celibacy can indeed be *for the sake of the kingdom of God* and be pleasing to Him and used by Him.
!!!!! (3) Singleness cannot be wholeheartedly accepted simply by human willpower or sincerity.
Nor can it be successfully lived out simply by applying the right biblical principles.
Celibate singleness is a kind of spiritual gift (1 Cor.
7:7), and *only those to whom it has been given* can hope to spiritually survive in it, much less find happiness and be effective in the Lord’s service.
!!!! e) No record of Adam complaining about his loneliness.
!!!!! (1) There is no record of Adam complaining about his loneliness.
He fellowshipped with God.
God was all he knew, all he had.
He made it enough.
!!!!! (2) When and if we are forced to be alone, God will make His presence enough.
*Jesus said *"I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
Amen." (Matthew 28:20, NKJV)
*The writer of Hebrews says to *"Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have.
For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”"
(Hebrews 13:5, NKJV)
*Speaking to Moses, the Lord said *"My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest."
!!!!! (3) If you are single and desire to get married, pray, seek the Lord, serve Him, and in the midst of doing this, allow God to bring that person in your life.
\\ !!! 2. “I will make him a helper comparable to him…” (v.18b).
!!!! a) Because man needed a */helper/*, a companion (v.18b).
!!!!! (1) The Hebrew word “meet” or “suitable” means /fit, corresponding to, adapted to, agreeing with, counterpart, opposite, equal to/.
!!!!! (2) The word /“helper” – /the customary translation of “helper fitting him” is almost certainly wrong as R. David Freedman states.
!!!!!! (a) Recently R. David Freedman has pointed out that the Hebrew word /˓ēzer/ is a combination of two roots: /˓-z-r/, meaning (1) “to rescue, to save,” and /ǵ-z-r/, meaning (2) “to be strong.”
!!!!!! (b) The difference between the two is the first letter in Hebrew.
Today that letter is silent in Hebrew, but in ancient times it was a guttural sound formed in the back of the throat.
The /ǵ/ came to use the same Hebrew symbol as the other sound.
But the fact that they were pronounced differently is clear from such place names which preserve the /g/ sound, such as /Gaza/ or /Gomorrah//./
!! B. Man’s need for woman (v.19-20)
!!! 1. “Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast… But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him…” (v.19-20).
!!!! a) God’s purpose: To show man his great need for woman (v.20b).
!!!!! (1) *Note:* see what (v.19) does: it switches from God’s decision to create woman to God’s creation of animals and to His instructing man to name the animals.
Why inject the creation and naming of animals right in the middle of God’s creation of woman?
There are at least three reasons:
!!!!!! (a) /God reemphasize a critical fact:/ He is the Creator of all man’s companions, of all living creatures.
If man was to have a companion with his very own nature—God was the One who had to create her to be perfectly suitable for Adam.
!!!!!! (b) /God shows man that he is superior to the animals/.
His authority is seen in the fact that God brought the animals to Adam to be named.
God had given man dominion over the earth & over the animal world for man to begin exercising that authority.
!!!!!! (c) /God show’s man his great need for woman, for a companion just like himself/.
Think about this: Adam is looking at the animals and seeing that they all have a mate (companion) just like itself – except him.
He realizes that creation is not complete.