Peril of Adultery
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· 3 viewsAdultery be it physical or spiritual it is not worth the cost
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We have looked at definition, purpose, and instructions on wisdom. Now we get more into the warnings we need regarding using wisdom.
The seductress flatters with her words (2:16)
She forgets her husband as well as her covenant with God (2:17)
Her path leads to death (2:18-19)
You will see this in our chapter today, but all more in chapters six and seven too.
Think about this, if it is mentioned so many times, is repetitive like it is, you think it is important?
The passage is quiet long, so we need to break into sections, and will look and glean at each section as we go.
1 My son, give attention to my wisdom, Incline your ear to my understanding; 2 That you may observe discretion And your lips may reserve knowledge.
Who is Solomon speaking to?
What is Solomon telling the person to do?
So, Solomon starts with PAY ATTENTION!
The Promise of Adultery
The Promise of Adultery
Have you ever had anyone make a promise to you that you found out that it was not a true promise? Or too good to be true?
3 For the lips of an adulteress drip honey And smoother than oil is her speech;
Tell me what you learn here?
The false promise
Sounds good at first, doesn’t it?
Such enticement, luring comes, involves flattery
16 To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress who flatters with her words;
Forbidden fruit is always tempting
6 When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate.
Adultery promises much, but what does it deliver?
The real promise
4 But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell. 6 Lest you ponder her path of life— Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.
In the end is sharp bitterness (5:4)
Death then condemnation (5:5)
Ways are unstable and unknowable (5:6)
Adultery delivers, but not what it promises. So, now lets look at what it really delivers in a manner we can grasp and understand.
7 Now then, my sons, listen to me And do not depart from the words of my mouth. 8 Keep your way far from her And do not go near the door of her house, 9 Or you will give your vigor to others And your years to the cruel one; 10 And strangers will be filled with your strength And your hard-earned goods will go to the house of an alien;
What do your notice?
Who is speaking and to whom?
What is being conveyed?
It costs integrity, character, wealth.
Solomon pleads, stay away (5:7-8)
First reason, don’t give your honor to anyone else (5:9)
You don’t want others (aliens) to be filled with your wealth (5:10)
Think about this, adultery can lead to divorce, divorce can lead to child support, child support impacts your finances, your wealth.
How else do you think adultery can impact?
It can cost your physical health
11 And you mourn at last, When your flesh and your body are consumed,
Solomon gives second reason, your years will be cruel (5:9)
Your body and flesh are consumed (5:11)
Then there could be sexually transmitted diseases that can eat away at your body too.
It costs you your mental health
12 And you say, “How I have hated instruction! And my heart spurned reproof! 13 “I have not listened to the voice of my teachers, Nor inclined my ear to my instructors!
Who are the You, I, and my in this passage?
Who do you think the teachers, instructors are?
Self -recrimination (5:12-13)
The practice or habit of recriminating against oneself, of blaming or censuring oneself.
You will disregard what has been taught to you
There will be a remembrance of the cost, divorce, financial, physical with the family. Adultery impacts more than yourself.
Even you will berate your own stupidity.
16 “For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”
Think of it this way, breaking your covenant, physically/spiritually can eat away at your conscience. And part of your request at baptism was an appeal to God for a good, a clear conscience.
It costs you your reputation
14 I was on the verge of total ruin, In the midst of the assembly and congregation.”
What is the difference of assembly and congregation?
People do not look at adultery lightly, let me share a portion of scripture we will get more into on another study day.
27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned? 28 Or can a man walk on hot coals And his feet not be scorched? 29 So is the one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her will not go unpunished. 30 Men do not despise a thief if he steals To satisfy himself when he is hungry; 31 But when he is found, he must repay sevenfold; He must give all the substance of his house. 32 The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it. 33 Wounds and disgrace he will find, And his reproach will not be blotted out. 34 For jealousy enrages a man, And he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35 He will not accept any ransom, Nor will he be satisfied though you give many gifts.
Can a person be trusted who lies to his/her spouse?
Adultery destroy’s ones wealth, body, soul and reputation. But there is hope for there is forgiveness that is available
9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
But the act, the adultery has consequences throughout one’s life after that. There is forgiveness by God, but trust, reputation and character are damaged.
So, now what? Glad you asked for we are still not done. There are more verses to look at that can help prevent the problem physically and spiritually.
15 Drink water from your own cistern And fresh water from your own well. 16 Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be yours alone And not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. 20 For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress And embrace the bosom of a foreigner?
21 For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He watches all his paths. 22 His own iniquities will capture the wicked, And he will be held with the cords of his sin. 23 He will die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he will go astray.
In (vv.15-18) do you think this is literal or metaphorical? And of what?
(vv.18-19) gives some good instructions, what are they?
What do you see as the point in (v.21)?
Look at the consequences (v.22-23), what are they? Do you think they would be a good deterrent?
So, now grabbing from these verses.
Love your spouse
Rejoice with the wife of your youth (also see Ecc9:9)
9 Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.
Husbands love your wives (Eph5:25, 28)
Wives learn to love your husbands (TIt2:3-4)
Don’t be enraptured by an adulterous and seductress (v.20)
Enraptured: give intense pleasure or joy to.
A persons true character is revealed by their immorality
If they commit adultery with you, they would be more prone to commit adultery against you too.
Love the Lord (5:21-23)
For the Lord see’s all (15:3)
God will judge the fornicator (Heb13:4)
4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
You cannot hide your sins from God, sins will be exposed
23 “But if you will not do so, behold, you have sinned against the Lord, and be sure your sin will find you out.
How much better is it to just love the Lord since He loved you first? Love and be loyal to the Lord
He looks for loyalty
9 “For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His. You have acted foolishly in this. Indeed, from now on you will surely have wars.”
Examples like Joseph (Gen39:7-10)
And for Joseph he was rewarded for his faithfulness (Gen39:21, 41:50-52) you can look those up on your own.
Those who love the Lord foremost will love their spouses forever!
So, in review before we close
The promise of adultery is deceptive
Promises pleasure, delivers death and condemnation
The price of adultery is terrible
Don’t learn by experiance, there already have been too many for this that now the world has even softened it from sexual immorality, adultery to “having a fling” that sounds harmless doesn’t it?
The prevention of adultery is possible when our love is in the right place
Love the Lord with all your heart
Love you spouse with God’s blessings
Strong words of wisdom from Solomon to his son, may we learn, know, share with others so they don’t have the peril of adultery.
(Prayer)